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    Newly-wed and soon-to-be-divorced Kim Kardashian probably hasn't even had time to open the hundreds of wedding presents that she and Kris Humphries were given for their spectacular August 20 wedding, and now they have officially split there is the dilemma of what to do with the gifts.

    "When it comes to wedding gifts, polite protocol deems that if the marriage lasts less that six months then they should definitely be returned to the buyer," Lizzie Post, co-author of Emily Post Etiquette, 18th Edition told RadarOnline.com in an exclusive interview.

    As RadarOnline.com previously reported, Kim filed for divorce from the New Jersey Nets player on Monday, citing "irreconcilable differences."


    The short-lived couple's gift registry at Geary of Beverly Hills alone added up to $172 million and included a $7,850 Baccarat crystal vase and $38,400 worth of Torchon dinnerware. They were also registered at the more practical houseware store, Williams-Sonoma.

    "She should add a note saying: 'Thank you for your love and support, we have decided to end our marriage and we wanted to return this gift to you,'" said Post, adding that they should also make sure that any store credits go back to the person who bought the present.


    "The only exception is if they were personally monogrammed or had been used," she added.

    Considering they were only married 72 days, many of the gifts probably haven't even taken them out of the boxes!

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    "If there are guests who haven't sent a gift yet - they have until three months after the wedding before it's considered rude - then they are now off the hook and don't have to."

    But, when it comes to Kim's $2 million, 20.5-carat Lorraine Schwartz ring though, that's hers to keep as a souvenir of her short-lived marriage.

    "Technically the ring is a promise to get married and she did that, so she should not have to give it back," explained the etiquette expert. "It is hers now so she can do with it whatever she wants."

    Now the marriage is over, the next step is dealing with the emotional pitfalls of the subsequent divorce.
    I'm sure your world was rocked and you spent the day crying into your tissues over the news that Kim Kardashian's 10million dollar wedding joke is over, 72 days post marriage.

    Should she keep the ring? Should she return the gifts? If you went to a wedding and the marriage lasted less than 3 months, would you expect your gift back?

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    She should return them, but I seriously doubt most people will expect them back let alone ask for them.

    I thought she bought the ring so she should definitely keep it.

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    72 days? Is that even a marriage?
    She should return everything and go hide out for awhile.

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    Just for you melis, I have gotten out of my Kardashian depression, wiped my eyes enough just to see the screen, so I can respond to your post. Only for you.

    Any moron who paid money for a gift thinking they would be married for more then a week doesn;t deserve their gify back. I say she keeps them all an teaches them a lesson.

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    Return the gifts, keep the ring

    This whole this is just sad. How do you not discuss where you want to live as a married couple BEFORE you get married???? He wants to raise kids in Minnesota, she want to stay in California, how do you not at least know that before "I do"? I hate to think it was for publicity because for all their 'reality' faults, they do seem to truly love their family unit.
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    I tend to agree with Lana on this one - did anyone who got her a gift actually expect it to last anyway?

    Having said that, what if the couple in question wasn't Kim K and whatshisface? What if they were seemingly nice, normal people that you knew well enough to go to their wedding, but not well enough to know the inner workings of their relationship?

    I had a coworker that I was friendly with at work who got married. We went to the wedding, and got them a gift. I think she was married longer than 72 days, but it couldn't have been longer than 6 months. We did not get the gift back, and I'm sure no one else did either. The whole thing just felt...awkward. In that case, is the couple supposed to give the gifts back?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    Having said that, what if the couple in question wasn't Kim K and whatshisface? What if they were seemingly nice, normal people that you knew well enough to go to their wedding, but not well enough to know the inner workings of their relationship?

    I had a coworker that I was friendly with at work who got married. We went to the wedding, and got them a gift. I think she was married longer than 72 days, but it couldn't have been longer than 6 months. We did not get the gift back, and I'm sure no one else did either. The whole thing just felt...awkward. In that case, is the couple supposed to give the gifts back?
    I think the rule still applies no matter who. If the gift is unopened/unused than it should be returned.

    If the girl went through with the marriage, the ring is hers. If she breaks off the engagement, she should return the ring.
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    I don't agree with the notion that just going through with the wedding means that keeping the ring is the right thing to do. Both in general and especially in the case of a family heirloom. Honestly if I got married and served my spouse divorce papers (my choice) two months later I would feel like a real jerk keeping the ring.

    I also think that returning the gifts is the right thing to do...if you are a Kardashian or just suzie normal who happened to make a disastrously bad decision.

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    Anyone who ends up with such a short-lived should return the gifts.

    I also think she should give back the ring.

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    The whole notion of keeping the ring seems very odd to me too. It's all very "payment for your virginity" to me. The way that I see my engagement/wedding ring is as a symbol of my marriage to my DH and a symbol of his love for me. I can't imagine that I would be able to wear it if our marriage dissolved, so what would I do with it? Now that we have a child, I think I would keep it for him if DH and I ever got divorced - he could give it to his future wife if he wanted, or sell it or whatever. But pre-child? I can't imagine even wanting it after a divorce. Granted, my ring wasn't worth $2MM. I might feel a little more mercenary about the whole thing if we were talking about larger sums of money.
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