Mets player takes paternity leave, catches heat

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Mets player takes paternity leave, catches heat

New York Mets second baseman Dan Murphy became a first-time father on Monday. His wife went into labor on Sunday, he flew to Florida to be with her, and missed games on Monday and Wednesday. Some people are saying he was "lazy" and "irresponsible" and a "poor teammate" for missing the game on Wednesday, that when you sign on to play in the majors you give up some things like being home with your family for special events if they don't happen on your regular days off; some are going so far as to blame the Mets' loss on Wednesday to him not being there. Others say Murphy was right to spend an extra day with his wife, especially since she had a c-section. MLB rules allow players to take three days of paternity leave, so technically Wednesday was an extra day, but his manager totally supported Murphy taking the extra day and he doesn't face any disciplinary action over it. Your thoughts?

P.S. I know this is kind of lame but there hasn't been a new debate in, what, a week? I had to remedy that, and this was the best I could do today. Blum 3

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I think it should be more important to be there for your wife having a baby.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I think it should be more important to be there for your wife having a baby.

I agree.

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Dated a minor league baseball player and they really do sign their lives away during the season, but in the majors it is almost year around. I think this guy showed himself to be a pretty awesome father already

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Father first. He made the right choice.

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Yeah, I can't believe some people were making such a big deal out of it. I heard a couple of guys on the bus arguing about whether Sunday counted as his first day of paternity leave or not, because he supposedly reported for practice, but then left when he heard his wife was in labor. Like it really matters...

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Totally support his choice. Don't mind the 'extra day' either especially since he had the support of his manager.

Maybe some people are bitter/jealous because he went ahead and did it and in retrospect they wish they had or had been made to feel like they could have.

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He should have just made his wife have a c-section before the season started. (sarcasm)

Outrage over Boomer Esiason's C-section before season starts idea - CNN.com

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It is so early in the season, I don't understand people getting upset. I can understand in playoffs because then fans are nuts. I don't really follow baseball, is this a "key" position that would really screw up a team sport?

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I am sure he knows what is best for his family.. I do not know how her labor went.. and they have LOTS of money for him to be able to miss... However I do understand the TEAM mentality.. not sure who was giving him a hard time .. teammates or public.. if public who cares.. if Teammates that is sad...

All that said.. I had easy pregnancies and even with my first my husband took a day off if needed then went back to work the next day... with my second he was off so he didn't need to take any time off.

It isn't like the guy took a month off... I would understand team members being a little upset, but if they were the public should not have known about it.. They should have been able to discuss it way ahead of time.. they had 9 months.. they knew the baby may come at this time..

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"Danifo" wrote:

It is so early in the season, I don't understand people getting upset. I can understand in playoffs because then fans are nuts. I don't really follow baseball, is this a "key" position that would really screw up a team sport?

Technically it's still the pre-season, at least it is here; our official opening day isn't until next week. Pre-season games don't count as far as standings for the season anyway, although they do count toward a player's personal record.

As for "key" position, this might be a fun spin-off debate. I'd say pitcher & catcher are hands down the two most important positions, but I would say second base is the third most important position. He can end up playing all over the field to cover the other guys moving to get the ball, so he really has to stay aware of where he is and where the ball needs to get to, more than the other positions that don't move around so much. I've seen high school and even minor league second basemen kind of twirl around after getting their hands on the ball, because they've gotten disoriented.

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Regular Season for ALL baseball teams started March 31st. Each individual stadium may have a different opening day if their team's first scheduled series are away games.

Anything prior to March 31st were pre-season games.

While each position is pretty integral in the game, some positions are harder to replace than others. Pitchers, Catchers, Second base and Short stops are harder to replace due to some of the skills they need to play their position. Third base too to an extent because they need to be able to throw a pretty fast long ball to 1st, but not as much as those other 4 i would say.

Its also significant how good of a hitter you are. So in a way, a starting second baseman who is also a good hitter would be a significant loss to play without.

Last year he finished with a batting average of .286 which is respectable for an entire year but nothing spectacular. I don't know enough about the mets to know how integral he is to the team or who they could shuffle around in his absence.

Not that any of it really matters. I don't care if he was the best player in all of baseball.

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