For me, it's more about appropriateness than any imposed-by-anyone-else sense of modesty, and I think that goes for behavior as well as dress. You can be covered from head to toe and still be a **** based on your behavior, or you can wear short skirts & low blouses and never do anything. In that case you'd probably be labeled a tease, LOL. I'm trying to teach both of my children to dress in an appropriate way, and to behave in an appropriate way. Weston right now pretty much runs around the house in his underpants, but we make him put a shirt on to sit at the table for dinner. Tiven can wear shorts at home and on weekends, but not to school. If she wears leggings that hug her butt, she needs to wear a skirt or long top on top, not because of a sense of modesty but because it's inappropriate for a child of eight years of age. My sister this weekend wore a pair of legging-style jeans with tall high-heeled boots and a bright red silky blouse and she was gorgeous and it was very appropriate on an adult woman for an evening out.
There's a girl in Tiven's class who is shaving her legs already and has made comments to some of the other girls about their hairy legs. This girl also wears heels to school most days she doesn't have PE. I really want to call her parents and ask WTF? These are 8yos!
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I think that the tone of the article is a little unnecessarily aggressive, and its unfortunate because I mostly agree with the content, but am put off by the tone.
I will say, maybe its just where I happen to live, but I don't see a lot of this "****ty" dressing amongst young girls, for which I am grateful. I think that its a parents responsibility to set a healthy example of how to dress well, and this means appropriately for ones body, for their daughters. I was thinking of this debate as I was picking up my daughter at preschool this afternoon. She goes to school adjacent to a college campus. Most girls looked great, high boots, skinny jeans, cute jackets etc. I did see a few girls in pajama pants and gigantic sweatshirts, which while technically "modest" as they certainly were covered, looked sloppy and unattractive, and unfortunately gave off a very bad impression. I'd rather see some cute tight jeans and some boots over that any day. One screams healthy self confidence, and the other screams low self confidence or lack of self worth. It cuts both ways, while a lot may get said about the "****ty" girl having self esteem issues, I'd say the exact same thing about the girl who is inappropriately dressed in the opposite direction, sadly. It is amazing how much is inferred from the image we project, you know?
I hope to give my children (sons and daughter) a sense of the importance of confidence in appearance ~ not necessarily total conformity ~ as I think that how we dress can be a fun means of self expression ~ but expression within some semblance of cultural norms. It does matter.
I like the idea of promoting modesty and see nothing wrong with what these kids are doing. If it floats their boat, good for them, and I am glad that the school is allowing them to promote it. It make might some kids think twice, not all kids have good role models at home, thats for sure, and if this makes them think about how they present themselves for the first time ever, I don't see how that could possibly be a bad thing.
Melis, where on earth have you been?
Recovering from a slight personal tragedy ~ broke my hip ~ massive surgery and a bunch of weeks/months on crutches/in bed etc.....loads of fun with three kids 5 and under ;/. But thanks to good friends and family we got through it ~ celebrating 6 months since my emergency surgery today~ I'm finally limp free and back to all my usual hijinks, but with a husband who travels all the time and is in a super intense executive MBA program it was all quite the trial.
Yay, Melis is back. I'm so so sorry to hear of your hip. I just had a week with the flu and can't fathom how you managed surgery and recovery with all that you have going on. Good grief!
Great to "see" you!
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12
Glad you are all recovered and back!
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Thanks all, missed you girls and Audra I hope you feel better.
As a mom that has to try to buy clothes in the JR's section starting just recently, I love that there is a push back against the styles that are prominent right now. It is not easy to find clothes that are modest, but still trendy right now. I do fully admit that we have VERY high standards for what our girls wear.
I think the article is way off. Poorly written and missing the point of the "Modesty club" completely.
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