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    I am hoping no one took my post as me saying there should be a connection brought up between autism and violence. I really really hope that no one tries to say that at all, it makes me fear for people with autism. I think there is so much misinformation about autism already, I would hate to see fear added to the misconceptions
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    It's all over the media. It's not like I introduced it. I in fact was fighting this idea. Did you even read my posts or did you just read how you wanted to.

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    A little disgusted with how this thread kept going...

    What a horrible thing to bring autism into as one more reason to ostracize the growing numbers of children that fall on the spectrum.


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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I am a little in awe of the change in topic. There are many, many people with Autism that have never and would never do something like this. Blaming this horror on Autism will only harm others with Autism. Obviously someone would have to be not in their right mind to be capable of something like this.

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    Where in any of this discussion did you get that from?

    This isn't blaming this on Autism. This is people on this site who have children with autism(or know a child with autism) being concerned that other people are going to blame this on Autism and treat our children differently thinking our children would be capable of something like this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sapphire Sunsets View Post
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    Where in any of this discussion did you get that from?

    This isn't blaming this on Autism. This is people on this site who have children with autism(or know a child with autism) being concerned that other people are going to blame this on Autism and treat our children differently thinking our children would be capable of something like this.
    I got the same thing as she did... That's why I was a little bit irked.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    My work was having our holiday party on Friday, and I had a lot to do before taking off the afternoon, so I never logged onto the internet. Then I realized I'd forgotten something at home so I rushed back to get it, and heard the news on the radio. The DJ came on after a song and started to say something about a school shooting in Connecticut, and she started crying. She said there had been some discussion at the station about whether to switch over to their sister news station, and the decision was no; people who wanted news knew where to tune to get it, and those who wanted to hear music, for whatever reason, should be able to have music. The DJ encouraged people to call in & talk with her because she was feeling very isolated in her booth and was craving human contact.

    DH & I decided not to talk with Tiven about it, but we had to. On Saturday morning, she & Weston started playing, "hide from the intruder at school." Turns out her after-school Spanish teacher told the class what had happened. I'm furious about that.
    Our schools do this already. We have lock down drills, where teachers lock the doors and the students have a designated space to go to in the classroom, where they cant be seen from the door. I dont see why a teacher would feel that they have to take it farther than that with the kids. That is a horrible thing that her teacher did. Even if she was upset and just blurted it out, she should have let you know herself so that you could address it with Tiven.
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    Such a lost innocence. I over heard my 5 year old talking to my 7 year old about dying. I was in total shock and heartbroken. 5 and 7 years old should not be having to think about hiding from intruders.

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    I am late to this. . .have been out of commission with the flu.

    I keep thinking I can read the stories about this and then I break down and cry again. It's so horrible. It's everyone's worst nightmare.

    Our school (grades K-5) has decided not to discuss with the kids, but if one of them raises the issue then they will address it. They have a staff psychologist around and the teachers are making sure to stay in communication about it. So far none of the kids have brought it up.

    We have not discussed it with our kids. I know I'm overdoing it but I want to shelter them from these horrors for as long as I can, especially one that strikes so close to home. My husband and I are still in a bit of shock over it, it's not all that far away from us and many of our co-workers live in Connecticut and have kids in the schools there.

    Beyond devastating.

    I will say I am weary of the Facebook updates saying "like this post if you really care".....it trivializes the whole thing.
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    My boys had heard about it from friends by the time I got home from work on Friday, so I did talk with them but kept it very brief. Our principal sent out a voicemail to all the families to let us know that they are available for anyone, student or parent, who needs to talk, and also that they're analyzing their security. Matt's 5th grade teacher made a very brief mention, just letting the kids know that they will do everything in their power to keep them safe while they're at school. Matt said that's really all they mentioned in his and Nathan's school (Nathan's class didn't talk about it...he's in 4th grade). Thomas is in high school, and they had a moment of silence right at the beginning of the day to remember the victims.
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    Emma asked me if i had heard about what happened that same day. All her friends have iphones and stuff now and they all talk about stuff, i'm not surprised she heard about it. But I think her best friends father also talked a little about it with them as he was bringing them to a basketball game. I'm okay with that. She's old enough that I feel its best that she knows and we can talk about it, and that she's not only talking about it with her friends.

    I was holding off talking about it with my other kids though. Aodhan is afraid of dying. Sometimes when i put him to bed, he will get himself worked up thinking about it and we have to talk a little bit. This has happened two or three times over the last couple of years. And on top of that he's old enough to put a lot of thought into what happened and possibly doubt any reassurance i could give him.

    But on Sunday they mentioned it at Church. Not specifically what or how it all happened, but you easily could get the gist that something terrible happened. Aodhan looked like he had tuned out (which is common at church at his age) so i didn't even know if he had heard waht was being said. But then yesterday he came home and asked me specifically if i had heard what had happened in Newtown. I guess one of his friends had talked to him about it.

    He asked "what if something like that happens here?" I told him thats why they practice evacuation drills and lockdown drills and that their principal is always working hard to keep them safe...and that what happened isn't normal, that the person who did this was very sick and that this wasn't going to happen at their school (while deep down inside i won't admit to him that every parent has a bit of fear put into them now).

    I told the kids that if they have any questions to just ask me and we can talk about it.

    Its so hard to try to show your kids that you aren't worried when in reality, i think we were all made to feel so much more vulnerable.

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    I came home sick from work on Friday and DH called to ask if I'd seen the news. I turned on the TV, then shut it off almost immediately. I felt physically ill. All I wanted to do was run to DD's school and pick her up and get her the heck out of there. Admitedly I've been avoiding the media coverage. It's too much to even bear thinking about and my heart aches.

    At this point the kids, esp DD, know nothing of it and it will likely remain that way unless, for some reason, a classmate talks about it to DD. Like Kyla, we also have lockdown drills at DD's school. I'm sure it's pretty common nowadays. And you're right, Bonita, little kids should need to learn about how to hide from an intruder, but sadly enough it's the reality we live. I think I'd prefer my kids to know what to do in that situation and then me have to answer questions about why, than them not know at all. KWIM? I think we all would.

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