I am hoping no one took my post as me saying there should be a connection brought up between autism and violence. I really really hope that no one tries to say that at all, it makes me fear for people with autism. I think there is so much misinformation about autism already, I would hate to see fear added to the misconceptions
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson
Where in any of this discussion did you get that from?
This isn't blaming this on Autism. This is people on this site who have children with autism(or know a child with autism) being concerned that other people are going to blame this on Autism and treat our children differently thinking our children would be capable of something like this.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)
I am late to this. . .have been out of commission with the flu.
I keep thinking I can read the stories about this and then I break down and cry again. It's so horrible. It's everyone's worst nightmare.
Our school (grades K-5) has decided not to discuss with the kids, but if one of them raises the issue then they will address it. They have a staff psychologist around and the teachers are making sure to stay in communication about it. So far none of the kids have brought it up.
We have not discussed it with our kids. I know I'm overdoing it but I want to shelter them from these horrors for as long as I can, especially one that strikes so close to home. My husband and I are still in a bit of shock over it, it's not all that far away from us and many of our co-workers live in Connecticut and have kids in the schools there.
I will say I am weary of the Facebook updates saying "like this post if you really care".....it trivializes the whole thing.
Laurie, mom to:
Nathaniel ( 10 ) and Juliet ( 6 )
Baking Adventures In A Messy Kitchen (blog)
My boys had heard about it from friends by the time I got home from work on Friday, so I did talk with them but kept it very brief. Our principal sent out a voicemail to all the families to let us know that they are available for anyone, student or parent, who needs to talk, and also that they're analyzing their security. Matt's 5th grade teacher made a very brief mention, just letting the kids know that they will do everything in their power to keep them safe while they're at school. Matt said that's really all they mentioned in his and Nathan's school (Nathan's class didn't talk about it...he's in 4th grade). Thomas is in high school, and they had a moment of silence right at the beginning of the day to remember the victims.
Carolyn - 37
Wife to Chad - 39
Mom to Tom - 15
Nathan - 10
Emma asked me if i had heard about what happened that same day. All her friends have iphones and stuff now and they all talk about stuff, i'm not surprised she heard about it. But I think her best friends father also talked a little about it with them as he was bringing them to a basketball game. I'm okay with that. She's old enough that I feel its best that she knows and we can talk about it, and that she's not only talking about it with her friends.
I was holding off talking about it with my other kids though. Aodhan is afraid of dying. Sometimes when i put him to bed, he will get himself worked up thinking about it and we have to talk a little bit. This has happened two or three times over the last couple of years. And on top of that he's old enough to put a lot of thought into what happened and possibly doubt any reassurance i could give him.
But on Sunday they mentioned it at Church. Not specifically what or how it all happened, but you easily could get the gist that something terrible happened. Aodhan looked like he had tuned out (which is common at church at his age) so i didn't even know if he had heard waht was being said. But then yesterday he came home and asked me specifically if i had heard what had happened in Newtown. I guess one of his friends had talked to him about it.
He asked "what if something like that happens here?" I told him thats why they practice evacuation drills and lockdown drills and that their principal is always working hard to keep them safe...and that what happened isn't normal, that the person who did this was very sick and that this wasn't going to happen at their school (while deep down inside i won't admit to him that every parent has a bit of fear put into them now).
I told the kids that if they have any questions to just ask me and we can talk about it.
Its so hard to try to show your kids that you aren't worried when in reality, i think we were all made to feel so much more vulnerable.
I came home sick from work on Friday and DH called to ask if I'd seen the news. I turned on the TV, then shut it off almost immediately. I felt physically ill. All I wanted to do was run to DD's school and pick her up and get her the heck out of there. Admitedly I've been avoiding the media coverage. It's too much to even bear thinking about and my heart aches.
At this point the kids, esp DD, know nothing of it and it will likely remain that way unless, for some reason, a classmate talks about it to DD. Like Kyla, we also have lockdown drills at DD's school. I'm sure it's pretty common nowadays. And you're right, Bonita, little kids should need to learn about how to hide from an intruder, but sadly enough it's the reality we live. I think I'd prefer my kids to know what to do in that situation and then me have to answer questions about why, than them not know at all. KWIM? I think we all would.