My conversation on another board reminded me of this question I wanted to debate.
During the midnight - wee hour outings for Black Friday shopping, I noticed many more kids out with parents. I'm sure that part of that may have been driven by earlier than normal shopping hours at other stores and then parents simply didn't go home. Most of the kids appeared to be exhausted and cranky.
My kids have expressed a desire to go out but dh and I have remained firm that they stay home with him (except the older ones that have to work.)
I'm curious though whether my train of thought is in the minority. While I don't consider taking kids to the early bird (overnight) Black Friday shopping sprees to be abusive, I don't think that it is in their best interest. (My personal reasons are #1 that I don't want to deal with them being irritable throughout the rest of the day/weekend; and #2 -- because I would be shopping for our family and don't want them to see. LOL)
Do you think that kids should be dragged along for these shopping sprees or should parents figure out another plan? If you disagree, at what age do you believe that they should be allowed to go?
I saw several young children out as well. There is no way I would take my boys (9 & 11) with me if I was going to be out past 10:00 pm or so. My oldest son (14) could probably make it past midnight, but I wouldn't want to keep him out much past that. Honestly, it wouldn't be enjoyable for any of us. Huge crowds + tired, hungry, cranky kids = not happening!
Carolyn - 37
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Mom to Tom - 15
Nathan - 10
I don't think it's safe. I would be terrified they'd get swept up in a crowd.
DD1 loves it! I told her she and DD2 were staying at Gma & Gpa's house. She wanted to go. As "luck" would have it, I got all the stuff I needed online! Everything - Air Hogs, board games, ipod (for me) with gift card. No need to go anywhere!
Until I ran out of conditioner. Had to go to Target. No problem. No lines, not crowded. Even lighter than my Sunday 8 AM weekly trips.
Went to lunch, not crowded at all. The busiest store was Bath & Body Works.
Last year we went at about 4 - 5AM. (Just my then 15-YO and me). Again, no lines, not crowded, and got awesome deals!
So yes, I would take my children out to weather BF. I have good memories of my mom and I making the rounds. Lot more crowded before online shopping.
Keeping my kids out late doesn't bother me.
When I worked in retail I remember the customers being very rude to each other, I wouldnt want my kids to see that
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson
My oldest (7) begged to go this year but there's no way I'd take her along. For starters, I'm out buying her Christmas presents so it wouldn't make sense for her to be with me. Not only that, but there's just too many people to worry about keeping my little one right beside me. I don't have a problem with her being out late, but I do have a problem with her being in crowds of pushy people.
I would maybe take a pre teen/teenager when the time comes but I don't BF shop anyway.
I would never take my 4/2 year olds and I heard a lot of that. Stores can't open here until 12 or 1 on Friday so it's abusive.
Although, one year when dd1 was a baby she went through a spurt of not going to bed until 1-2am due to teething so we stayed out late shopping. It wasn't BF though.
I am bothered by the super early crazy fighting 'i must be the first one in!' Bf shopping... I've never been able to really decide why. Maybe it feels greedy? Or just lack of manners and kindness?
Anyway. Marcus would never tolerate a loud crowd like that. He would melt. Megan would love it, but she's almost 13. I wouldn't take a small one to it ever. I would be too worried about them.
I can't imagine my kids wanting to be part of that, or me wanting to be part of it. I don't really like shopping anyway and to enjoy it, I'd definitely have to be somewhere that was NOT crowded. That's why I love online shopping.
I think taking little kids out to midnight sales where people are acting crazy and aggressive doesn't sound like a very good idea.
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