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NAD- Elementary school shooting in CT (Children Death Ment)

I have zero desire to debate anything about this right now (like, gun control, or whatever usually comes out of these debates), but I just wanted to say that my heart is breaking hearing about the elementary school shooting in CT. My thoughts are with those families that have lost loved ones today. :cryinghard: I can't even wrap my head around it.

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I completely understand. All I can do is think of my precious girls and how I can not imagine someone doing this to them. The grief of the parents, teachers, and the whole community must be unreal. I can not even wrap my mind around their pain.

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We are In the car heading to dc and the news has me sobbing. My mom put my son on the bus to kindy an hour ago and all of my being wants to turn the car around and hug my sweet boy. I'm just holding space for those poor parents and holding them lovingly in the light- my heart breaks for them.

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I'm just so sad and i don't understand...i just don't. I get to leave soon to get my children, right now, i never want to send them back again. We are at the mercy of the people in our communities. Those families....thats all i keep thinking. Oh my god, those families.

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That is so sad! Those poor families. Those poor kids.

All I want to do is go and hug my kids and be thankful that they are happy and healthy and safe. One of them is at school right now. I want to text her to make sure she is ok! (I am not going to cause that would be a bit much, but I still really want to!)

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Heard the news that it was kindergartners this morning while in class, I could hear my kindergartner giggling through the wall. I really want to throw up. My heart is so broken for the families of all the people involved.

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My son Rocco just turned 7 yesterday. He is in first grade and they are having their class party at school today, like these kids probably were getting ready to do. It breaks my heart.

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I still just can not wrap my mind around this. Can you even imagine? Can you imagine being a first responder to that situation? Just the thought makes me want to vomit. How awful! Hugging my little kindergartner extra close.

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I cannot stop crying and am on edge waiting for my girl to come home so I can squeeze her so tight until she's ready to pop. This is an awful awful situation.

This stuff is so much worse once you are a mom. Knowing how quickly your child can be taken from you is heartbreaking.

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I went to lunch to grab something, started reading some things on Facebook, and I seriously could not stop crying to come back into work. I had to call my husband finally so he could talk me down. It is just devastating. Obviously it would be horrible any time of year, but these families will never be able to enjoy the holidays again...this time of year will only ever remind them of devastation and loss.

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This stuff is so much worse once you are a mom. Knowing how quickly your child can be taken from you is heartbreaking.

I agree that it is so much worse when you have kids. That this was the same age as my kids devastates me.

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My oldest is 4 and goes to preschool in the elementary school~just the thought is just too much.

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The latest I read said that his mother was a Kindergarten teacher and he killed her and all 20 children in her class. How could someone have that much hatred? It is just unreal.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I agree that it is so much worse when you have kids. That this was the same age as my kids devastates me.

I agree. My oldest is 4 1/2 and in pre-K right now and all I can think about is him and the sweet babies in his class, all those beautiful little faces and good natures, and it makes me want to puke that anyone could look at kids just barely older than them and want to hurt them. I can't bear the thought of how scared they must have been.

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Just can't fathom it.

My oldest (15) got told at school. My youngest (10, in 4th grade) doesn't know anything yet. We are keeping TV turned away from news channels when he's nearby, he wouldn't understand it at all. When they were talking to someone about the Holiday Concert the 4th graders did lastnight where alot of the community was present, i completely lost it.

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Can you imagine being a first responder to that situation?

Yup, and thats what scares me about even thinking about becoming an EMT. I've been looking into it for awhile and knowing that the potential for these situations is there really makes me wonder if i could handle it.

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The fear that those kindergartners had is what hurts me the most. Last week we did a fire drill with my pre-k kids. I told them ahead of time what was going on and some of them were still really scared.

ETA, okay maybe not the most, but a whole lot

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My heart absolutely breaks for these children and their families Sad . I work for Scholastic, and we heard there was a shooting right after it happened so we would know not to call schools in the area. I just can't even imagine...

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"mom3girls" wrote:

The fear that those kindergartners had is what hurts me the most. Last week we did a fire drill with my pre-k kids. I told them ahead of time what was going on and some of them were still really scared.

ETA, okay maybe not the most, but a whole lot

This is how I feel too. If they had succumbed to a gas leak or something where they all just passed out and went peacefully, it would be really sad, but I wouldn't have this tearing feeling in my gut about it. But that they were so scared, and watched there friends get shot and die......oh, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy, let alone a 5 year old.

I met DD at the door of her school today, like I always do, and gave her the biggest hug. Her response, typically, was 'too tight! Can I go play?'. I am seriously tearing up imagining never having that again.

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I just realized my cousin lives in Newtown, CT. I knew she lived in CT, but not exactly where. Thankfully she and all of her close family and friends are ok. Her twins are just a little older than my youngest, almost 4. Such a devastating loss.

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Been sick about it all day, heard about it about 30minutes after the initial reports started coming out. This and the slayings of Kindergarteners in China this morning also.. Makes me think more about my choices as a parent and our faith.

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This is so heartbreaking. Sad

There were no slayings in China, Rivergallery. There was a horrible knife attack, but no one died. Thank goodness.

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BBC News - China children 'hacked to death' in new school attack

Rereading it.. is this not from today? Maybe I misread it and this is an old report?

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It is an old one, and you are right I found a newer article on the one today.. TY.. so very sad.. China has quite a few of these at schools since 2010 especially.. Poor little ones.

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I wanted to post yesterday but it was so horrible that I just could not stop crying. I don't know what to say. I wish I could make it all better for all of those people.

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This morning was the first time I could bring myself to read the actual news stories. I don't know how to deal with my feelings on it. I can't imagine any human being able to look at these sweet babies and kill them. Much less decide to do this, plan it, and search for them to kill.

I just keep thinking about all those christmas presents that those famliies bought for these 6 and 7 year olds. I cry every time I think of what they must feel seeing those presents under the tree, or stashed away that they bought, hoping to see smiles of joy and watch the kids open and play with them. What will they do with them? How could any human deal with that?

And please please please. PLEASE no one say that everything happens for a reason. There is NO reason that anyone should have to deal with any of this.

Two things I am grateful for.
That this man is dead. I can't imagine how we would be able to deal with him, or how drawn out it would all be. This was the best closure that could happen as far as he is concerned. I can't imagine what I would want to do with him, and I don't think any human could rationally decide what to do.
That his mother didn't live to see what he did. I'm NOT not not saying that she deserved it or anything remotely like that. It's horrible that he killed her, and I can't imagine knowing your child could kill you. But, I would sooner be dead than know my son was capable of anything like this.

This just makes me hurt.

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"Sapphire Sunsets" wrote:

*eta*
Yup, and thats what scares me about even thinking about becoming an EMT. I've been looking into it for awhile and knowing that the potential for these situations is there really makes me wonder if i could handle it.

It definitely takes an amazing kind of person. I am grateful to all of the responders and all they do. I know that I could never do it!

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The fear that those kindergartners had is what hurts me the most. Last week we did a fire drill with my pre-k kids. I told them ahead of time what was going on and some of them were still really scared.

ETA, okay maybe not the most, but a whole lot

I just keep thinking that all of these babies just wanted their mommy or daddy to be there to love them and protect them and make them feel better. And there was no way for them to be. How do you deal with that as a parent? Knowing you couldn't be there? Another thing no human should ever have to deal with.

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My facebook feed has been flooded with 'remember the victims, not the shooter' types of messages and pictures. The one that really gets to me is the grade one teacher who hid her kids and then lied about where they were. I dont know if its true or not, but I cant imagine the presents of mind that she had and the courage to stand up to the gunman. I am crying as I write this. She is a true hero, and the kind of teacher I want my kids to have. Not just because she took the bullets for them, but because she cared so absolutely much to take those bullets. And hers is only one of the stories coming out of this horrible event. This is absolutely a horrible thing that happened. I cant help but think of all the good those kids could have done in the world, how much they will be missed.

eta: I genrally dont believe in evil, but this was truly evil thing.

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Like the people in that town, I am struggling to understeand why this happened. I can not understand how or if a person anywhere could not see anything troubling. I know someone was saying he had a form of Autism, but I do not know enough about Autism to know if that could have played a part in this.

I know that a few weeks ago I took my kids to a farm and my neice complained that the boy on the playground was being really mean and a little physical. I told her to just leave hom alone and stay away from him. He obviously did not hear me say this. I had to change the baby's diaper so I took her to the van, which was about 25 ft from the playground area. My sister in law watched the others while I was gone. So I was changing the baby and I turned around as I was feeling like someone was there. It was that boy. It startled me a little because I did not hear him come up, but I ignored him and continued with the baby. He just stood there empty like staring and it was very creepy. The suddenly he pushed the door shut as hard as he could on me and continued to press for a few seconds til I pushed it open. Then he left like nothing happened. I told my husband what happened and he told me that he knew thqt boy's father and he has Autism.

But I know other kids who have Autism and they were non emotional like but they were ust by themselves, never creating problems or anything aggressive. So that leads me to lean towards perhaps Autism and some other issue co-exists in the boy that pushed the door on me and this shooter. I do know I will never forget how the boy's face looked, a cold, blank, empty, non present stare combined with the way he appeared from no where.

Perhaps it is harder to see what exactly is also going on because of the Autism? But he apparently blended in well enough throughout his life that people did not feel he had deeeeep issues. Being quiet or a little reserved isnt something alarming if he seemed ok otherwise. He was also very smart and sometimes smart kids do not mix up well.

IDk for some reason I really want to know what went wrong. I guess because of my own insecurities and if it is something we could work on to prevent from happening again. i feel like figuring out what went wrong is the first step.

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Friend of mine with an autistic son posted a link to this article - 'I am Adam Lanza's mother,' says mom of mentally ill son

The Autism spectrem in general is vast. But it encompasses abnormal social behaviors. The autistic children I worked with one was savant, two others couldn't speak, so yes one can be very intelligent.. but the do not understand normal social behaviors. IE if they like a child they may pull their hair, and not see it as bad. Their sense of right and wrong has to be explained thoroughly, and might be very difficult for them to comprehend. Also change is very difficult for them. They see the world as if something happened once one way it should always be that way. Often they are prone to tantrums when things change. They are often sound/photo or tactile sensitive, and can experience overload. The savant I worked with was highly intelligent and at 1st grade spoke 5 languages and could sight read the piano, and knew long division. What he couldn't do was put a story in order if he hadn't heard it. Make up an ending to a story. I had to teach him social skills, and how to interact with others just like I was teaching him reading.. it was a very interesting and rewarding experience. Sometimes the autistic child can appear normal.. it isn't like downs syndrome where their facial features are telling. And sometimes are on the spectrum in such a way that with parental and therapeutic help they can overcome and be successful members of society. Other times it doesn't matter how much therapy they receive they never "get it", and OFTEN they have addition mental issues. Hope this explains Autism a bit to you. Next time you are at the park it would be a wonderful thing for you to approach their parent and discuss how to help your daughter play with this boy. Having it well supervised, and separating the children when he steps out of line every single time, will cause him to see it as.. IF this happens .. this always happens, and he will stop doing the behaviors... and with both adults there it won't have a chance to HURT your daughter ... and might teach her empathy for differences Smile

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I was at a farm which had a playground area. At the playground area there was a trampoline, which the kids were jumping on. The boy was pushing kids around almost off the trampoline, despite their requests to stop pushing them around. That is why my niece came and complained. So, I asked her to avoid him. After watching him, I could tell there was something else going on why he was behaving that way. The boy was around 10 and wasn't behaving as a 10 year normally would. But, I left and went to the vehicle parking and he followed me, so very quietly. Then he proceeded to squish me with my van door. Knowing that he has something wrong, I didn't respond, except to push the door off of me. When I saw the way he was looking at me I knew he probably had Autism because he completely lacked depth and empathy. The same niece's brother has Autism so I do understand about Autism, but, the aggressive behavior is not something I've seen before. I am sure everyone is an individual with varying degrees of struggle, but I don't know how if aggression is common. I do know lack of empathy is common. So, I can see there could be some correlation, but on a clinical level I don't know. Now, my husband told me later that he indeed does have Autism, which explained inappropriateness. I am not going to try to get my niece to interact more with him, not because of Autism, but because of serious aggression and abusive behavior. She knows about Autism and her brother has Autism.

My point is that perhaps it is possible for Autism plus other, any other, mental illness to additionally co-exist. If a person has Schizophrenia along with Autism, it seems a really bad combination. While Schizophrenics aren't usually violent outright, it can be secondary to delusional persecutions, substance abuse, suicidal thoughts and acts, etc.

Basically Im only trying to figure out if perhaps he has other issues besides Autism which made for such a tragedy.

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He had developemental delays and was "slightly" autistic. Which scares me because thats my oldest (15) in a nutshell, i'm afraid that people are going to treat him differently now.

I was also reading that he had an altercation the day before with the principal and 2 other women that were killed, the other woman wasn't their on Friday and they've been questioning her. Plus, tuesday he tried to buy a gun but couldn't because of the waiting period. There is definately going to be things coming out about some sort of mental illness. It just makes no sense that he would go to the school after killing his mother, if she was only a subsitute teacher she wasn't giving the kids more time then him.

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I agree. I am terrified that pointing out that he was slightly autistic and had delays is going to put all kids with those. same issues in the same category. I don't want people thinking my daughter is capable of such things.

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The overall knowledge concerning the autistic spectrum is pitifully lacking. Adding in the mention of autism is not going to make people more informed, but more likely to jump to conclusions about every child on the spectrum. I hope this leads to more knowlege and less stimatized by mental disorders

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I agree with your post, which is why I think it is important to clearly, if possible, identify what the issue was. It is difficult for me to say he did this because he had Autism and delays. I feel like there has to be other issues coexisting. Hopefully the investigators will delve into any treatment he has had.

I know a lot of people are calling this pure evil and dont get me wrong it is beyond my words. I just dont think evil had something to do with it. I see an overwhelming anger that suddenly erupted but I dont think a person who comprehends the situation could do something like this. I just do not think it is possible to kill these sweet kids like this. It is hard for me to believe that a person could get so angry as to do this unless there are a couple of other contributing factors

I am having such a hard time with this to be honest. I feel so bad for parents in other countries who bury their kids everyday due to war an I cry so bad when I pay attention to that news. I guess we have so much detailed coverage of this whih makes it more intense to cope with. I just wish at least we could figure this out for understanding and not just put the blame on evil. I think blaming on evil will leavenus all scared and realizing how vulnerable we always ate because there are so many bad people out there. If we know he had bad issues maybe we could move forward and know we dont have to freak out every time we send our kids to school. I dont want my own kids to leave home tomorrow. I know it is reactionary. But i cant help it.

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He had developemental delays and was "slightly" autistic. Which scares me because thats my oldest (15) in a nutshell, i'm afraid that people are going to treat him differently now.

I was also reading that he had an altercation the day before with the principal and 2 other women that were killed, the other woman wasn't their on Friday and they've been questioning her. Plus, tuesday he tried to buy a gun but couldn't because of the waiting period. There is definately going to be things coming out about some sort of mental illness. It just makes no sense that he would go to the school after killing his mother, if she was only a subsitute teacher she wasn't giving the kids more time then him.

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I am a little in awe of the change in topic. There are many, many people with Autism that have never and would never do something like this. Blaming this horror on Autism will only harm others with Autism. Obviously someone would have to be not in their right mind to be capable of something like this.

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I didn't take the change to mean that anyone here thinks that just that the media is giving that out as a possible explanation.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I am a little in awe of the change in topic. There are many, many people with Autism that have never and would never do something like this. Blaming this horror on Autism will only harm others with Autism. Obviously someone would have to be not in their right mind to be capable of something like this.

I'm a little in awe of how clearly I've not said that but yet it has been read that way.

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I didn't read this in CNN, but just read it in another article:

Perhaps the older brother recognized some severe issues to make him believe that he had Schizophrenia or BiPolar Disorder as I was suggesting earlier in my posts. I don't think his brother would randomly suggest this if there was no indication of something substantial, some acts that he had done.

A relative of Newtown, Conn. shooter Adam Lanza told investigators that Lanza had a form of autism, CNN reported on Sunday, Dec. 16, according to a law enforcement official , who spoke under the condition of anonymity due to the sensitive nature of the investigation.

Adam?s older brother, Ryan Lanza, 24, was first identified as the shooter at Sandy Hook Elementary school. Adam Lanza had Ryan?s identification on his person at the time of the shooting. Ryan Lanza was taken into custody on Friday, Dec. 14 and questioned by law enforcement officials. Ryan told investigators that not only did his younger brother Adam have a personality disorder, perhaps paranoid schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, but that Adam was autistic.

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On Friday, Dec. 14 Lanza, 20, donned black fatigues and a military vest, drove to Sandy Hook Elementary school, shooting his way in and then slaughtering 26 innocent people, 20 children no older than seven-years-old, and six adults.

Authorities have offered few details about Lanza, but one of Adam?s family members, an aunt named Marsha, described him as a ?quiet nice kid? who had ?issues with learning.?

Reportedly Nancy Lanza, Adam?s mother, ?battled? with the school board at some point made the decision to home-school Adam, who is described as ?quiet, withdrawn, very, very bright.?

National committee warns against making connection between autism, violence - Buffalo Top News | Examiner.com

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Risk factors for violent offending in a... [J Interpers Violence. 2009] - PubMed - NCBI

Risk factors for violent offending in autism spectrum disorder: a national study of hospitalized individuals.
L?ngstr?m N, Grann M, Ruchkin V, Sj?stedt G, Fazel S.
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Centre for Violence Prevention, Karolinska Institutet, Stockholm, Sweden. [email]niklas.langstrom@ki.se[/email]

Abstract

Little is known about risk factors for violence among individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). This study uses data from Swedish longitudinal registers for all 422 individuals hospitalized with autistic disorder or Asperger syndrome during 1988-2000 and compares those committing violent or sexual offenses with those who did not. Thirty-one individuals with ASD (7%) were convicted of violent nonsexual crimes and two of sexual offenses. Violent individuals with ASD are more often male and diagnosed with Asperger syndrome rather than autistic disorder. Furthermore, comorbid psychotic and substance use disorders are associated with violent offending. We conclude that violent offending in ASD is related to similar co-occurring psychopathology as previously found among violent individuals without ASD. Although this study does not answer whether ASDs are associated with increased risk of violent offending compared with the general population, careful risk assessment and management may be indicated for some individuals with Asperger syndrome.
PMID: 18701743 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

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My work was having our holiday party on Friday, and I had a lot to do before taking off the afternoon, so I never logged onto the internet. Then I realized I'd forgotten something at home so I rushed back to get it, and heard the news on the radio. The DJ came on after a song and started to say something about a school shooting in Connecticut, and she started crying. She said there had been some discussion at the station about whether to switch over to their sister news station, and the decision was no; people who wanted news knew where to tune to get it, and those who wanted to hear music, for whatever reason, should be able to have music. The DJ encouraged people to call in & talk with her because she was feeling very isolated in her booth and was craving human contact.

DH & I decided not to talk with Tiven about it, but we had to. On Saturday morning, she & Weston started playing, "hide from the intruder at school." Turns out her after-school Spanish teacher told the class what had happened. I'm furious about that.

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A little disgusted with how this thread kept going...

What a horrible thing to bring autism into as one more reason to ostracize the growing numbers of children that fall on the spectrum.

GREAT article.

Expert: Asperger’s Syndrome Unfairly Scapegoated For School Massacre ? CBS New York

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I am hoping no one took my post as me saying there should be a connection brought up between autism and violence. I really really hope that no one tries to say that at all, it makes me fear for people with autism. I think there is so much misinformation about autism already, I would hate to see fear added to the misconceptions

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It's all over the media. It's not like I introduced it. I in fact was fighting this idea. Did you even read my posts or did you just read how you wanted to.

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A little disgusted with how this thread kept going...

What a horrible thing to bring autism into as one more reason to ostracize the growing numbers of children that fall on the spectrum.

GREAT article.

Expert: Asperger?s Syndrome Unfairly Scapegoated For School Massacre ? CBS New York

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I am a little in awe of the change in topic. There are many, many people with Autism that have never and would never do something like this. Blaming this horror on Autism will only harm others with Autism. Obviously someone would have to be not in their right mind to be capable of something like this.

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Where in any of this discussion did you get that from?

This isn't blaming this on Autism. This is people on this site who have children with autism(or know a child with autism) being concerned that other people are going to blame this on Autism and treat our children differently thinking our children would be capable of something like this.

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"Sapphire Sunsets" wrote:

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Where in any of this discussion did you get that from?

This isn't blaming this on Autism. This is people on this site who have children with autism(or know a child with autism) being concerned that other people are going to blame this on Autism and treat our children differently thinking our children would be capable of something like this.

I got the same thing as she did... That's why I was a little bit irked.

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My work was having our holiday party on Friday, and I had a lot to do before taking off the afternoon, so I never logged onto the internet. Then I realized I'd forgotten something at home so I rushed back to get it, and heard the news on the radio. The DJ came on after a song and started to say something about a school shooting in Connecticut, and she started crying. She said there had been some discussion at the station about whether to switch over to their sister news station, and the decision was no; people who wanted news knew where to tune to get it, and those who wanted to hear music, for whatever reason, should be able to have music. The DJ encouraged people to call in & talk with her because she was feeling very isolated in her booth and was craving human contact.

DH & I decided not to talk with Tiven about it, but we had to. On Saturday morning, she & Weston started playing, "hide from the intruder at school." Turns out her after-school Spanish teacher told the class what had happened. I'm furious about that.

Our schools do this already. We have lock down drills, where teachers lock the doors and the students have a designated space to go to in the classroom, where they cant be seen from the door. I dont see why a teacher would feel that they have to take it farther than that with the kids. That is a horrible thing that her teacher did. Even if she was upset and just blurted it out, she should have let you know herself so that you could address it with Tiven.

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Such a lost innocence. I over heard my 5 year old talking to my 7 year old about dying. I was in total shock and heartbroken. 5 and 7 years old should not be having to think about hiding from intruders.

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I am late to this. . .have been out of commission with the flu.

I keep thinking I can read the stories about this and then I break down and cry again. It's so horrible. It's everyone's worst nightmare.

Our school (grades K-5) has decided not to discuss with the kids, but if one of them raises the issue then they will address it. They have a staff psychologist around and the teachers are making sure to stay in communication about it. So far none of the kids have brought it up.

We have not discussed it with our kids. I know I'm overdoing it but I want to shelter them from these horrors for as long as I can, especially one that strikes so close to home. My husband and I are still in a bit of shock over it, it's not all that far away from us and many of our co-workers live in Connecticut and have kids in the schools there.

Beyond devastating.

I will say I am weary of the Facebook updates saying "like this post if you really care".....it trivializes the whole thing.

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My boys had heard about it from friends by the time I got home from work on Friday, so I did talk with them but kept it very brief. Our principal sent out a voicemail to all the families to let us know that they are available for anyone, student or parent, who needs to talk, and also that they're analyzing their security. Matt's 5th grade teacher made a very brief mention, just letting the kids know that they will do everything in their power to keep them safe while they're at school. Matt said that's really all they mentioned in his and Nathan's school (Nathan's class didn't talk about it...he's in 4th grade). Thomas is in high school, and they had a moment of silence right at the beginning of the day to remember the victims.

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Emma asked me if i had heard about what happened that same day. All her friends have iphones and stuff now and they all talk about stuff, i'm not surprised she heard about it. But I think her best friends father also talked a little about it with them as he was bringing them to a basketball game. I'm okay with that. She's old enough that I feel its best that she knows and we can talk about it, and that she's not only talking about it with her friends.

I was holding off talking about it with my other kids though. Aodhan is afraid of dying. Sometimes when i put him to bed, he will get himself worked up thinking about it and we have to talk a little bit. This has happened two or three times over the last couple of years. And on top of that he's old enough to put a lot of thought into what happened and possibly doubt any reassurance i could give him.

But on Sunday they mentioned it at Church. Not specifically what or how it all happened, but you easily could get the gist that something terrible happened. Aodhan looked like he had tuned out (which is common at church at his age) so i didn't even know if he had heard waht was being said. But then yesterday he came home and asked me specifically if i had heard what had happened in Newtown. I guess one of his friends had talked to him about it.

He asked "what if something like that happens here?" I told him thats why they practice evacuation drills and lockdown drills and that their principal is always working hard to keep them safe...and that what happened isn't normal, that the person who did this was very sick and that this wasn't going to happen at their school (while deep down inside i won't admit to him that every parent has a bit of fear put into them now).

I told the kids that if they have any questions to just ask me and we can talk about it.

Its so hard to try to show your kids that you aren't worried when in reality, i think we were all made to feel so much more vulnerable.

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I came home sick from work on Friday and DH called to ask if I'd seen the news. I turned on the TV, then shut it off almost immediately. I felt physically ill. All I wanted to do was run to DD's school and pick her up and get her the heck out of there. Admitedly I've been avoiding the media coverage. It's too much to even bear thinking about and my heart aches.

At this point the kids, esp DD, know nothing of it and it will likely remain that way unless, for some reason, a classmate talks about it to DD. Like Kyla, we also have lockdown drills at DD's school. I'm sure it's pretty common nowadays. And you're right, Bonita, little kids should need to learn about how to hide from an intruder, but sadly enough it's the reality we live. I think I'd prefer my kids to know what to do in that situation and then me have to answer questions about why, than them not know at all. KWIM? I think we all would.

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Oh, Kim. Miles and Aodhan sound like they have the same heart (maybe all of these sisters Smile ) Miles worries himself and is anxious-- no way can I share with him what happened.

We did sit our big girls down (ages 7 & 9)-- and I absolutely felt like I was robbing of them of their innocence. Sucks. We kept it honest and straightforward and gave some details but not all. Scary stuff. Feels like one more of 500 things we have to deal with today that parents 30 years ago didn't have to.....*sigh*

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