ETA: I mean who's on call for a random week of full time work and can be available unexpectedly like that?
Again, I think you seem to have a very ideal situation in terms of work and a wonderful support system, but that is not available to everyone. In fact, I would suspect that what you have is very rare and you are very lucky to have it.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
We used a combination of family but mostly sitters for Jakes recent emergency. We get sitters who work at our gym- all background checked and eager for work. Just like my incident showed us we didn't have enough short term disability coverage- we can either learn from what we are lacking or not. Now I'm being that annoying perso typing while working out- I'm out, for real. Again- it's disengenious to assume a sic kid is only a working parent problem. Had I been a working parent when I was bedridden my kids could have simply continued on at their daycare- sahp don't have that help- have you ever heard of a daycare suddenly taking on three kids for 6 weeks?
Kim, as to who is on call ~ we hired two girls for a week each, 8-6, M-F. They were college students who had just finished the year ~ they hadn't sat for us before but were related to my sisters MIL, who is also my moms best friend. It worked out great. As I was in the house, as was my husband (me in bed, him working from home) we weren't worried about having new sitters with our kids. When things go awry there were options ~ we just had to reach out and look for them.
Last edited by Potter75; 03-07-2013 at 06:06 PM.
Its not that (double) working families have all the problems, its just that our problems are just different ones. Sick kids that need to stay home from school don't pull people together to help each other out the same way more serious situations like your hip or Jake's ordeal does. The two just aren't comparable. If the two types of situations get the same reaction in your community, i think thats unique.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
I don't know anyone who has a pool of back-ups on any given day, to be honest, but it sounds lovely.
To me it still comes down to, who wants to look after sick kids? If something happens to me or my husband, we work it out (like when I was hospitalized when my water broke, he took time off work until alternate care could be set up). However, our childcare providers don't want to take care of a feverish child or a vomiting child. To be honest, I only do because I love them. I wouldn't want to look after other people's sick kids, especially at the risk of mine getting sick. When I did stay at home, I would have helped out any friend look after kids who had had a broken hip/other injury/hospitalized kid/sick parents/some other life upheaval. I would not have been as quick to look after a sick child.
I do have to agree about SAHP getting sick days. Last month I took a sick day for me and the kids went to daycare. It was fantastic to not be looking after them, being able to throw up in peace and to be able to sleep. Even when I was hospitalized when my water broke early, it is probably better that I was because I would not have taken it that easy at home.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
There is no one here that would watch my children if they were sick regardless of what I was willing to pay them. If I was so sick that I could not take care of my kids and they were sick as well DH would have to take off work. I am sure my parents and other family would watch the girls sick, but they are 750 miles away. If we were a duel income family and our kids were sick, one of us would have to take off work. There would be no choice. One of my best friends is in a duel income family. I babysit her kids often, but I would not babysit them sick because of my own children. I do think it would be vary rare to find someone that would be willing to babysit sick children.
Coincidentally, my son has been sick for most of this week! I worked from home Monday, he went to school on Tuesday. A houseguest of ours stayed with him yesterday, and I am home again with him today.
Fortunately he is 9 so I can actually do my job and keep an eye on him, but if my 5-year-old got sick I would not be able to work at all and look after her.
Anyway, just funny timing with this one.
I really learned to appreciate my childcare situation a lot more in the last couple months. My mom watches my kids for the 4 hours a day I work. she had to have some knee surgery in Jan, out for 6 weeks. I have awesome help, my friends all totally stepped up to help, I couldnt find a daycare that had space. I learned very quickly that having 4 kids I would probably not be able to work. Dh and I missed a week of work each during that time. The stomach bug rolled through and it was a full 2 weeks until all of us were well. I couldnt ask somebody else to sit for me and take the chance that they would bring that home to their house. My mom is totally willing to deal with my kids when they are sick. Most days now when I drop off the boy I would like to kiss her face for making it easy for me to work
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson