Second, the two bolded sentences are, IMO, very hypocritical. In one you make a clear insinuation that those who don't teach their kids to view sex the way God does are going to have children who will lose their virginity long before they are ready. Then you go on to say that you're disgusted by other peoples' intolerance towards differing viewpoints? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. That first sentence is definitely not one in which you should use a generalization like that, so if you don't mean to generalize, then you need to clear that up. It's pretty offensive.
In my house they are breasts. Not boobs. And very small breasts at that!
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
Ah, yes, of course! Because people saying that it is important to talk about our bodies as healthy and glorious and normal is the virtually the same as admitting that I am a prostitute! I'm not going to get into my sexual background with someone who would dare to make such filthy insinuations, but my virginity was something that I prized and to have some stranger infer otherwise is very ugly of you. I don't know what religion advocates making such outrageous statements, but I'm glad Im not part of it!
And Alissa I agree with what you are saying. It would be crazy to NOT teach ones kids about sex in accordance with their religious beliefs~ that isn't what I was saying. I was quite pointedly talking about a middle schooler who knows nothing about sex. That is irresponsible, and I also am talking about the people who think that they can keep their children in some bubble where all sex talk is 100% verboten........well, I think that that leads to the shame and secrecy that I saw growing up and feel is unhealthy.
Audra my parents were a lot like your parents (I remember the :TALK: so well, so awkward!) and we parent just like you guys, it sounds like.
I've read song of solomon plenty of times, beautiful book! I think that our bodies were made to be delightful to us and to our partner ~ that is very in line with the way we raise our kids. I don't believe that one has to be Christian to want ones children to value and prize their bodies and to see physical intimacy as something beautiful and NOT something that one hands away to anyone who asks. That is why we aren't shy about our own bodies, or terms, and we don't secret away knowledge or what have you.
As to Boobs ~ My kids know that they are called breasts ~ but I guess when my toddlers were nursing they used to call them "boobies" and sometimes they still do. Just like my daughter says 'gina even though she knows its called a VAgina, well, little kids are just little, and sometimes the way they spoke as babies/toddlers lingers.
Okay. Who said anything about being a bad parent? I don't know. I just believe that children should have at least a frame of reference to know about their own anatomy. Lack of knowledge can create a sense of mystery that can easily cross the line into shame, IMO.
I know lots of toddlers who nursed who used terms like "nunnies" or "boobies" Or "milkies" or whatever but also knew that they were actually called breasts. My toddlers who nursed were no different.
I don't care what other peoples children call their body parts. I do think it strange if a parent teaches them "elbow", "eyebrow" but the vagina is just this vague mystery area, like a Barbie Doll's non crotch or something. I never mentioned bad parenting, so maybe you are reading my posts incorrectly again?
ETA:I don't always use proper terminology when talking about my body parts. I'm known to use "Vag". Or "Vagine" (Said like borat, with a raised eyebrow). In my thirds labor I have a birth video where my midwife puts hot towels and oil on my perineum and I say "mmmm warm cooter". After 48 hours of labor it still makes me laugh. None of that means that i don't know what my body parts are called. I think that you are taking my statement that children should know their anatomy a little too seriously or something. Is it that offensive or strange of an idea? I've also referred to breasts as a rack, boobs, titties, nips, or what have you a time or two over the years. I know they are called breasts. Bodies can be fun, its not all so serious, is it? I mean, I'm a little shocked at how much it bothers you that I believe teaching children about their body parts is okay. If my child talked about his penis but pointed at his balls I wouldn't go all rivergallery on him and be like "SCROTUM!!!! SCROTUM!!!!" whatever, penis, vagina, tomato, tahmato.
Last edited by Potter75; 03-04-2013 at 04:27 PM.
Yeah, maybe you should hide my posts? I'm the one who talks to my kids about sex (I also don't believe that I will be the only one to in their lifetime), why on earth would I call myself a bad parent?
So I'm all for sex ed and I'm all for full information, I just think too much too soon can be overwhelming to a child who is not particularly sexually awakened yet.
Trust me, my kids will know all about periods long before they need to.