I hope you don't mind me posting this in here, I just feel that you will give me honest answers and sound advice.
DD plays with our neighbours DD (they went to nursery together) and last night, I was in my garden and I am convinced I heard the parents bad mouthing my DD.
Now lets get something straight, for a 4 yr old I KNOW my DD can run her mouth a little too much. She doesn't swear (cuss) and she's not naughty where she will hit or anything like that, she just sometimes lets her mouth run away with her. Lets say she is gobby. She is also a little bossy boots and when she has friends over, I do have to butt in sometimes and tell her to stop being bossy - it's not a major issue but does need addressing. When I speak to her about it, she agrees with me but nothing changes. If I'm honest though, I am not sure how to discipline her for that or for the back chatting. Advice?
Anyway, I overheard my neighbours talking in the garden last night and I'm convinced they were talking about my DD. I never heard her name, but things that were said convinced me it was about her. They weren't being/saying nasty things like, 'she's a this that or the other' but I got the feeling they were annoyed from the tone they were speaking in. I also heard the Dad say 'they're both a shower of pr*cks' so I am hoping that wasn't about DBF and I and that they'd changed the conversation to something else!
My question is, how do I address this? I felt angry last night and wanted to knock on, but I stopped myself. I just feel that instead of talking about my 4 year old, speak to me if it's a problem her playing. I am trying my best for her to turn out to be a good person, but it's bloody hard when you're not 100% sure on how to address certain behaviours. Do I pretend I heard nothing, or do I confront them? What should I ask them?
Advice would be VERY much appreciated.