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    They knew for SURE by the time the baby was 3 months old that he was contesting the adoption and they just ignored it. If their lawyers didn't tell them that they had no chance of winning when the father and mother were married when the baby was born they were neglectful. I'm sure that they did love her but the transition would have been much easier at 3 months than 2 years old. I think that was very selfish on their part to continue holding on to her at the point that they knew the father wanted her.

    In June 2011, Bland for the first time informed her husband she had given birth in Utah and placed the child through the Adoption Center of Choice.

    "I was like, ‘Utah? Where is Utah?’ I’d never been to Utah, she’s never been to Utah," he said. "Adoption? Who does that? ... I believe she felt guilty at that point because she just made a call out of the blue," said Achane.

    That same day, Achane contacted the adoption agency and requested information about his child, which the agency refused to give him.
    An attorney later contacted Achane, confirmed an adoption was in process and asked for his consent. Achane refused and told the attorney he wanted his daughter returned to him.

    Instead, the Freis proceeded with the adoption. In their adoption petition, filed in July 2011, the couple acknowledged Achane was married to Bland when the child was conceived and born and that he had never consented to the adoption. They asked that his parental rights be terminated because he "abandoned the natural mother during her pregnancy" and "had not developed a substantial relationship" or otherwise taken responsibility for his daughter.
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    I agree that they should have given her back at that time, however heart wrenching it would have been then.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    It is clear now that he wants to keep the child, but doubtful that was clear when they took that baby home. I do not believe the adoptive family are kidnappers. I believe they are victims that will be in pain for a long time. It is the adoption agency's fault for adopting out a baby without both parents having signed off.
    It is absolutely clear that this man wanted this child. Mom got pregnant in June, dad was in Texas with her attending prenatal appointments until January when he had to move under military orders. Mom wanted to stay with family in Texas until baby was born. Dad was approved for a 10-day leave to return to Texas when the baby was born, expecting to bring his wife & baby back to South Carolina with him. Contrary to the mom's claim of abandonment, he continued paying her bills while he was gone! In mid-March, unable to reach his wife, he asks friends in Texas to check on her and finds out that she's no longer pregnant but no one knows where the baby is. In June, wife tells him that the baby was adopted in Utah. The very same day, within two months of the baby's birth, he calls the adoption agency and demands information about his baby, which the agency refused to give him. This family knew 18 months ago that the biological father was making a claim for her, and they have drawn this case out, refusing to give his daughter to him, since then. That *is* kidnapping IMHO.

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    I do think that something really needs to be done about the time it takes these cases to get through the courts and red tape. IMO it is ridiculous that it took over a year in this case even for a hearing! When children are involved a year can make a big difference. My sister just finalized the adoption of her own granddaughter and even though they told them they wanted her within a week of her birth, since she was put into foster care first it took 10 months before they could even get her out of foster care and take her home. And this was even though the mother's rights were terminated at birth and the father, her son consented to the adoption. (The mother has mental problems and already had other children removed so the state took custody at birth and wouldn't let her son have custody because they were still living together.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    It is absolutely clear that this man wanted this child. Mom got pregnant in June, dad was in Texas with her attending prenatal appointments until January when he had to move under military orders. Mom wanted to stay with family in Texas until baby was born. Dad was approved for a 10-day leave to return to Texas when the baby was born, expecting to bring his wife & baby back to South Carolina with him. Contrary to the mom's claim of abandonment, he continued paying her bills while he was gone! In mid-March, unable to reach his wife, he asks friends in Texas to check on her and finds out that she's no longer pregnant but no one knows where the baby is. In June, wife tells him that the baby was adopted in Utah. The very same day, within two months of the baby's birth, he calls the adoption agency and demands information about his baby, which the agency refused to give him. This family knew 18 months ago that the biological father was making a claim for her, and they have drawn this case out, refusing to give his daughter to him, since then. That *is* kidnapping IMHO.

    Father is ready to turn page on Utah adoption horror story | The Salt Lake Tribune
    Do you honestly believe that the adoptive parents had all of this information when the baby was placed with them?? We have no way of knowing for sure, but I doubt it. I'm honestly in no way trying to call them blameless, but I think calling them kidnappers is a bit harsh. I place much more blame on the adoption agency (and of course the birth mother), who would have had much more access to the facts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SID081108 View Post
    Do you honestly believe that the adoptive parents had all of this information when the baby was placed with them?? We have no way of knowing for sure, but I doubt it. I'm honestly in no way trying to call them blameless, but I think calling them kidnappers is a bit harsh. I place much more blame on the adoption agency (and of course the birth mother), who would have had much more access to the facts.
    Yes, I do honestly believe that. The court case shows that the adoption agency told them at the beginning that not only was the father unaware of the birth, he was likely to not consent. They just hoped that, being in Utah, they could get the baby legally adopted before he found out and that, even if he did find out, the courts of Utah seem to be rallied pretty well against bio-dads so they figured it was a done deal as long as the mom consented. There are literally dozens of bio-dads right now trying to fight adoptions just like this one. And when they found out at 3 months that he wanted his baby, and they didn't hand her over, they became kidnappers. I'm not saying the bio-mom or agency aren't to blame, they absolutely are, but the adoptive parents are the ones who could have stopped this either at the beginning or at 3 months.
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    My husband and I watched the news story about this on CNN this weekend where the bio dad was interviewed. My husband said the same thing, even with regard to the friend of mine who currently has a baby placed. He said the moment it is clear that both parents have not consented, the baby should not be considered adoptable. I'm not sure I see it as that clear cut, given the facts in my friend's case, but I really did feel for this bio dad after I saw this interview. And the bio mom was interviewed, too, and she cried and said "I would rather have my baby struggling with me then see her with him" I wonder why she hates him so much?? Sad story.
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