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Pedicures/manicures for children... yay or nay?

I got my second pedicure ever, the other day. Jace got one too:) I asked if he wanted nail polish, but he didn't. He really enjoyed the massage (the kid has loved massages since he was a newborn, lol)

When I mentioned it to some people, they looked at me like I had 20439588 heads. I didn't see a big deal with a little boy getting his toenails clipped, filed, feet soaked, and a massage.

Whaddya think? If your child wanted one too, would you let them?

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Yes, I think they're great for kids! I plan to make it a point of doing pedicures/manicures for my kids. It's more than just pretty polish. It's good maintenance. I'm a professional esthetician though, so I can do them at home. I might not bother so much, if I weren't, but I'm kind of big on foot health. I had my toenail surgically removed at 12 years old cause of improper foot care and since then I've been a stickler. Ouchies!!

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At this age I wouldn't be taking my kids into a salon or anything. I pay pretty good attention to their feet at home - clipping, lotion, etc. When DD gets older and wants to have a girly day with mom we'll maybe go and have a pedi together. DS, about a year ago, got toenail fungus on one toe and he saw a podiatrist for that (no other doctor seemed at all bothered by it or offered any kind of treatment). His nail needs a gentle filing and special cream before bed, and because of this routine I'm pretty attentive to the rest of his feet, as well as DD's.

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Is the question about kids or boys?

Kids...depends on the age. I have been to a salon where they accidentally cut my cuticle then put a styptic powder to stop the bleeding and it hurt like a m-f. Plus I can't see paying money for something I can do myself. So I'd let my DD go if she wanted for a special occasion, but on a regular basis? No. I do her nails.

As for boys, no I would not take them unless they specifically asked and I could tell it was something the really wanted. I think by the age they are able to talk enough and comprehend what a salon is, a parent would know if it was something the really wanted done. Just as wrong as it would be to push an agenda of strict gender roles, it would be just as wrong to push an agenda of extreme role reversal.

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"culturedmom" wrote:

Is the question about kids or boys?

Kids...depends on the age. I have been to a salon where they accidentally cut my cuticle then put a styptic powder to stop the bleeding and it hurt like a m-f. Plus I can't see paying money for something I can do myself. So I'd let my DD go if she wanted for a special occasion, but on a regular basis? No. I do her nails.

As for boys, no I would not take them unless they specifically asked and I could tell it was something the really wanted. I think by the age they are able to talk enough and comprehend what a salon is, a parent would know if it was something the really wanted done. Just as wrong as it would be to push an agenda of strict gender roles, it would be just as wrong to push an agenda of extreme role reversal.

I agree with you mostly. But one question I have is, is why do you need to wait until a boy asks to go with you? Kids go to places all the time without having to ask their parents. He specifically didn't ask to go, I picked him up from school and we went together as a last minute decision. Otherwise, he would never know what a pedicure is so I don't think he would ever ask. He is a patient child when it comes to going to places and he was sitting next to me and he seemed interested. I asked him if he wanted one and he said yes.

So unless a boy even knows what a pedicure is or has been to a nail salon with mom or dad, I guess I don't feel like they would think of asking at all unless exposed. I hope I made sense:)

As for role reversal, a lot of men enjoy getting massages, pedicures, manicures, waxing, etc. Maybe not at common as women, but it's one of those things I feel like isn't particularly dedicated to one gender anymore.

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"culturedmom" wrote:

Is the question about kids or boys?

Kids...depends on the age. I have been to a salon where they accidentally cut my cuticle then put a styptic powder to stop the bleeding and it hurt like a m-f. Plus I can't see paying money for something I can do myself. So I'd let my DD go if she wanted for a special occasion, but on a regular basis? No. I do her nails.

As for boys, no I would not take them unless they specifically asked and I could tell it was something the really wanted. I think by the age they are able to talk enough and comprehend what a salon is, a parent would know if it was something the really wanted done. Just as wrong as it would be to push an agenda of strict gender roles, it would be just as wrong to push an agenda of extreme role reversal.

Are you saying foot care on a boy/man extreme gender role reversal? I could see polish as something that is considered more female, but just a plain pedi?

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I've only had my own done once, and it was a gals thing for my birthday. So no I wouldn't take a child to get nails hands or feet done, But it most a $ issue than anything. I have NEVER had my fingernails professionally done.

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I'd definitely take my girls for a pedicure but probably not a manicure at this age (they are 4 & 6). I don't mind them wearing toenail polish but I'm not so big on fingernail polish for little girls. Just a personal dislike I guess. I don't have a son, but if I did I couldn't imagine taking him to the salon for a mani/pedi.

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Jace looks so cute and happy!

I can't wait to take my daughter for a pedicure, she's too little right now but maybe in another year or so. Even now, I don't prefer nail polish on her. It gets chipped so easily and requires to much care. We lotion everynight and I give her a little foot massage. I would even take my son (if I had one), I don't see it any different...it's good foot care!

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The place I get my kids hair cut is also a kids spa. They do all sorts of treatments for kids. I dont think it is weird at all, but if I was to get my kids done I would do it at an adult place where I could get mine dont too! It sounds like just a fun thing to do with the kids.

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aww, that is a cute pic!

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Looks like Jace enjoyed it. We wouldn't do it for either boy or girl because of money and the chemicals. I'm too cheap to go for a pedicure and manicure except for really special occasions for myself, so can't see myself wasting money on my kid.

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I'd take my daughter for a special treat, she is 3 and might enjoy it (though honestly I see it tickling her so a mani might be a better option for her). I actually am going to take her with my Mom and Sister next month as we celebrate a new baby about to arrive with a girls day.

I can't see my son asking to go, I would not offer to him like I would to my daughter, but if he somehow had some strong urge to get a pedicure I guess I'd take him once, though he would not get polish because to me that would be weird.

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Sure why not. A nail care and massage is nice for anyone - boy or girl. There is a kids salon here that does them. I wouldn't pay for it until she is older though. But now she like having her toenails done (won't do fingers in case she chips it with her teeth). She thinks it is great to have painted toes. I am happy to do it. Its fun.

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Ooh, I would take my kids. I would be more likely to offer it to my girl because cute little flowers our designs on little girls is fun. If my son showed interest I would not exclude him though.

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I would not at my girls age now, but I think it would be a nice mother/daughter date when they are older. For now I do not like nail polish on them but will for a special occasion. I do not think I would take a son if I had one.

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I don't go myself....someone gave me a gift certificate for a manicure when she found out I'd never had one, and I was bored silly. I'd rather do my own nails. But if it was something I enjoyed and my kids wanted to try it I'd say sure!

I have heard that you have to use specific types of nail polish on kids under 6, though.

Oh and I will happily paint toenails for the little ones...it's fun.

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"JorgieGirl" wrote:

Are you saying foot care on a boy/man extreme gender role reversal? I could see polish as something that is considered more female, but just a plain pedi?

Is this debate about foot care and massages? Because it seemed obvious to me anyway that the question was more about pedicures and manicures with polish (didn't she ask him if he wanted polish?) and not a spa or massage. Maybe I have a different idea of what a nail salon is. In SoFL every Cuban woman gets a manicure/pedicure done every week at the nail salon. A spa is a spa and a nail salon is a nail salon. When I hear pedicure, I think of filing nails, pushing cuticles, and polish.

So, no I would not take my son to a nail salon to get his nails done just because.

That said, my father was big on nail care. He detested dirty nails and uses clear polish. I don;t consider that a manicure at a nail salon though.

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

I agree with you mostly. But one question I have is, is why do you need to wait until a boy asks to go with you? Kids go to places all the time without having to ask their parents. He specifically didn't ask to go, I picked him up from school and we went together as a last minute decision. Otherwise, he would never know what a pedicure is so I don't think he would ever ask. He is a patient child when it comes to going to places and he was sitting next to me and he seemed interested. I asked him if he wanted one and he said yes.

So unless a boy even knows what a pedicure is or has been to a nail salon with mom or dad, I guess I don't feel like they would think of asking at all unless exposed. I hope I made sense:)

As for role reversal, a lot of men enjoy getting massages, pedicures, manicures, waxing, etc. Maybe not at common as women, but it's one of those things I feel like isn't particularly dedicated to one gender anymore.

Honestly, I feel like the op was asking one thing and now it's changing to another. You originally asked if you would take your child to get a mani/pedi. Then you brought up taking your son. My answer is, no I would not take my son. Does that mean if I went and he happen to be with me I would make him wait outside? No. Dos that mean if he was with me and asked to have soak his hands I would say no? not necessarily. But that wasn't the question.

If you ask me would I take my child to get a mani/pedi, that to me infers the act of specifically going to a nail salon to take my child. Not they happen to come along.

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I guess I wouldn't make a special appt. to take him, but only because I've never really considered it. I don't get them myself (but boy am I in need of one!), but if I were to get one and he were with me and wanted one, I'd have no problem with that.

Super cute picture!!

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i think its perfectly fine if they are old enough to sit still in the chair and enjoy it!

My brother gets pedicures and LOVES them!

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I also see a difference between grooming, and adding polish.

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"daniellevmt" wrote:

I guess I wouldn't make a special appt. to take him, but only because I've never really considered it. I don't get them myself (but boy am I in need of one!), but if I were to get one and he were with me and wanted one, I'd have no problem with that.

Super cute picture!!

Oh yeah. You know your feet are bad (MY feet!) when I have to give myself a mini pedi before going to the salon for a pedi. I'm too embarrassed for them to see what my feet really look like most of the time. Then they break out the Dremel. Not good!

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Cute picture!

My dad gets manis (don't know about pedis). His excuse is that his hands are on the big screens at church (he plays guitar in his church's band and he goes to one of those mega-churches that has thousands of people and jumbotrons) so he wants them to look nice. But I think he just likes getting them. Smile

I wouldn't specifically take my son to get a pedicure. I admit that I do associate mani/pedis as being a "girl thing". It's not a huge deal, and if he really wanted to go I would probably take him, but it's not something I would go out of my way to tell him about and try to get him excited about it.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

I wouldn't specifically take my son to get a pedicure. I admit that I do associate mani/pedis as being a "girl thing". It's not a huge deal, and if he really wanted to go I would probably take him, but it's not something I would go out of my way to tell him about and try to get him excited about it.

I think that's what I am trying to say too. . .I wouldn't try to get my son excited about something like that, although I wouldn't freak out if he brought it up or wanted to do it. I wouldn't bring him bra shopping with me, either, lol.

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I don't think kids should get these until they're at least in high school. I didn't get a manicure for the first time until I was in the 11th grade (16 years old). When my mom takes my little sister with her to the nail salon (she's 12) and lets her get her toes and nails done it just drives me up the freakin' wall! Why can't she paint her own toes and nails? I had to!! As for boys, I think that if a man wants to do that, more power to him, but I wouldn't let my sons unless they were going to pay for it themselves, as I think it's kinda silly for guys...

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

I don't think kids should get these until they're at least in high school. I didn't get a manicure for the first time until I was in the 11th grade (16 years old). When my mom takes my little sister with her to the nail salon (she's 12) and lets her get her toes and nails done it just drives me up the freakin' wall! Why can't she paint her own toes and nails? I had to!! As for boys, I think that if a man wants to do that, more power to him, but I wouldn't let my sons unless they were going to pay for it themselves, as I think it's kinda silly for guys...

I will admit to being confused by this post. I don't like manicures so I don't get them, but why wait until high school? Maybe for some it's a nice mother-daughter bonding experience, I don't really see a big difference when setting an age limit between doing it yourself and getting it done. They're not particularly expensive, right?

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I agree w Laurie and also don't get the "i didn't" mentality. I didn't get a cell phone till I was 24 - not because my parents were freaks but because cell phones didn't exist. I'm very aware of the fact that I am raising kids in this generation, not my generation.

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Also, maybe it's just the esthetician in me getting worked up, but a pedicure -a good, proper one- is much more than just polish. It should really be about treating your feet to extra care. Like going to the dentist for a cleaning, kind of thing.

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

I will admit to being confused by this post. I don't like manicures so I don't get them, but why wait until high school? Maybe for some it's a nice mother-daughter bonding experience, I don't really see a big difference when setting an age limit between doing it yourself and getting it done. They're not particularly expensive, right?

I have to admit that this would be my only hesitation. The cheapest pedicure I can get here is $40 and thats done by a student. All the salons charge $60.

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I think they are $15 or $20 here....at least that's what the signs say when I walk by.

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

I think they are $15 or $20 here....at least that's what the signs say when I walk by.

Ooo but you ahve to be careful with those places. Alot of the cheaper places will not be as sanitary and you can very easily get an infection. Once I ahd a women clipping my cuticles and she cutme. Then she used this quik stop bleeding thing and it burned and gave me a horrible reaction. Which is another reason why I am not cool with manicures for kids. A file and polish, fine. But a full on manicure with cuticle pushing and clipping and all that is not necessary for a child.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I agree w Laurie and also don't get the "i didn't" mentality. I didn't get a cell phone till I was 24 - not because my parents were freaks but because cell phones didn't exist. I'm very aware of the fact that I am raising kids in this generation, not my generation.

Uh oh, your starting the kids with cell phones debate? lol

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"culturedmom" wrote:

Ooo but you ahve to be careful with those places. Alot of the cheaper places will not be as sanitary and you can very easily get an infection. Once I ahd a women clipping my cuticles and she cutme. Then she used this quik stop bleeding thing and it burned and gave me a horrible reaction. Which is another reason why I am not cool with manicures for kids. A file and polish, fine. But a full on manicure with cuticle pushing and clipping and all that is not necessary for a child.

Yep, I've had the same thing happen to me. The stuff she put on me burned so bad (for hours!) that I wanted to cry. That was the last manicure I ever got....

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

I will admit to being confused by this post. I don't like manicures so I don't get them, but why wait until high school? Maybe for some it's a nice mother-daughter bonding experience, I don't really see a big difference when setting an age limit between doing it yourself and getting it done. They're not particularly expensive, right?

That's exactly why, because children (and I consider teens to be children) can do their own toes and nails. Now if they have a job and want to pay for it themselves, I'm fine with that. Now that being said, I do have one daughter out of my family of all boys (with another on the way!) and I can't say that I wouldn't on occasion let her come with me when she's older and get something done. I'm more speaking about the parents that go weekly to get mani/pedis and let their children do the same as them. Of course, each parent has the right to let their children do what they like, I'm simply speaking IMHO, of what I'll do with my own children. It's not about the cost, as a mani/pedi together around here is around $35, it's just how I feel about it.