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    Stacey I have no real opinion on the swearing but you asked where she wrote about swearing and I answered.
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    I didn't ask where she wrote about swearing, but where she wrote about swearing at her kids. That seems to be the issue for some of the posters here, and I just don't see it. Stomping around and swearing about a situation you're in is not the same thing at all. "Open this goddamn door," and, "You all treat me like ****," are simply not swearing at or cussing out your kids. Maybe she did say something awful to her kids & chose not to post it? We don't know, but with everything else that Lisa posts openly & honestly, I kind of doubt it.
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    You don't think saying "I'm going to kill you" to your child in the presence of your children is terribly frightening? And you don't think goddamn is a curse word? She said it directly to her young daughter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    You'd prefer her to say, to no one in general, "Man, I can't believe what a bunch of lazy self-absorbed slobs I'm raising. I should have been a farmer because that's what I'm doing here, raising pigs. A bunch of worthless pigs that are never going to amount to anything, probably living in my basement when they're 30. What a wonderful life we all have ahead of ourselves." That would involve no swearing, no cussing, nothing directed at her kids, but IMHO that's all way worse than saying, what Lisa says she said.

    And this isn't an "article" that she "published" intending to spread some kind of information or opinion to others. It's a vent posted on her personal blog. I don't think it was wise for her to allow it to be re-posted with her own name and her kids names, that's admittedly a bit too much for me. She should have had them change the names & post it anonymously. Of course some people might be able to figure it out and that takes away the authenticity which is what draws many of us to read her in the first place....
    No it wasn't. It was an "article" that she submitted to the site scarymommy and that is where it was presented. At least she sent it to the right place. Scary Mommy indeed.

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    This whole article isn't my cup of tea, but everyone is different.

    I do however, think this is swearing at your kids:

    "Michael?s trying to calm me. ?Leave me alone!? I yelled at him. ?I do EVERYTHING for you people ? including YOU! ? and you all treat me like ****! Every last one of you!?"

    It happens. I am sure they are all fine and dandy, but we don't do that. I mean, I am normal and I get irritated like every human being on the planet, but we just don't relate to each other like this. It's really sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    No it wasn't. It was an "article" that she submitted to the site scarymommy and that is where it was presented. At least she sent it to the right place. Scary Mommy indeed.
    Yes, it was. She posted it to her blog on February 26th of this year.

    http://www.lisamorguess.com/2013/02/...-fat-****-you/
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    Right, and no one really cared as her blog isn't that popular. When she submitted it to scary mommy and had it posted there, it got more notice. You don't really think that scarymommy read her blog and said "WOW! You sound like a TERRIFYING Mom, can we please copy your post, do you? As she says in her latest blog post, she has submitted posts all over the place trying to get them picked up. There are also blog posts bemoaning her lack of success in doing so ~ she seemed frustrated that simply having a DS child didn't propel her to stardom like it did Kelle Hampton . I guess she has found her genre as the **** YOU MOM. Lovely.

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    I can relate to this post, in that I have a temper and occasionally lose my **** with the kids. Not to this extent, but it happens. What I find missing though is the 'we all ended up sitting on the kitchen floor, cuddled in my bed, etc, talking about what happened, how mommy was wrong, where they were wrong, how I would try not to let it happen again etc. Another big thing I found was missing was the 'what I learned from this experience'. I always try to take away something to prevent a repeat, in fact, I often get the kids to help me with this. Things like, taking away the clicker, or turning off the TV if the channel gets changed, taking the lock off the door, going to your room when told to, and on moms end, if I feel like I am losing my temper, giving myself a time out alone in my bedroom.

    I would have appreciated this post a lot more if it had included those things, been a learning moment that she was choosing to pass on. But instead it is just a whiny 'being a mom is hard' post and it makes me a bit ragey as well.
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    Kyla, I really agree with your observation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I don't think it's horrible for her to think those things. And I don't think it's horrible to write them down and share them with like-minded friends. And I don't think it's that unusual for parents to occasionally lose it on that level....I don't get to those levels myself, but I figure that's just luck and circumstance. BUT...I don't think publishing it in a place with your real name, where your kids and their friends can see it, is particularly nice or wise.

    I think it's okay that people identify with it. It's very normal to feel unappreciated, exhausted, pushed to the limit, and alone in all of that. I just think that the internet in general has made too many people think it's okay to put their more private thoughts & moments out there for an audience of strangers and forget how it might affect the people closest to them. Vent all you want, express your darkest thoughts, but find the right place for it. Anonymously would have been fine.
    I do agree with that its okay with acknowledging that you sometimes feel unappreciated and in your darkest moments of frustration nothing seems particularly great about it...at that time

    But man, she sounds really unhappy and extra PO'd. Did she write this immediately after it happened? That could explain it. And i think thats a terrible idea. To write publicly when you are infuriated.

    And I think its fine to identify with feeling unappreciated. But she ties that whole feeling to this really ugly moment, where she is saying things her kids really shouldn't hear. And i think its really bad that she is getting all this positive reinforcement for sharing it.

    There is a difference between
    "I feel unappreciated" with a response of "thank you so much for writing this!"

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    "I feel unappreciated and I *****ed my kids/husband out" with a response of "thank you so much for writing this!"

    I just feel like she sounds very unapologetic for doing what she did.

    FTR, I"m responding to your post, but i'm not disagreeing with your post. Just using it to jump off from.

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