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Hehe, me too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jessica80
I honestly am so so sad that this child was not returned the second that this was found out. Think of the trauma for this kid that wouldn't have happened as an infant. This poor man. And this awful woman. I think she should have criminal charges. As well as the adoption agency. Custodial interference or whatever.
So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.
It will, but as a kid who lived through childhood trauma the sooner it happens the better. The adoptive parents, the agency and the biological mother are all blame for this travesty.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers
The easiest way to avoid something like this from happening is having consent from both parents.
This child was kidnapped. Should Steven Stayner and Sean Hollenback have stayed with their kidnapper because it would be traumatic to go home?Quote:
Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers
She is young enough that she will get over it quickly as long as her daddy gives her lots of love which I am sure he will do since he is fighting so hard to get her.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers
Besides these people brought this on themselves, since they went ahead with the adoption knowing that her father didn't consent. I don't think you would be stupid enough to do that.
Oh I never said it wouldn't be traumatic. Just like any kid who is removed from a home they know. As I said, I have no doubt this family was awesome and loving but it's just not the right thing.
I missed it, but wasn't the adoption already final before the adoptive parents knew? I thought the article said 3 weeks after the adoption?
No they knew from the very beginning.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers
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Teleah was born March 1, 2011, more than two weeks premature, at Mountain View Hospital in Payson.
Two days later, Bland relinquished her parental rights and the infant was placed with the Freis. At the time, Bland claimed her husband had abandoned her and was not interested in raising the child, according to the ruling.
Bland told the Adoption Center of Choice it could reach her husband in Texas, though she knew he was in South Carolina and thus would not receive any legal notices sent to his former address. Bland also apparently withheld Achane’s telephone number from the agency and later claimed she did not contact him about the birth because her phone wasn’t working.
The adoption agency informed the Freis that the father did not know his daughter had been placed for adoption in Utah and it was likely he would contest the placement if he found out. The Freis, the judge noted in his ruling, "acknowledged this risk but decided they wanted to proceed forward with the adoptive placement anyway."
I do think this too, and my heart goes out to her as well as the father. I think they are both victims here, and it makes my heart ache to think of taking a baby away from loving parents in the only home she has ever known. I think that people tend to assume that because a very small child can't articulate their feelings, they don't feel things as strongly as we might. I think being taken away from her family (so far as she knows) will be as devastating for her as it would be for an older child who is able to say so. Heartbreaking.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers
Having said that, I think that in this case, she should be returned to her father. It wasn't his fault, and I don't think that we can ignore his parental rights. I hope that they are able to put together a loving and stable family once they are reunited, and move forward together.
Honestly, I actually feel bad for everyone in this case, including the adoptive parents. I don't think that they were trying to steal anyone's kid; they went through an adoption agency and did they everything that they were supposed to do, even if the mother and adoption agency did not. I know that they ignored the fact that he didn't consent, and that is therefore the risk they took, but I still feel sad for them. I can't imagine raising a child for two years, only to have to give her back. I think they are legally in the wrong, but I still feel sympathy for the pain they will have to go through.
Shame on the bio-mother, shame on the Freis, and shame on the state of Utah. They should all be charged with fraud, kidnapping, obstruction of justice, and the dad & daughter should get pain & suffering damages, as well.