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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    You'd prefer her to say, to no one in general, "Man, I can't believe what a bunch of lazy self-absorbed slobs I'm raising. I should have been a farmer because that's what I'm doing here, raising pigs. A bunch of worthless pigs that are never going to amount to anything, probably living in my basement when they're 30. What a wonderful life we all have ahead of ourselves." That would involve no swearing, no cussing, nothing directed at her kids, but IMHO that's all way worse than saying, what Lisa says she said.
    Are you trying to say she handled the situation well? She certainly didn't. Why defend what she did? She should have done something different. There are more choices than just what she did and this hypothetical you portray here. I'm not saying we all do the right thing every time....but really, that is a very ugly moment to share simply to say "You know what, i'm tired of feeling under appreciated"

    And this isn't an "article" that she "published" intending to spread some kind of information or opinion to others. It's a vent posted on her personal blog.
    Who cares what its technically called. She put it out on the internet for everyone to read.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    I can relate to this post, in that I have a temper and occasionally lose my **** with the kids. Not to this extent, but it happens. What I find missing though is the 'we all ended up sitting on the kitchen floor, cuddled in my bed, etc, talking about what happened, how mommy was wrong, where they were wrong, how I would try not to let it happen again etc. Another big thing I found was missing was the 'what I learned from this experience'. I always try to take away something to prevent a repeat, in fact, I often get the kids to help me with this. Things like, taking away the clicker, or turning off the TV if the channel gets changed, taking the lock off the door, going to your room when told to, and on moms end, if I feel like I am losing my temper, giving myself a time out alone in my bedroom.

    I would have appreciated this post a lot more if it had included those things, been a learning moment that she was choosing to pass on. But instead it is just a whiny 'being a mom is hard' post and it makes me a bit ragey as well.
    THIS exactly. There is no apologetic tone to what happened. Just fury with motherhood. She used the moment as a set up to portray her frustration with motherhood and nothing else. Thats really bothersome.

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    Oh and FTR I laughed a lot at GO the **** To Sleep.

    That didn't bother me in the least. Its a humorous piece...and its not meant to be read to kids.

    Sorry for the serial posting...i was very busy all weekend and just catching up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    I guess I'm missing the part where she's cussing out her kids. She cusses at her husband, but not her kids. Except to say "goddamn" which many of don't consider to be "cussing" in the way that **** & **** & ***** are. It's not even censored by pg.org.
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    I do however, think this is swearing at your kids:

    "Michael?s trying to calm me. ?Leave me alone!? I yelled at him. ?I do EVERYTHING for you people ? including YOU! ? and you all treat me like ****! Every last one of you!?"(
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    From what I remember of Lisa, she did have a very abrasive tone when posting here. I'm not entirely surprised by her blog post, sadly.

    I'm sure all of us here can say we've had a moment where the dam broke, and we kind of flipped our lid. But what she described wasn't just flipping her lid - she went way past that to a very dark territory, with the "I'm going to kill you" comment. Honestly, even in my worst ppd moments I never, ever would have said that to my kids. That part bothers me even more than the swearing.
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    I tell DD that I'm going to brain her, however it's said in jest when she's being a pain. She definitely pushes my buttons too and I have had a couple of explosive moments with her. We all have different personalities, as do our children so of course what I think is OK others may not and vice versa.

    When my DD is playing up and acting like a demon, I sometimes do feel completely isolated like she's the only disruptive child in the history of the world! Haha OTT but it's true and it's good to hear I'm NOT alone.

    I don;t feel sorry for the kids either - personally I don;t think they'll ever read it BUT if they do, why would they feel hurt by it and not take it in jest? I know I would if it was my Mother.

    Like I said, different personalities.

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