Now I'm calling you names. You are a piece of work, Melissa. I hope you are more pleasant to the people you encounter in real life than you are to some of the people you interact with on this board.
CARRIE and DH 7/14/07
Right, but you have two incomes (unless he is working for free). That is still time away from the family/the children, regardless of which spouse is bringing in that income. It sortov stands against your argument that anyone can easily live on one income when you yourself live on two. At least, to me.
Do you know many parents whose goals for their family are as base as simply not shrivelling up and dying? As stated, most people I know want a lot more for their families. Survival is not the hugest rung on their life goal latter. And its hard to argue that in many places that does take two incomes, or with many people who do not earn what the top 1% earns etc.....That is hard to argue against. I would think that if having two incomes did not help your family you would only have one. So who are you to tell other families that they should be living on one.
And I do not believe that the minimum wage is meant to be a vehicle to provide for home ownership etc etc. Its called MINIMUM wage for a reason.
For me these are separate issues entirely.
I would never argue that people can't opt to have a SAHP, since that is the way we work it in my family. I WOHM full time and my dh is a SAHD. We live quite comfortably, but I also don't make minimum wage and don't live in the most expensive areas of the country. Different issues IMO, not sure how they got tangled in this debate.
I think what Alissa was referring to is that bc of the wage disparity in our country, more people cannot choose that lifestyle. I think of my grandparents. They both had an 8th grade education and worked in a factory and a grocery store to support their family. They had 5 kids, owned a 4 bedroom home, and were a solid blue collar family. Today that is more difficult to achieve bc we are paying the top 1% so much and everyone else much less. If things were more equal, perhaps more would enjoy a better quality of life. Is that what you meant, Alissa?
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