I think it's my frugal nature. I saved so much money this weekend on all the Christmas gifts I bought. I definitely splurged a bit on myself also. Things I was in the market for anyway had buy-one-get-one for $1. $10 off here a $40 gift card there and free shipping everywhere really adds up. Plus my bank was having extra cash-back specials. I don't consider myself greedy just cheap.
We don't have BF in the same way with midnight openings but there was still a big sale. We had to go to walmart for groceries and even though it wasn't that crazy I didn't want to take DD with us. The last thing I need is to try and keep track of a 4 year old while dealing with a grumpy crowd. If it was a midnight opening I wouldn't take her for a long time yet.
I do not take my children with me when I go Black Friday shopping. They stay home with DH. I do however, feel bad for the single mom's that do not have a DH. Either they have to bring their children with them or not go. If they do choose to go, they have every random stranger that does not know their circumstances calling them abusive. I can easily picture a single mom who works 50 hours a week just to make ends meat that really badly wants to get their child something special for Christmas. The only way they could possibly afford to get the gift is to go on Black Friday when it is deeply discounted.
While it is not something I do myself, it is definitely not what I would call abuse. I think you could easily have your child take a nap earlier in the day to make up for staying up late. As for keeping them with you, I would put my children in the shopping cart if I was worried about them being apart from me, or in the case of a baby, you wear them on you in a wrap.
As for being out late, I do not think once or twice a year is abusive. What about New Years Eve? Is it abusive to let a young child stay up late one day a year? Or the Super Bowl? I think it takes a lot out of the word abusive to call something this trivial abuse.
No way. I can't think of many things more masochistic than that. I would rather a root canal, with no freezing. I don't mind the mall by myself, at like 10:00 am on a Tuesday , but kids + midnight + insane crowds = My Personal Hell
I would never, ever take a small child BF shopping because it sounds just awful for everyone involved, including me. Keep in mind though, that I think that any sort of BF shopping sounds awful (I HATE crowds like that) so the idea of having a small child with me really only compounds the horror.
Having said that, I agree with Bonita that calling it "abusive" is really trivializing the concept of "abuse." It may not be a total A+ parenting move, but keeping your kids out late one night out of the year isn't really my idea of abuse either. I don't know about the rest of you, but I don't always bring my A+ parenting either. I don't take my kid BF shopping, but I do let him keep his coat in the car when it's really cold () so I'm familiar with less than A+ parenting techniques. LOL
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There are many people who don't have the resources to just leave their kids home. They may not have friends or family close to watch the kids. I have been in that situation so I wouldn't blame anyone taking their kids because I don't know the reasons behind it.
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I guess to me, there's just nothing that important, as I said before I would consider it if it was a very limited toy but with the internet nowadays I'm assuming you could find it somewhere.
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