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My three sons are 10, 12, and 15. Matt (12) and Tom (15) both have a cell phone, with Tom's being a smartphone. He does help pay towards the data plan, and since we have a family plan it's not that bad. All three boys do have laptops - Matt and Nathan got theirs for Christmas one year, and use it for school projects and homework assignments. Although now they generally just use our desktop since it's faster. Tom does a lot of advanced computer programs and video editing, so two years ago he just requested Best Buy gift cards for his birthday and Christmas, and saved up some of his own money to get a pretty sweet laptop. Almost all of his classwork is done on the computer or online, so for him it really is a necessity. Matt has an iPod he bought with birthday and Christmas money, and Nathan did the same thing to get an iPad mini. Honestly, they spent almost all of their time playing outside with their friends. We do limit how much they use any of those items, or the PS3, and they seem to be pretty well-rounded kiddos. As long as the electronics aren't ruling their lives, I'm okay with moderation.
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I don't insist that every conversation has to be "in front of me," only that they not be private. She doesn't get to close the doors and she doesn't get to go outside, and most of the time I actually ignore her, but sometimes yes, I do listen. I listen when I hear her voice getting agitated, or when the other person seems to be doing all the talking, and I especially listen when she's talking to one of the old bullies who are now supposedly friends. I also like being able to give her feedback on some basic good & thoughtful human being life skills. When I heard her tell a friend that she was sad the friend didn't pass an audition, I told her I was proud of her empathy. The friend not passing an audition might not have ever come up in dinner conversation, but I was happy to know that some of the things I've been trying to teach her really are sinking in!
To the second bold: Yes. I want my daughter to know that there are appropriate times to use a phone, whether for talking or texting or whatever, and there are times to put it away and to be sociable or polite. There's a reason why people use their phones at the dinner table, in the movie theater, and while driving. It's because their parents didn't teach them better.
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I see no reason for children to have high priced technology. And teens probably don't need most of it it either. A computer for school is one thing. But an Ipad, an Iphone and an Ipod. No. If they want it that badly than they need to earn it. Otherwise they won't have any respect for it. I am not spending that much money on something so easy to break.
DSD16 has been through probably 10 phones in the past 4 years. Her phones typically last less than 6 months (and once less than 1 month!) and then she breaks them. And her mother replaces them () She has no sense of responsibility for them because she is too young to own such things! Had she been forced to earn the money to replace them each time then maybe she would stop f-ing dropping them! (Sorry for being ranty, I am obviously still choked.)
We have decided that when DD is old enough to be able to be out and about on her own we will get her a cheap pay as you go phone for safety purposes. If she wants any other spendy technology she will have to earn it herself. I am not buying her ipads and things just to break them like her sister has. (Although she was given a leappad last christmas and has not dropped it once! Meanwhile her sister has been through 2 phones.)
I don't have any issue with family electronics. We do have a PS3, a lap top and a cheap tablet. There are rules about how much time is spent and such. We all share and they are owned by the parents.