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NAD - Presents

This is not a debate and I don't want any mommy wars. But I would love some input from other moms.

Backstory on this is that we have a friend who loves to buy her (only) child presents for holidays and birthdays. She gets probably 20-30 presents (or more) for each. Now this seems like an awful lot to me (which I have half said but can't say outright). This year DD got 3 presents from us for her birthday and 8 for christmas. We probably spend about $75 on each bundle of stuff. And we did save up for the playmobile castle from Santa. It was spendy, but it was on sale so we got a really good deal. We also spent easily $100 on each of the teenagers. We felt that this was a lot and actually had to make ourselves get a bit more for DD cause she doesn't really need more stuff. It was hard to find enough things she really needed or wanted.

But now I wonder. Did we do too little? Are other families getting their children 20+ presents for their birthdays and christmas? Is this just an only child thing? Is our $100 (about 5-10 presents or 1 for the teens) per child limit cutting the kids short?

So, out of curiosity (and not one-upping each other!) what did you do for you kids this holiday? Or for their birthdays? I am trying to get some perspective.

Thanks ladies!

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Omg 20 presents? NO NO NO.

In my family growing up, we got one present at Christmas from our parents, then one from each parent after they split up, and one from Santa, plus we all bought for each other. In my family now, Dave & I buy the kids maybe 4 or 5 things plus something from Santa. 1 of the things is a big gift, the others are small, like books and smaller toys.

Birthday is usually one special present from us.

I think 20 presents is crazy and I actually think we overdo it on Christmas. My in-laws buy multiple things for everybody and it's definitely a bit much for me.

$100 per kid is awesome and generous and lovely, if you can manage it. And it's not about what you spend. Some years the thing they really want isn't expensive at all, but it thrills them.

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My girls got more than 20 gifts each, but only because I went to a used book store and bought books that I wanted them to have regardless for a dollar or so each. Many educational books on bugs and animals and such. Also readers and chapter books for the older two girls. I also got new hair things that they would have needed anyway. We have never given very expensive gifts. They each got one $10 play gift (Dora doll, Barbie, stuffed horse) and a few craft things (play dough, latch hook rug kit) and other productive gifts. I would guess we spent $150 all together on 3 girls with none of the gifts being more than $15 each.

Every family is going to have different traditions when it comes to gifts. I do not want my girls to expect really expensive gifts from us, because that sets the stage for needing to get lavish gifts for the rest of their lives.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

Every family is going to have different traditions when it comes to gifts. I do not want my girls to expect really expensive gifts from us, because that sets the stage for needing to get lavish gifts for the rest of their lives.

I completely agree that different families have different traditions and choices. That is what I have told DD. I do worry about this small one though cause there will be a point in their future when their income will change. I wouldn't want to see her mom going without to give her presents, but at the same time she will expect that many for her whole life. And when the mom can't do that anymore financially her daughter might be heartbroken as will the mom.

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If it was all books I wouldn't bat an eye! You can never have too many books imo. Especially at $1 a piece.

We can't do the $100 every year but we try to save that to treat the kids. (Adults get $10-$30 gifts) Some years it hasn't happened and we have done smaller, cheaper, homemade etc. I actually try to do as much homemade as I can each year. Growing up we were on social assistance and didn't have the money for christmas. My mom had us crafting for much of the fall to have gifts to give. I am teaching DD to do the same thing (this year was hand painted magnets). Some of my favorite presents were the ones my mom made for me.

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For Christmas, my girls get 2 presents from hubby and I, and about 4-6 from Santa. One of the Santa gifts is a big one (this year a Chromebook) and it is usually something they share. Our tree usually looks empty compared to the pictures I see on FB, lol.

We actually don't buy our girls a gift for their birthdays. We throw them a party and then take them out somewhere special (without their sibling). For us, birthdays are a cause for celebration but not necessarily with gifts. More about memories I guess.

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Each kid gets exactly three gifts on Christmas morning. Their stockings are stuffed with silly things like bandaids and toothbrushes and dino eggs (bath fizzy things) that may cost about $20 total? but are fun and I wrap them all. We do NOT spend a lot on their christmas presents, but we do do a lot of Christmas activities (ie go to shows like the nutcracker, breakfasts with santa, movies etc). We try to invest more in experiences/traditions than the actual presents. For their birthdays they usually get one larger gift (bike or something) and a few small things like an item of clothing and a book. We don't do birthday parties every year, either, just every other. The birthday party thing can get a little extravagant around here and we don't want our kids to think that that is normal or to be expected, at ALL.

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I think what you give is what you give. I think 20-30 a kid is crazy but it depends on what you are counting. If I counted all the little things in their stockings, their santa stuff and our gifts it would be 20. If I counted "real" presents it wouldn't

We spend about 200.00 per kid at Christmas (includes stockings and Santa) and about 100.00 on birthdays. Sometimes that seems low to me but I think it depends on your family, your ability to spend and probably a regional thing. What we spend is not out of the norm here.

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I think that this is one thing that will totally differ on the family.

My kids have a very small Christmas compared to most of my family in the west. They get a present from us, a present from my parents, a present from my brother, and a present from Santa, as well as a stocking. But most kids they go to school with only get a single present from Santa. So it is a teaching opportunity for us on "how not to be a jerk." We role-play with the kids so they don't go to school and say "I got this and this and this and this." They need to know it makes others feel bad.

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"Jessica80" wrote:

I think what you give is what you give. I think 20-30 a kid is crazy but it depends on what you are counting. If I counted all the little things in their stockings, their santa stuff and our gifts it would be 20. If I counted "real" presents it wouldn't

It wasn't including santa presents. There were more of those. Plus what they get from a christmas charity.

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"blather" wrote:

I think that this is one thing that will totally differ on the family.

My kids have a very small Christmas compared to most of my family in the west. They get a present from us, a present from my parents, a present from my brother, and a present from Santa, as well as a stocking. But most kids they go to school with only get a single present from Santa. So it is a teaching opportunity for us on "how not to be a jerk." We role-play with the kids so they don't go to school and say "I got this and this and this and this." They need to know it makes others feel bad.

I think that is why this is bugging me a bit. She isn't teaching her daughter not to flaunt the big pile 'o presents. My DD and the little girl both got certain dolls. There are 6 in the collection. Every time DD saw hers in on the boxes she said "I have that one!" and her friend said "I have this one already and I got this one, and this one and this one for Christmas and I am getting the one you got and another one for my birthday (in august)." So it was always about her toys cause she got 3-4 times as many. I said something about both our girls needing to not make too big a deal if one got more than the other and I was told that the little girl is just excited and that is fine. She really didn't see how it would make my DD feel to have her daughter trump her with ever single gift. If mine got a playmobile set, hers got 9. If mine got a doll hers got 4. And her daughter is so excited that she can't help but go on about it. But it makes the rest of us feel like crap to be honest. It made me want to go out and buy DD more presents so she wouldn't feel bad! (I didn't) Next year we might suggest solstice for the gift exchange so that we don't have to have the post christmas present showings - cause it isn't as fun for us as it is for them. Really it isn't any fun at all.

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"Jessica80" wrote:

I think what you give is what you give. I think 20-30 a kid is crazy but it depends on what you are counting. If I counted all the little things in their stockings, their santa stuff and our gifts it would be 20. If I counted "real" presents it wouldn't

We spend about 200.00 per kid at Christmas (includes stockings and Santa) and about 100.00 on birthdays. Sometimes that seems low to me but I think it depends on your family, your ability to spend and probably a regional thing. What we spend is not out of the norm here.

We're pretty similar to Jessica. What we've done the last two years is a nicer electronics gift, an outfit (which I'd have to buy anyway since they wear out jeans so quickly), a book or educational toy, and something usually around $30 to round it out. Santa brings the things for stockings (usually about $10-$15 per kid), and a couple of smaller things. This year it was scooters for Matt and Nathan, computer stuff for Thomas, and slippers/robes. We also give each boy PJs for them to open on Christmas Eve.

Did you say they get gifts from a Christmas charity ON TOP of what the mom is doing???

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"fuchsiasky" wrote:

I think that is why this is bugging me a bit. She isn't teaching her daughter not to flaunt the big pile 'o presents. My DD and the little girl both got certain dolls. There are 6 in the collection. Every time DD saw hers in on the boxes she said "I have that one!" and her friend said "I have this one already and I got this one, and this one and this one for Christmas and I am getting the one you got and another one for my birthday (in august)." So it was always about her toys cause she got 3-4 times as many. I said something about both our girls needing to not make too big a deal if one got more than the other and I was told that the little girl is just excited and that is fine. She really didn't see how it would make my DD feel to have her daughter trump her with ever single gift. If mine got a playmobile set, hers got 9. If mine got a doll hers got 4. And her daughter is so excited that she can't help but go on about it. But it makes the rest of us feel like crap to be honest. It made me want to go out and buy DD more presents so she wouldn't feel bad! (I didn't) Next year we might suggest solstice for the gift exchange so that we don't have to have the post christmas present showings - cause it isn't as fun for us as it is for them. Really it isn't any fun at all.

It is unfortunate, but that happens. Most years we travel to NY for Christmas. We have our own little Christmas before we go, so Christmas AM we just have the extended family gifts. My brother does the same thing so his girls and my girls have about the same amount of gifts (still plenty), but my sister always brings all her gifts from them to their kids. That makes their kids getting big gifts like TV's while the rest of the kids are getting normal gifts like dolls. It irritates me, but thankfully my girls have never been upset by it (I have been). This year was much easier saying home although I missed everyone. We still had it that we were at a Christmas gathering where one of her little friends was telling of all the gifts she already knew she was getting. A tablet, a large doll house. I hurt me to think of the fact that my daughter was getting a stuffed horse and books. But Christmas AM my girls were so excited you would have thought they were given the moon.

One reason I did so many gifts of books is so they would not notice the absence of gifts from Grandma's and other family. Thankfully they did not. :bigarmhug: I hope that your kids still had a great time.

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"mommydearest" wrote:

Did you say they get gifts from a Christmas charity ON TOP of what the mom is doing???

Yep. It was offered to them and the mom tried to say no cause her daughter does get presents, but the charity said it was ok. So the mom said ok sure. I don't think the charity realizes how many presents this child gets. So she gets another 10+ presents from the charity. I takes her so long to open things that they have to take breaks cause she gets bored. I would not feel ok with accepting extra from charity knowing that I had enough for my child. It just means another kid maybe didn't get anything. I couldn't do it myself.

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I will say that this bugs me way more than DD. (I was the poor kid watching the kids with all the toys and feeling rotten when they showed off. It didn't always feel bad, but it didn't always feel good either.) I am not sure if DD has fully clued in yet. But she will. We already have talks about how different families make different choices (like when I say no to strawberries in december but another family she knows has some at home) because they have different needs.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I hope that your kids still had a great time.

They had a great time! They all truly loved their gifts. And gave some lovely ones too. That is what the message of christmas is that I want my kids to know - that it's about what you give, not necessarily what you get. And to be truly grateful for the things that you are given, no matter how much it is. The thoughts, love and time are what make a gift, not the price tag. (I obviously needed to remember this myself!) The best gift I got was the fuzzy towel that DD got me. Cause I know she picked it out herself with me in her heart. Smile

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Honestly I wouldnt worry about it to much. My kids get a few presents from us (jammies every year and at least one book) and then a couple things from Santa. Some years we spend way more on one kid then the other but that is just because of what they ask for.

My good friend however gets her kids (2 girls) a TON. Last year they told the kids it was going to be a small christmas because they had spent 2 weeks in Hawaii and 3 weeks in Alaska and then the girls got their own IPADs, a trampoline, the 13 year old got a digital SLR camera and the 8 year old got 3 American girl dolls. My big girls have noticed that her girls get more but they dont seem fazed. My oldest even said "I wonder if they even appreciate all they get, they unwrap so fast there is no way they enjoy that very much"

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"fuchsiasky" wrote:

They had a great time! They all truly loved their gifts. And gave some lovely ones too. That is what the message of christmas is that I want my kids to know - that it's about what you give, not necessarily what you get. And to be truly grateful for the things that you are given, no matter how much it is. The thoughts, love and time are what make a gift, not the price tag. (I obviously needed to remember this myself!) The best gift I got was the fuzzy towel that DD got me. Cause I know she picked it out herself with me in her heart. Smile

I am glad that had a great time.

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My good friend however gets her kids (2 girls) a TON. Last year they told the kids it was going to be a small christmas because they had spent 2 weeks in Hawaii and 3 weeks in Alaska and then the girls got their own IPADs, a trampoline, the 13 year old got a digital SLR camera and the 8 year old got 3 American girl dolls. My big girls have noticed that her girls get more but they dont seem fazed. My oldest even said "I wonder if they even appreciate all they get, they unwrap so fast there is no way they enjoy that very much"

Yikes, that is a lot of gifts.

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I would say that we get the kids 5-6 gifts from us and Santa, and that includes some clothes and other things they need. Then the Grandparents, Aunts and uncles all give gifts and it ends up being a ton! My sisters parcel didnt come in time for Christmas this year, and my response was 'good, then the kids might remember who they got those gifts from!'. This year was pretty ridiculous, as we actually went to both Grandparents house. There was at least 6 different boxes of lego alone. The kids dont appreciate that! There are 3 or 4 gifts they really love and the rest gets shuffled asside. In the past I have taken anything not opened after boxing day (still in box) and put it away to regift for birthdays during the year.

If you have to take brakes because the child is bored, then that is too many presents IMO. And yes, I even mean when the child is young. Our baby got a stocking full of his brothers old baby toys this year from Santa! I spent $7 on one new toy for him, because I saw it and thought it was cool, not because I was looking.

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I think this year we spent more than we normally do. They each got three gifts from Santa, 1 group gift from santa (a new movie), and two gifts from us. For two of the kids, one of those gifts from us was fairly large in price (for us).

Their stockings are filled too, which can get a little pricey. We don't put anything HUGE in the stockings, but all the little things add up.

But you know...then they got gifts from my parents, gifts from Seamus' parents, a gift from my siblings and a gift from EACH of Seamus' siblings, money from Seamus' Nana, and another Aunt.

And then i look at it all and think HOLY COW...thats a whole lot of stuff, maybe too much.

I will confess that I have a hard time keeping a low budget when it comes to Christmas spending...and compared to a lot of friends that my kids have, i don't think we even spend that much.

For birthdays we usually give one gift...and we don't do the birthday party thing with all the kids from school. Makes no sense to me when my kids aren't even close friends to most of those children.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

...and we don't do the birthday party thing with all the kids from school. Makes no sense to me when my kids aren't even close friends to most of those children.

This is the first year where I feel peer pressure with this. In preschool it was really easy ~ although their friends did lots of "all class" parties I never felt any pressure to do so ~ I knew that these were super temporary relationships ~ 99% of the kids that my kids went to preschool with didn't go on to the same Kindy as they did so I never felt the need to foster those relationships or to have huge parties with these kids I didn't really know at all being invited. This year, though my son is in Kindy, and these are the kids that he will theoretically go to school with for years upon years. I feel like EVERYONE is doing a full class party (there are only 16 in his class so it isn't outrageous to do so). But truthfully, his better friends are still my friends kids. And I don't want to do a party with both sets. And then there are cousins.....which he has a lot of. So I feel totally confused as to who to invite! (this is an on year, he didn't have a party last year) What he wants is to only invite three friends and go to a basketball game. Which is a huge relief as it gets me around all of these questions/ issues. Whatever way you slice it I feel like the whole party thing can be a gigantic pain in the butt!

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"Potter75" wrote:

This is the first year where I feel peer pressure with this. In preschool it was really easy ~ although their friends did lots of "all class" parties I never felt any pressure to do so ~ I knew that these were super temporary relationships ~ 99% of the kids that my kids went to preschool with didn't go on to the same Kindy as they did so I never felt the need to foster those relationships or to have huge parties with these kids I didn't really know at all being invited. This year, though my son is in Kindy, and these are the kids that he will theoretically go to school with for years upon years. I feel like EVERYONE is doing a full class party (there are only 16 in his class so it isn't outrageous to do so). But truthfully, his better friends are still my friends kids. And I don't want to do a party with both sets. And then there are cousins.....which he has a lot of. So I feel totally confused as to who to invite! (this is an on year, he didn't have a party last year) What he wants is to only invite three friends and go to a basketball game. Which is a huge relief as it gets me around all of these questions/ issues. Whatever way you slice it I feel like the whole party thing can be a gigantic pain in the butt!

I hear you, I think its a pain in the butt too! I'm all for the activities with the closer circles of friends and/or family...the bball game sounds perfect.

I've found that its hit or miss with the group parties thing. For some reason, Aodhan's class has never been huge into the group parties, but Emma's and Lillian's were. Now at Emma's age, no one does them anymore it seems. One mother told me that it seems with some classes, the group parties are really popular, and that other classes they aren't. That's been pretty consistent with my experience so far.

I just think the kids get more out of doing something with the people they've built the most meaningful relationships with. It feels like it makes more sense to me and is more similar to what we do as adults too.

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Well, there's no way I'd ever get my kids 20 or 30 presents each. That's kinda ridiculous, IMO. But our gifts to the kids were pretty pricey this year. That's just the way it went. I think for each we probably spent around $300. BUT, this is Canada and stuff is just more expensive. We don't have a set limit, but neither do we go sky's the limit. Each kid had 2 or 3 fairly 'large' gifts and then grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. added on to what they got. Of course, inexpensive stocking stuffers that maybe cost $20 total. DD got a beautiful Maplelea doll from my parents that was $100. They don't buy her much - one gift at Christmas and one for b-day - but my mom really takes a big interest in what the kids actually want (unlike my FIL who can spend a pile of $ at the dollar store just so he has the MOST presents to give the kids), and DD asked for a doll that looked like her. We got her some outfits for her doll, a LeapPad 2, a few craft kits and that was it, but it was on the spendy side. Less so for DS, but it's not like they care whose gifts ended up costing more.

Oh and the b-day thing. OMG, Claire went to one in early Dec for a classmate and came home with all these things they made and balloon art. The invitations alone made me gulp. She was one talented mom, that's for sure. IDK if I want to have her party at home, or just go to the kids party place and be done with it. The party place is so freaking expensive though. And, not that I'm a germophobe, but kinda icky in a bacteria/virus/generally gross kind of way.

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I am so impressed by the people who can stuff a stocking for $20 or less, especially if it isn't chock full of candy. I have so much trouble with this!

I will give you an example of what was in one of my kids stockings this year
A small pack of colored pencils
a Mini Notebook to write in
Glow in the dark finger nail polish
a lip gloss
A tin of altoids
A couple of little peanubutter chocolate filled bells and mini candy canes
A deck of Uno cards

I think that was it...I guess thats probably close to twenty bucks but it sure feels like a lot more.

Aodhan got a little guitar tuner in his...something he needed but it made his stocking more expensive. Same with Emma, she got a compass..again something she will get good use of given her hobbies. Also the gig is up with her when it comes to Santa and she gave me a Christmas wish list and a lot of the items were smallish and good stocking stuffers, but pricier for a stocking as a whole.

Thats the kind of thing I mean..i have such a hard time keeping it cheap when i know what the kids would really like. Id love some good stocking stuffer ideas that are big hits but can save me a buck or two Smile Although now i feel like we've set the bar...and a change would be noticeable.

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Sounds like the stockings we do as well. We always have little notebooks, a treat to eat, chapstick, playing cards, stuff like that.

Birthday parties -- we have never, ever invited the whole class. Some of the kids do that, but I have the kids tell me which of their friends they want to invite. There are 2-3 classes in each grade at our school so their friends are spread out, it doesn't make sense to invite the class plus we don't do huge parties anyway. It's usually 10-15 kids, and they don't all make it anyway. I have no guilt about the kids inviting their closest pals and not everyone else. We don't do the parties at home for our own sanity, so they do get expensive, but it's worth it. The kids have fun. Juliet had a yoga party this year and all the kids loved it. Nathaniel's was at our local movie theater.

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We put Kinder Eggs in our stockings and then watch our kids choke on the toys. Just kidding about the choking. We really do put Kinder Eggs in because at Christmas they come all boxed with other little Kinder treats in cool little holiday boxes and wrapping.

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We always do an orange in the toe of the stocking as 'filler' and then I put a few chocolates, a candy cane, some little dollar store stuff, a cool toothbrush and socks and underwear Smile My kids actually asked Santa for socks and underwear this year, cause apparently he is the only one who buys that stuff! Though it was a pain finding orange, dragon little boy underwear, as requested it is nice to give them things they really need. So even though our stockings cost a little more, I would buy that stuff anyways.

I can see how stockings would get more expensive as kids get older though and want more electronic stuff. A lot of that stuff is small stocking stuffer size. Plus, jewelry is also the right size but pricier. DH and I do stockings for each other, and I got earings and a portable hard drive in mine Smile

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"ftmom" wrote:

We always do an orange in the toe of the stocking as 'filler' and then I put a few chocolates, a candy cane, some little dollar store stuff, a cool toothbrush and socks and underwear Smile My kids actually asked Santa for socks and underwear this year, cause apparently he is the only one who buys that stuff! Though it was a pain finding orange, dragon little boy underwear, as requested it is nice to give them things they really need. So even though our stockings cost a little more, I would buy that stuff anyways.

I can see how stockings would get more expensive as kids get older though and want more electronic stuff. A lot of that stuff is small stocking stuffer size. Plus, jewelry is also the right size but pricier. DH and I do stockings for each other, and I got earings and a portable hard drive in mine Smile

SOCKS! I knew i forgot something. There was a pair of smartwool socks in their stockings too. Expensive for socks (Although i got a good deal on them at the LLBean outlet)...but they use them when they play outside in the snow during the winter...yeah, i was definitely over 20 dollars, even on the least expensive of the stockings i filled.

Although i guess i don't feel too bad about it if its stuff that they will use and i probably would have bought anyway at some point..like socks.

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Maybe it was over $20? For instance my daughter got 3 pairs of cute socks (I think that I got them for like $3 for the three pack) a scrunchie for the shower (good space taker!) a fun toothbrush, toms toothpaste, a pez, 2 dino eggs for the tub, and a hello kitty alarm clock that I found on amazon for $7, and a hello kitty notebook and set of three pens that I found in the $1 bin at target. We spent just under or at $100/kid this year on their 3 actual gifts........but they do get gifts from each set of grandparents, a gift from my brother, sister, and one aunt on DH's side. We actually spent more on kids we "adopted" this season than on our own kids, but, taking in the whole picture, they get plenty so I don't feel badly about it. Christmas morning was really calm with each kid enjoying watching the others open gifts and stuff, and taking turns opening gifts, and it didn't drag on forever. I would get bored watching my three kids open 20 plus gifts each. I'd have to hit the baileys or something Smile

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"Potter75" wrote:

Maybe it was over $20? For instance my daughter got 3 pairs of cute socks (I think that I got them for like $3 for the three pack) a scrunchie for the shower (good space taker!) a fun toothbrush, toms toothpaste, a pez, 2 dino eggs for the tub, and a hello kitty alarm clock that I found on amazon for $7, and a hello kitty notebook and set of three pens that I found in the $1 bin at target. We spent just under or at $100/kid this year on their 3 actual gifts........but they do get gifts from each set of grandparents, a gift from my brother, sister, and one aunt on DH's side. We actually spent more on kids we "adopted" this season than on our own kids, but, taking in the whole picture, they get plenty so I don't feel badly about it. Christmas morning was really calm with each kid enjoying watching the others open gifts and stuff, and taking turns opening gifts, and it didn't drag on forever. I would get bored watching my three kids open 20 plus gifts each. I'd have to hit the baileys or something Smile

I always do that xmas morning, regardless of how many presents are under the tree. Could be one. I will find an excuse for coffee and baileys any day.

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I agree that the stocking stuff can add up. Santa shopped at Justice this year, and though he hit the sales it was still about $25/kid. My girls got earrings and a matching necklace (kiddie jewelry), lip gloss, a mini-notebook with pen, body wash and body spray from B&BW, and hairbows. We don't do candy in the stockings. We still have a huge pot left over from Halloween!

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"KimPossible" wrote:

SOCKS! I knew i forgot something. There was a pair of smartwool socks in their stockings too.

I am not allowed to put socks in the stockings. This year DD got the idea about "naughty and nice" from a christmas carol. She told us that nice kids get toys in their stockings and naughty kids get clothes - like socks and underwear - in their stockings. If I put in socks she will think she was naughty. She came up with it all by herself. It was really cute, but blew the joy of socks.

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

Omg 20 presents? NO NO NO.

Agreed! :clappy:

Our kids both have summer birthdays, so for birthday and Winter Solstice, they each get three gifts: something they want, something they need, and something we want them to have. Or: something to wear, something to play with, and something to learn from. Never all toys, though, and we always make sure they open the "boring" thing first. Sometimes I'll put multiple things in one gift, like three outfits in one box or two games wrapped up together. I don't limit myself to the same dollar amount per child, but I do try to keep things fair. Santa fills stockings. I spent about $200 total on both kids for Winter Solstice, including stockings, and then another $40 on a few little stocking stuffers for DH, MIL, and myself. That $200 included some shipping charges because I did it all online & couldn't find enough things at any one store to avoid it.

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Jace got a decent amount of stuff but def not 20 or 30 things. His birthday being Dec 27, I normally divide the gifts up from me, Santa, and then 2 things from me for his bday. It's tough having a holiday birthday.

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

Jace got a decent amount of stuff but def not 20 or 30 things. His birthday being Dec 27, I normally divide the gifts up from me, Santa, and then 2 things from me for his bday. It's tough having a holiday birthday.

Holiday birthdays are hard. I am dec 10, DD is dec 17, DH is dec 31 and BIL is jan 9. So with christmas that is a major celebration every week for a month. It is tough.

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"fuchsiasky" wrote:

Holiday birthdays are hard. I am dec 10, DD is dec 17, DH is dec 31 and BIL is jan 9. So with christmas that is a major celebration every week for a month. It is tough.

Not to mention, he would like to have a bday party. Now I have to try to find the money for that and hope we can celebrate it in January. He may have to wait until February. Uuuugh.

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

Not to mention, he would like to have a bday party. Now I have to try to find the money for that and hope we can celebrate it in January. He may have to wait until February. Uuuugh.

Celebrate his half-birthday in June!

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December birthdays are hard. DH's birthday was December 30th. Not only is his birthday right near Christmas, he is also a twin. Trying to have a birthday party for him is impossible, because all of his close friends go out of town for Christmas.

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

Not to mention, he would like to have a bday party. Now I have to try to find the money for that and hope we can celebrate it in January. He may have to wait until February. Uuuugh.

We are doing DD's kid party in the first week of december or the last week of november. It is early, but we really want her to have celebration of just her birthday with no christmas involved. Her actual birthday ends up being just one of many days of celebration. We even ended up sharing birthday dinners between her and I this year because it was just too much to do them separately.

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I agree that Holiday Birthday's are hard! Seamus' is Dec. 30th. His mother said that she always tried to make the effort to take the tree down and make it a completely separate celebration every year just so he never felt like his birthday was skipped over.

I've always tried to be good about that too...admittedly this year was kind of glossed over, we drove home from NY on his birthday and never really celebrated. Fortunately he seemed to not care too much, but i still feel bad about it!

Cecilia's is Jan 10th. Just soon enough afterwards to totally catch us off guard. I feel like Christmas just ended and her birthday is next week! Ack.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

Seamus' is Dec. 30th.

That is funny that his is the same as Daniel's. Happy birthday to them both.

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Ugh I agree with the holiday birthdays. DH is Dec. 13th and DD2 is Jan. 6. I feel like it's non stop until after this weekend.

~Kim...our girls are going to be 3!!!

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I get crushed in Jan. My niece is Dec 27, SIL Dec 30, Brother and Sister have the same birthday (but are not Twins) on Jan 15, DH on Jan 31, then it heads right into our Anny on Feb 9, first kid on Feb 13 and Valentines day on the 14. Its like the death march of gifts from Christmas.

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"Jessica80" wrote:

Ugh I agree with the holiday birthdays. DH is Dec. 13th and DD2 is Jan. 6. I feel like it's non stop until after this weekend.

~Kim...our girls are going to be 3!!!

Can you believe it? I wish she could stay two for just a little longer, i just love this stage.

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haha Kim..I've been waiting for 3 and hoping it rids of terrible 2's. She's turning into such an awesome little girl. Very sassy and very smart. She kills me. Best surprise of my life.

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Someone just asked me to borrow money as they overspent at Christmas. Sigh.

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I'm probably in the minority, because I'm sure we go overboard. I don't buy them a hundred things or anything, but more than most here I think. I don't think it will damage or destroy them for life. It was just what my parents did, and I'm not spoiled or thinking that I will get something extravagent from everyone forever. Tom and I don't usually buy much for each other.

I get the kids one nice thing (this year marcus got an xbox 360, and megan got an ipad). These are things that the kids would have normally gotten to use at some point, and they will get their money's worth. Then we got them a few outfits each, and a couple board games for both. We do stockings too, but I try not to buy much candy, it's mostly little fun things (like nail polish and bath things and little 'toys' - toys for my kids are not little kid toys so much anymore)

That made our christmas very expensive really, but as they've grown, so has the bill. When they were little, I would buy about the same amount, but cute toys are cheaper than electronics. Smile ALOT cheaper than electronics...

This was the first year that I didn't really buy any toys. Honestly, I cried a bit. My babies can NOT be so old!! lol And I had hoped for a baby 3 years ago, and they are going to be so old by the time they get a little brother or sister! I miss buying those things for small ones.

ETA: Oh, and i feel the need to add that we do pretty well and are comfortable. We would not have been irresponsible and spent our rent or grocery money on presents. If we couldn't afford it, we wouldn't do it! Smile

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ETA: Oh, and i feel the need to add that we do pretty well and are comfortable. We would not have been irresponsible and spent our rent or grocery money on presents. If we couldn't afford it, we wouldn't do it!

I will say if our budget allowed it, i would probably spend more than i do. Not a ton more....but a little bit more. Like Legos. I very often would love to get them each a lego set, or at least a few of them a Lego set, but i often skip over them because they are so friggin expensive.

My kids like Legos, but they don't LOVE them....so they are sacrificed. Smile

Now when i was a kid, Legos were the highlight of my Christmas morning.

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I shop sales all year instead of waiting til the month before Christmas and get things when they are cheap, so my kids tend to get a lot of presents but I don't spend that much money.

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I buy all at once like two weeks before christmas but do well with deals on Amazon and am a Prime member so never pay for shipping. I used to be religious about only buying from local stores but that was before the 21 month death march of grad school with a constantly traveling husband began......next year I will get back to that but these past two years its been a godsend. We could spend more but I like keeping it simple.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

I will say if our budget allowed it, i would probably spend more than i do. Not a ton more....but a little bit more. Like Legos. I very often would love to get them each a lego set, or at least a few of them a Lego set, but i often skip over them because they are so friggin expensive.

My kids like Legos, but they don't LOVE them....so they are sacrificed. Smile

Now when i was a kid, Legos were the highlight of my Christmas morning.

About lego. Try a really nice specialty toy store, not Toys R Us, but one that is also a teacher store type thing. The one we went to had an off brand lego, that was compatible with real 'lego' and really good quality. I usually find these types of stores more expensive, but was impressed with the 'lego' prices. They also had boxes of just lego (not a set) and doors and windows, and wheels and axles. Wish I could remember the brand.

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