I have an 18 yr old niece, 13 (today) year old nephew and an 8 yr old nephew.
The 18 yr old has a lap top, iPad and iPhone 5.
The 13 year old has the same as above, plus the latest PS and XBox.
The 8 yr old has a lap top and iPad.
Do you agree/disagree with them owning all these gadgets?
Me - Kristi, 30
DD - Leia, July 5 2008
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Personally, I think it is ridiculous.
Last year when my DD was 4 and in her first year of school, I remember parents discussing Christmas in the playground. It was 'I've got M a iPad Mini' and I remember thinking, WHY? What does a 4 year old need an iPad Mini for?! I was still buying dolls and prams for DD!
Personally, I think by getting your kids these gadgets it's creating a couch potato society. The 13 year old won't leave the house because all his friends are on their consoles, therefore he has noone to do anything with. The 8 year old isn't as bad and still loves playing out, but as soon as he comes in he's on a computer.
I have an iPhone and I let DD play on it, but only occasionally. I refuse to give in to peer pressure and want her to be little for as long as possible.
Me - Kristi, 30
DD - Leia, July 5 2008
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My daughter is 12. She has a tracfone and thats it and i have no intentions of getting her a smartphone anytime soon. Lots of her friends have iPhones or other smartphones though. I personally don't like the fact that they have the internet at their hands...you tube and such every minute of the day. But its the world we live in, so i try to talk to DD about whats on the internet, what is appropriate use of the internet and what is not. Because even though she doesn't have direct access to it, everyone she hangs out with does, so its not that different. My other option would be to put her in a bubble.
As for video game consoles, we have one, just a wii. Its for the whole family, not for any specific kid. I could see trading it in someday for something else as the kids get older....maybe. I discourage a lot of use of the wii though. For personal reasons, i will never own more than one video game console in the house at a time. But i mean....i don't really care if other people do, its really more about how much time you spend on them...not how many you have.
DH and I have discussed buying a laptop and/or an ipad for the kids...to share. Emma constantly has to borrow my computer for school papers and research. I don't like them playing on my computer because i use it for work. It would be good to have a family laptop that could be used for school work and for fun. We actually talked about maybe getting one tablet and one laptop. So that schoolwork can be done...and they could use the tablet for things like taking pictures and videos and stuff which is something they love to borrow my own, very expensive, smartphone for.
I don't see any reason why my kids would all need their own ipads or laptops at this point. I limit the time they spend on the computer or with screens...so sharing ONE laptop and/or ipad is plenty. They are capable of taking turns if need be.
For the record, my kids are 12, 10, 8, 6 and 3. It took us to the point with two kids being in double digits to consider buying these things.
We have our budget for what we buy the kids for gifts. Even if we combined, it wouldn't amount to an iPad. We have lots of electronic stuff around the house that my 5 year old is welcome to use as long as she takes care of it. Her interest is minimal (less than an hour a week) unless we are travelling and she isn't allowed to get up.
I would not buy something electronic over $100 for my kids but if they wanted to save for it, I would have no problem with my 13 year old buying an iPad or something similar.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
I got sick of taking text messages from DD's friends, and passing them on to her.. and then letting her take my phone to message them back. Or texting one of her friends moms, when DD is with them, instead of being able to text her directly. It was inconvenient to say the least. And really rather stupid. If she is using my phone to do all of this...then why not just get her her own?
To me, it really isn't about them owning the devices...its about creating expectations of how often they should be used and what for.
FTR, DS says he wants a phone too, but we haven't said yes yet. With DD it was proven that it would be useful for her to have one at this point, and at her age. With DS, it has not gotten to that yet. Big difference between the two of them, even if there is only 2 years difference.
At 18, I would say she could have what she could pay for. Many 18 year olds are in college and would need a computer. I have also seen the situation where MIL' s foster daughter always has her phone. That makes it so no one can contact MIL. In that situation, I think it would be better for her to have her own. As my children have gotten older, I can see how a child could collect technology. I am considering a kindle for my oldest for Christmas because there are so many good deals on ebooks. A better situation in my opinion in would be to limit the screen time.
We have some friends that they all have their own laptop, ipad and iphone (including the 8 year old) and they dont interact at night they are all in their bedrooms on their devices. It is not for me, or my family but it seems to be okay for them. One day last weekend the weather was horrible and we were all getting sick so the 3 girls and I all layed in my bed and we all read a book in one day, we werent interacting but I feel like we were connecting none the less
My 2 older girls have phones, but they pay for the monthly fee themselves and they are not willing right now to pay the extra $30 for a smart phone per month. We have a family desk top for when the kids want to use the computer but I can see our olders needing their own laptop soon. My 8th graders uses my laptop for homework almost every night now, I am sure high school will have even more homework
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson
Me: laptop, ipad 2, smart phone
DD17: laptop, ipad 1, smart phone
DD9: laptop, ipad 2, basic phone
I bought myself a laptop and ipad 2. The smartphone was a gift; I pay for the data plan
DD17's laptop was a gift; the ipad a hand-me-down when my mom got a new one; her smart phone was a birthday gift - she pays for the data plan and the deductible the 2 times shes had to make a claim on the insurnace
DD9's laptop and ipad were both gifts from her dad. Now he wants to get her an iphone 5S. He'll pay for the phone and the data plan. She'll be 10 in 2 months and this is really not a good idea for many reasons.
I have a 4 yr old and a 4 month old, but I can increasingly see this being an issue in coming years with our 4 year old. He plays on my phone, nook and our computer.
I think that we are going to have to make the decision to not bring in the technology for him to have as his own. I do like the idea of them having a phone around 8-10 years old, but only for calls to mom, dad and grandparents. Its a phone for use to us and not a seperate phone line for friends. For that they can use the house phone and obey the rules we set on time limits.
I think around 16 or so if they want to pay for a smart phone (or whatever technology will be around then) then it would be ok, but still with rules.
Having multiple computers may be neccessary for school work.
I saw some device that parents could put timers on gaming, surfing etc. I like that idea
I like technology, but it really distances us from one another. I'd like to instate a no phone rule in our house, but I think my hubby would go insane.
For the 18 year I have no issues.
Can i ask, what is the logic behind insisting that a cell phone is not okay for use to talk to friends, but a land line is acceptable. Is it just a concern about the financial costs of using the cell phone too much? Or is it something more?
I guess i don't understand what difference it makes what phone they use to talk to their friends.