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    6th graders are what, 12 or so? I hate to say it because of course no one wants their 12 year old to be sexually active, but I got my first period when I was 12. By that age, if girls don't have some basic knowledge of how to protect themselves and preferably adults willing to talk realistically about sex with them, they could literally get pregnant for lack of knowledge. That's a real problem IMO.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    6th graders are what, 12 or so? I hate to say it because of course no one wants their 12 year old to be sexually active, but I got my first period when I was 12. By that age, if girls don't have some basic knowledge of how to protect themselves and preferably adults willing to talk realistically about sex with them, they could literally get pregnant for lack of knowledge. That's a real problem IMO.

    I agree! When I think about a girl hitting puberty without knowing about how her body works it just breaks my heart. I think that it is awful to not equip our children with knowledge of their own bodies from an early age. Christianitys obsession with hoarding sex knowledge is probably a huge contributor in why rates of porn addiction and abortion are so high in the Christian community.

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    I agree that 12 is too old to be without that knowledge. for sure. My concerns are really with the very little ones hearing stuff before they're ready and being scared by it. I don't want my five-year-old daughter worrying about penises going into vaginas, or periods. Maybe that's okay for some kids but mine would find that pretty scary.
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    I talked to the moms of the 2 girls that didnt know about sex. One said her daughter knew all about puberty, and some basics about sex, but had not asked any questions so the mom had not finished the talk. She was waiting for her to ask the questions. The other mom was a little naive (in my opinion) and thought her daughter didnt need to know about it yet.
    One of the teachers on our staff has a 5th grader, she still has not had the talk. She really thinks her daughter is not ready for the talk, and also thinks her daughter doesnt know anything about it. We are trying to convince her it is not a big deal to have the talk, but she is horrified about the idea of having it. In all other aspects she is a parent that I have so much respect for.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I agree that 12 is too old to be without that knowledge. for sure. My concerns are really with the very little ones hearing stuff before they're ready and being scared by it. I don't want my five-year-old daughter worrying about penises going into vaginas, or periods. Maybe that's okay for some kids but mine would find that pretty scary.
    I understand what you are saying. But I really do feel that if it is presented to kids as factual, this is what happens stuff, and they are with their peers who accept it as such then most kids will be OK with this. There will, of course, be exceptions, but I think that is why the opt out is available. I think our kids are often much more capable then we think they are. For example, after the 'magic vagina' conversation with DD, I explained to her that giving birth is actually really painful, and Mommy prefers to be alone so I dont have to worry about my other kids at the same time. I thought it would distress her to know it was painful, but it totally didnt. She was OK with it, in fact I thought she had forgotten, and then she asked me about it after baby was born.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    I understand what you are saying. But I really do feel that if it is presented to kids as factual, this is what happens stuff, and they are with their peers who accept it as such then most kids will be OK with this. There will, of course, be exceptions, but I think that is why the opt out is available. I think our kids are often much more capable then we think they are. For example, after the 'magic vagina' conversation with DD, I explained to her that giving birth is actually really painful, and Mommy prefers to be alone so I dont have to worry about my other kids at the same time. I thought it would distress her to know it was painful, but it totally didnt. She was OK with it, in fact I thought she had forgotten, and then she asked me about it after baby was born.
    I guess I am speaking as someone who was told too much too soon. Not about periods, that was fine, not about reproduction, which was fine, but about sex and intimate acts and I found it scary and disturbing until my Mom gave me the awesome information that I didn't have to do it until the day came that I wanted to. I was a child of the 70s and we were exposed to FAR too much. It was just scary.
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    Parents that do not teach their children about sex has nothing to do with being Christian or not Christian.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    Parents that do not teach their children about sex has nothing to do with being Christian or not Christian.
    Maybe. Growing up in a conservative Christian school though I do disagree with you based on my personal experience. And the stats dont lie on both the abortion and the porn thing. And I was replying to someone's comment about their Christian school. And you and RIvergallery (I believe?) are both religious and both Christian and talk specifically about being extremely concerned about other people talking to your children about sex and you both homeschool. So, I don't know......there is perhaps a trend that you just don't want to see? Didn't you just say that you told your 5 year old for the first time that she has a vagina?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Maybe. Growing up in a conservative Christian school though I do disagree with you based on my personal experience. And the stats dont lie on both the abortion and the porn thing. And I was replying to someone's comment about their Christian school. And you and RIvergallery (I believe?) are both religious and both Christian and talk specifically about being extremely concerned about other people talking to your children about sex and you both homeschool. So, I don't know......there is perhaps a trend that you just don't want to see? Didn't you just say that you told your 5 year old for the first time that she has a vagina?
    I told my five year old the scientific term for that body part for the first time recently. It is not like she got to 5 years old without noticing that she had a vagina.

    There are many people on this board who have said that they are Christian who do not share those same views. I would say a lot more that do not share the same views than do. I grew up in a Christian family and my parents were very frank about sex and puberty and BC. There are many Christian families that are. Yes, there might be a percentage of parents that do not teach their children anything, but you can not judge all Christians by a minority.

    I was taught, and I believe that sex is a beautiful thing created by God that is meant to be enjoyed. That there are boundaries yes (marriage), but that it is a fun, wonderful, experience. I can clearly remember my Dad telling me that if sex was not fun no one would do it. It is common knowledge in my family that at 62 years old my parents still enjoy each other in every way.

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    Presumably she also noticed that she had an elbow as well but I'm assuming that she knew what it was called long ago? Again, I'm speaking from my personal experience and then making examples given posts on here. You can disagree with me but you can't really tell me I didn't have the experience that I had, or that I'm not pointing out commonalities that are here on this thread in black and white.

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