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    This could turn into a debate so I wanted to put it here, but mostly it is for my info

    2 things I know:
    #1 bringing a one year old to a formal dinner is a bad idea, and
    #2 women should be able to nurse wherever they want.

    Having said that, due to circumstances beyond my control, I am taking Trent (13m) to a formal (5 course) dinner tonight. Its ball gowns and suits and I just spent the last 30 min altering my one formal gown so that I can squeeze a breast out if I need to, to breast feed. There will be many speakers at this thing, including a comedian, and I dont really want to miss them, so I was wondering if it is socially acceptable to nurse at the table at something like this (not while eating myself), or if I should take him into another room? Before I fixed my dress I was stressing about not being able to nurse on facebook and another mom, who is bringing her much younger baby, was commenting that she has to practically get half naked to nurse, so will be nursing in the bathroom, which I hate. But I could probably find somewhere private away from the crowd if I had to that wasnt where people pee.

    So what do you thing? Yea or Nay to nursing at a formal event?

    Oh! And I will be using a cover (I usually dont) because I have to actually remove my breast from my gown to nurse, so I will be covered.
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    I think it's fine, since you have a cover, but I think you'll know best once you're there. It's really about your comfort, and how much attention you attract.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ftmom View Post
    This could turn into a debate so I wanted to put it here, but mostly it is for my info

    2 things I know:
    #1 bringing a one year old to a formal dinner is a bad idea, and
    #2 women should be able to nurse wherever they want.

    Having said that, due to circumstances beyond my control, I am taking Trent (13m) to a formal (5 course) dinner tonight. Its ball gowns and suits and I just spent the last 30 min altering my one formal gown so that I can squeeze a breast out if I need to, to breast feed. There will be many speakers at this thing, including a comedian, and I dont really want to miss them, so I was wondering if it is socially acceptable to nurse at the table at something like this (not while eating myself), or if I should take him into another room? Before I fixed my dress I was stressing about not being able to nurse on facebook and another mom, who is bringing her much younger baby, was commenting that she has to practically get half naked to nurse, so will be nursing in the bathroom, which I hate. But I could probably find somewhere private away from the crowd if I had to that wasnt where people pee.

    So what do you thing? Yea or Nay to nursing at a formal event?

    Oh! And I will be using a cover (I usually dont) because I have to actually remove my breast from my gown to nurse, so I will be covered.

    I think the question is really yay or nay to a baby being at such an event. If its yay to the baby, then the nursing follows suit.

    If you are bringing the baby when you really shouldn't be...thats the actual mistake. If bringing the baby is really okay, then you should be able to nurse the baby while you are there. I wouldn't personally do it in public unless i could be discreet about it. Only because i think at these types of things everything someone does that isn't paying attention to the actual event at hand should be discreet.

    ETA: I never personally felt discreet using a cover...i felt very much so that i was drawing attention to myself.
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    Okay, actually, I agree with Kim. So there.
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    lol! I dont think it really is a place for a baby, but we tried to use him to get out of going (cause he is having some massive seperation anxiety right now) and the guy who is organizing it (who happens to be DH's boss) told us to bring him with us. He wont be the only baby, but he will be the oldest, and I'm not even sure I will be able to stay for the whole thing. I mean, they arent going to have a highchair handy and he will want to roam.
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    I do not really have an opinion, but I hope you have lots of fun and that everything works out.

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    I think it's perfectly acceptable to nurse at a formal event if the organizer has invited you to bring the baby along. I've been to many weddings that were generally 'no kids invited', but the couples made exceptions for nursing infants. That said, while I easily nursed discreetly at the park or mall I don't know how easy it is to get the boob out of a formal gown all while sitting at the table. I personally would just find it easier to do someplace where you don't have to be, ya know, kind of courteous and maybe quiet (like while someone's speaking or whatnot). I'd prefer to just find a comfy couch in the lobby with bit more privacy, in case I had to do some manoevering to get the boobs unleashed.
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    Since Trent has pretty much been invited, I think it's fine to nurse him if it's necessary. At that age, I'd try everything else first (take some finger foods & a sippy & a cozy blanket) so long as he wasn't being disruptive, but I'd absolutely whip it out if he needs it. I would probably try to discreetly move to the side or back of the room, because my babies at that age were not very quiet or still or discreet even though I tried to be, kwim? Also try to keep your stroller handy so if he falls asleep, maybe your DH can set the stroller up & you can make a transfer & have your arms free again. Good luck, and have fun!
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    Psssst, hey Kyla, Bonita has a question for you....
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    How did it go? I think we need a picture of you in the ball gown
    And the rest of us want to see it, too, LOL!
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    Yeah. In fact, we haven't seen any recent pics of y'all lately. We should start a picture thread.

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