I think it is fine. We take the kids out for special reasons-- this year they missed 2 days so that we could take a whole family trip to the Midwest for Thanksgiving. And we'll take them out for a full week in May to spend a week at the beach as a family.
I think they learn just as much, if not more, with us for a week. They'll spend time with grandparents, reading, learning about the ocean, biology, we go to an aquarium, spend time on a boat, see a different part of the country, fly on an airplane, etc.
While it may not be measured on a test, it is learning, that IMO is just as important as the book stuff.
Were my children not thriving academically, I may take a different stance. And were the eldest older than 4th grade, it might skew my perspective. But at this point, it doesn't even give me pause.
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12
We let our kids age 10 and 13 take a "personal" day once before Christmas break and once after. They can't have tests or projects due. I think it is important to have some down time to enjoy life. We are not overly structured and my kids seem to do better because of it.
Jace has only missed one day of school due to me having an appendectomy. He likes going to school and the YMCA before and after school so me letting him miss a day of school here and there would piss him off, lol. If I drop him off later in the morning where he cannot go to the YMCA before school care, he gets really disappointed because they do a lot of activities, play with toys, run around etc. After school he actually does his homework there and it's really cute because kids in higher grades help him and when I look over the work later at home I make sure he understood everything he did and what they showed him. We experience a lot of life during the weekends and having consistent attendance at school is important to me. I don't see anything wrong with any above examples, though. If in the future we plan a Disney trip and its cheaper to miss some school days, then I would allow it.
This just came up with one of my students today. Her mother kept her home from school yesterday and took her to Disney for some mother-daughter bonding time. While I think that is a lovely idea, this particular child is likely going to be retained because she is struggling to keep up academically. If your kid is struggling and not meeting the state standards, their behind better be at school unless they are seriously ill. But that's just my opinion.....
My ten year old really struggles with school. He is in special math and reading classes. While I am sure the two days a year we let him skip is not helping his schooling, it is helping him bond to us which I think will be far more important in the years to come. Everyone needs a mental health day.
Funny story. I went to pick DD up,and surprised her just when lunch started. She was happy to see me, gave me a big hug. Then I asked if she wanted to come with me. Her response....no! She wanted to stay at school until I spilled the beans that we were going swimming.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
As a parent I feel it is my job to do everything I can to help my children succeed. If my kids are struggling in school then it is my duty to make sure they are there on time and ready to learn every day so they can receive the instruction they need to master the required skills. I don't see how a fun day at a water park is more beneficial for them than maximizing their education.