Probably 75% of the kids from my school went to Wheaton, Calvin, or Messiah college. I remember at Wheaton they had to sign a pledge promising no dancing, no sex, no drinking etc....I assume the others were the same. Coming from a high school that banned dancing you can bet that all of the weddings I attended in my early 20's could have been on you tube as "white people swaying completely awkwardly to the beat". Talk about social handicapping So terrible. My guidance counsellor in HS actually told me he would not help me in my college search as I was not considering Christian colleges. Very sad.
Well clearly, you missed the part on how guidance=what they want you to do. Silly.
That makes me so sad. I would have been so upset if my school and my counselor wouldn't help me with what I wanted to do after leaving their school. I can't imagine no dancing. I love to dance.
As an adult, I can't imagine signing paperwork to someone saying no sex and no drinking in order to attend school.
I did sign a form in HS for joining our Peer Education group because we promoted no drugs, no alcohol. But then I just snuck around when I was a junior and senior.
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Thats so funny. My oldest DD has actually said "I dont want to go to any weddings of people I go to school with, they will not know how to dance" Her school doesnt discourage dancing, but doesnt have school sponsored dances. They do have a school dance team as well as a really great dance department that puts on amazing musicals.
I really would prefer she go to a school that had things like dances, but her school is at the top of the ratings in the state
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I just can't really fathom deciding to go to a college that had rules like that. If I wanted to avoid dating in college I'd just not date. (It's really not that hard.)
That said, she signed up knowing the rules, she broke them, so kicking her out makes sense. Still confused about the financial aspect of it.
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I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson
And i also agree with what Melissa said about kids wrestling with their sexual identity possibly gravitating to an environment like that as well, at least initially.
And in regards to non bible believers believing in heaven, its not like Bible literalists have sole ownership of the concept of an afterlife.
I went to a pretty conservative catholic college...although it wasn't strict like this was. Even though i eventually found that i was way more liberal than my own school was, it was a 'safe feeling' entry point into my independence because it felt so familiar to me.
I think that many people have a hard time understanding an environment such as the one at this college or ones like it. It seems SO steeped in fear as to be cultish, and there is a generally wide spread aversion or distrust of cults, wouldn't you agree? To have such strict rules against behavior generally regarded as normal in every society on earth for all of human history (forming relationships) IS hard for most people to understand, I think. I think that many of the kids who attend these colleges are PK's or kids who have grown up in extremely restrictive environments (many homeschooled) and are going from one restrictive environment to another, where they simply trade their parents super restrictive rules for the colleges super restrictive rules ~ because frankly they need those rules because they haven't ever learned to live their lives without them. Yes, I am totally generalizing based on my experiences and I admit that freely. These environments make them feel safe, from their peers, from the world, from sin, from themselves, etc. A lot of people who have grown up differently and see 18 year olds as capable of navigating the world in much broader ways DO see such things as perhaps a form of brainwashing, or such a restrictive environment as being akin to brainwashing or cultish sort of behavior.
It has always been hard for me to understand, especially in light of Christ calling believers to be salt and light in the world. IMO hiding away in colleges such as this is not doing that. Again, it just seems incredibly fearful ~ like the world is too scary so and navigating normal relationships would be too scary so people form these little enclaves where they can be "safe" and put growing up or maturing on hold (again, cultish, IMO).
Thank you, Melis. Cultish is exactly the word I was thinking of. Isnt't that part of indoctrination - isolating one from cultural norms and generally accepted societal values? You cut a student off from all that normal stuff by making it against the rules and then slowly brainwash them into believing something that the vast majority of society doesn't.
And Gloria, my issue is with the college, NOT with the Bible. I take issue with the Bible being used as a scapegoat for validating hatred and bigotry as, IMO, this college has done.