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Kids and dogs

You're at someone else's home and their 5-year-old son, who is known to be quite rowdy, is playing with their dog, who is also known to be quite rowdy, having never been properly trained. The boy begins to pull on the dogs ears, from behind, and then tackles the dog, again from behind, and rolls with the dog over & over across the floor. Would you say something to the boy? Would it matter if his mother is in the room and she didn't say anything? Would it matter if they were family, does that make it more important to say something, or more important to stay quiet?

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I would think it would depend on your relationship with the child/his parents. If I was with my sister and her kids and I noticed her kids doing something that she was not noticing, I would feel free to correct them or say something. This would go for all misbehavior. If it was my brother and his kids, I might be more reluctant to say something because the relationship is not as strong. It would also depend on the misbehavior. If another child out and out slapped my child right in front of me, I am going to say something regardless of who's child it is. If it was a behavior that I would not necessarily let my child do, but not a huge deal, I would probably let it go.

I do not know a ton about dogs, so I am not sure about the seriousness of the particular situation you mentioned.

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I would talk to the parent instead of the kid.

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If this is happening in front of me, I would say something to the child - he probably doesn't like his tail pulled.

I was bitten by a dog the year I turned 11. It was completely unprovoked. I was delivering AVON books and the dog just walked up, bit my leg (broke the skin) and walked off. It wasn't a big deal; I still have the scar. Unfortunately, my uncle had a dog who bit a child on the face. I was young, but I think the dog threw up and the child rub his face in it. The boy had a scar on his face.

Dogs are unpredictable. The boy is 5. I would feel so awful if something did happen. Especially in front of me.

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"ethanwinfield" wrote:

If this is happening in front of me, I would say something to the child - he probably doesn't like his tail pulled.

I was bitten by a dog the year I turned 11. It was completely unprovoked. I was delivering AVON books and the dog just walked up, bit my leg (broke the skin) and walked off. It wasn't a big deal; I still have the scar. Unfortunately, my uncle had a dog who bit a child on the face. I was young, but I think the dog threw up and the child rub his face in it. The boy had a scar on his face.

Dogs are unpredictable. The boy is 5. I would feel so awful if something did happen. Especially in front of me.

If I thought the child was in danger from the behavior, I would not worry about offending someone. I would just say something.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

If I thought the child was in danger from the behavior, I would not worry about offending someone. I would just say something.

IMHO an untrained dog always has the potential to be dangerous, and especially when being handled roughly, so I said something. ("You need to be more gentle with that dog or she might bite you.") And then my sister & older nephew both jumped on me about how "their dogs don't bite," "these dogs are part of our family & would never hurt him," meaning my younger nephew, and how my family & I are "dog-haters." So that was the end of our Christmas morning. Sad Does anyone really think their dog doesn't bite? That's what dogs do, it's how they establish their place in the pack, and it's what they do when hurt or scared or angry. I'd rather have a sister ticked off at me than have a child I love scarred for life by a dog that he hadn't been taught how to play with properly, and that hadn't been taught to behave properly.

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I have 2 of the most gentle dogs I have ever met, but I would never say that they wouldnt ever bite. Dogs are animals, with natural instincts, so there is no guarantee. We teach our kids to be gentle with them, and we also teach them what proper way to treat them when they are eating or resting (plenty of times I have walked in to see Ds laying on our male and "reading" to him)

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

If I thought the child was in danger from the behavior, I would not worry about offending someone. I would just say something.

Same here. Or if I thought the dog was being hurt.

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My sister I would say something.
A friend if they are looking and I thought that the Dog or child in danger I would talk to parent. If parent not looking I would say something.

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I had another dog incident last night! At our local park, the grassy area is generally taken over by dogs in the evening, owners let them off-leash to run all around, but there is a gated play area for kids where dogs are not allowed. There is a sign on the gate -- no alcohol, no smoking, no dogs, etc. So last night my kids & I go bopping into the play area and an unleashed dog ran over to Weston. Weston did what I've told him to do with a strange dog, which is to stand still and be quiet. The dog seemed friendly enough, laid down & gave Weston her belly for a rub. After Weston petted the dog, I told her owner that it was very irresponsible of him to have her in the play area, especially without her leash, not to mention it was illegal. He said, "Oh, she's friendly, she never hurts anyone." And that's when I got furious and told him what I think about irresponsible dog owners. So once again, I was labeled a dog-hater and his child was told, quite loudly, that it was all my fault that they had to leave the park early. Sad

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I HATE off leash dogs at a human playground with posted "no dogs allowed or "no off-leash dogs". Yes, your dog may be the sweetest dog in the world, but I don't know him, so I assume the worst. And some children are afraid of dogs. And sometimes, when provoked dogs can behave out of character for them. I have been known to call the non-emergency police number to report unleashed dogs at the park, especially for dogs that seem aggressive. (The puppy Yorkie that's off leash, I'll generally ignore, but the German Shepard that outweighs ALL my kids, that one gets a call)

I don't mind leashed dogs at the same park. At least the owner can (hopefully) remain in control of their dog.

You said the right thing at Christmas. Too bad your sister is stupid about it.

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I hate irresponsible dog owners! Like you said, I don't know your dog so keep it away from my child!

As for telling the child, I would probably mention something but not in an authoritive way, unless it was a relation of mine.

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Nothing more to contribute but wanted to say "Hi Kristi!"