Judge orders adopted baby returned to bio Dad - Page 2
+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 37
Like Tree18Likes

Thread: Judge orders adopted baby returned to bio Dad

  1. #11
    Posting Addict smsturner's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    Hamilton, NY
    Posts
    5,863

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica80 View Post
    On a lighter note, I am currently reading the 2nd article you posted Gloria and I had to chuckle when this man in the armed forces has the response to her being in Utah as "Where is Utah?" hahaha. Giggle of the day.
    Hehe, me too.

    I honestly am so so sad that this child was not returned the second that this was found out. Think of the trauma for this kid that wouldn't have happened as an infant. This poor man. And this awful woman. I think she should have criminal charges. As well as the adoption agency. Custodial interference or whatever.
    mom2robbie likes this.
    Susan, dh Tom, dd Megan, ds Marcus, ds #2 coming Feb, 2014

    Lilypie Maternity tickers

    I never knew until that moment how badly it could hurt to lose something you never really had. - Missed Miscarriage at 10 weeks - 3/26

  2. #12
    Community Host
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Posts
    13,553

    Default

    So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.

    ~Bonita~

  3. #13
    Posting Addict mom2robbie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    Edmonton, Alberta
    Posts
    5,822

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.
    It will, but as a kid who lived through childhood trauma the sooner it happens the better. The adoptive parents, the agency and the biological mother are all blame for this travesty.

    The easiest way to avoid something like this from happening is having consent from both parents.
    Sapphire Sunsets and Spacers like this.
    Margaret (44)
    Sean (38 )
    Robbie (8 )
    Bailey (April 2, 2011)


    "The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss

  4. #14
    Posting Addict
    Join Date
    Apr 2003
    Posts
    7,272

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.
    This child was kidnapped. Should Steven Stayner and Sean Hollenback have stayed with their kidnapper because it would be traumatic to go home?
    Spacers likes this.

  5. #15
    Posting Addict GloriaInTX's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Location
    Dallas, TX
    Posts
    7,600

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.
    She is young enough that she will get over it quickly as long as her daddy gives her lots of love which I am sure he will do since he is fighting so hard to get her.

    Besides these people brought this on themselves, since they went ahead with the adoption knowing that her father didn't consent. I don't think you would be stupid enough to do that.
    Last edited by GloriaInTX; 12-05-2012 at 07:50 PM.
    Mom to Lee, Jake, Brandon, Rocco
    Stepmom to Ryan, Regan, Braden, Baley
    Granddaughters Kylie 10/18/2010 & Aleya 4/22/2013


    I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson

  6. #16
    Prolific Poster
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Posts
    2,219

    Default

    Oh I never said it wouldn't be traumatic. Just like any kid who is removed from a home they know. As I said, I have no doubt this family was awesome and loving but it's just not the right thing.

  7. #17
    Community Host
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Posts
    13,553

    Default

    I missed it, but wasn't the adoption already final before the adoptive parents knew? I thought the article said 3 weeks after the adoption?

    ~Bonita~

  8. #18
    Posting Addict GloriaInTX's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Location
    Dallas, TX
    Posts
    7,600

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I missed it, but wasn't the adoption already final before the adoptive parents knew? I thought the article said 3 weeks after the adoption?
    No they knew from the very beginning.

    Teleah was born March 1, 2011, more than two weeks premature, at Mountain View Hospital in Payson.
    Two days later, Bland relinquished her parental rights and the infant was placed with the Freis. At the time, Bland claimed her husband had abandoned her and was not interested in raising the child, according to the ruling.

    Bland told the Adoption Center of Choice it could reach her husband in Texas, though she knew he was in South Carolina and thus would not receive any legal notices sent to his former address. Bland also apparently withheld Achane’s telephone number from the agency and later claimed she did not contact him about the birth because her phone wasn’t working.

    The adoption agency informed the Freis that the father did not know his daughter had been placed for adoption in Utah and it was likely he would contest the placement if he found out. The Freis, the judge noted in his ruling, "acknowledged this risk but decided they wanted to proceed forward with the adoptive placement anyway."
    Mom to Lee, Jake, Brandon, Rocco
    Stepmom to Ryan, Regan, Braden, Baley
    Granddaughters Kylie 10/18/2010 & Aleya 4/22/2013


    I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson

  9. #19
    Community Host Alissa_Sal's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Debating Away on the Debate Board!
    Posts
    11,771

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    So am I the only one who thinks it would be traumatic on the part of the baby to remove it from the only home she has ever known? It is not her fault that there was a mix up with the adoption. Stories like this make me afraid to adopt.
    I do think this too, and my heart goes out to her as well as the father. I think they are both victims here, and it makes my heart ache to think of taking a baby away from loving parents in the only home she has ever known. I think that people tend to assume that because a very small child can't articulate their feelings, they don't feel things as strongly as we might. I think being taken away from her family (so far as she knows) will be as devastating for her as it would be for an older child who is able to say so. Heartbreaking.

    Having said that, I think that in this case, she should be returned to her father. It wasn't his fault, and I don't think that we can ignore his parental rights. I hope that they are able to put together a loving and stable family once they are reunited, and move forward together.

    Honestly, I actually feel bad for everyone in this case, including the adoptive parents. I don't think that they were trying to steal anyone's kid; they went through an adoption agency and did they everything that they were supposed to do, even if the mother and adoption agency did not. I know that they ignored the fact that he didn't consent, and that is therefore the risk they took, but I still feel sad for them. I can't imagine raising a child for two years, only to have to give her back. I think they are legally in the wrong, but I still feel sympathy for the pain they will have to go through.
    SID081108 likes this.
    -Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)

    Got an opinion? We've got a board! Come join us for some lively debate on the Face Off! Debate Arena board.

  10. #20
    Posting Addict Spacers's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2003
    Location
    My avatar is the tai chi -- a symbol of the eternal cycle of life
    Posts
    16,500

    Default

    Shame on the bio-mother, shame on the Freis, and shame on the state of Utah. They should all be charged with fraud, kidnapping, obstruction of justice, and the dad & daughter should get pain & suffering damages, as well.
    David Letterman is retiring. Such great memories of watching him over the past thirty-two years!

+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
v -->

About Us | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Sitemap | Terms & Conditions