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OT - Getting to Know You QOTW 6/10

Hi All,
Sorry I have been MIA the past couple of days. I have been slammed! But I did want to pop on and do a QOTW before I forget.

What's in your purse/back pack/diaper bag (basically, whatever you use to haul your stuff around ;))?

Bonus question: What is one thing that is so essential to you that you simply must have with you at all times?

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car key
house keys
driver's license
debit card
medical cards for kids & me
membership card for the Academy of Sciences
burt's bees lip balm
pen
sunglasses
coin purse
cash folded in half in a pocket
a pack of checks but no register
eye drops
two extra contact lenses
a small blister-pack of sudafed since I seem to have been hit by allergies this spring
three flash drives, one each per case I'm working
and last week's grocery list & receipts :rolleyes:

bonus: burt's bees lip balm, I grab it even when I'm just going out to move laundry.

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Make up, receipts, lotion, money, credit cards, other cards (library cards ect), gum, cough drops, keys, phone. I am sure other things too.

I am pretty attached to my phone.

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Purse:
-Wallet
-Tampoons (tampons)
-A pad or two
-Hand sanitizer
-Baby wipes (to wipe hands and mouths)
-Cell phone
-Gum

I very much dislike a cluttery purse, and clean it out everyday at work, by throwing away unnecessary receipts and gum wrappers and what not.

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Ooooo, I have Burt's Bees Wax lip balm, too.

My purse is overloaded. Other then the typical items, I also carry around a zip lock bag of crayons for restaraunt coloring (they only give you like 2 colors and that bothers my artsy children some reason),Obama-mints my cousin gaveme from DC during his inauguration, and a pocket knife.

Not much I can't do without, but I love my pen from Wicked.

Also, over the past 3 years I have coem to appreciate a good purse. A long time ago I remember a thread were we were talkign about our purses and I remember sayingthat I only had one and it was from Target and that I just didn;t get spending so much on them. Yeah, that's pretty much changed. I love coach and DH gave me the new Brighton satchel with Indian crystal motiff. It's my baby Smile

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There's not enough space here to list purse contents Biggrin

mommytoMR.FACE you'd HATE my purse!

gum
wallet with credit cards, checkbook, money, punch cards, and such
coupon pouch
a pair of socks (evidently you never know when a bowling game is going to come up or the need will arise to try on shoes)
a diaper
wipes
sippy cup
2 bibs (one for the baby, one for the toddler)
moist toilettes
pocket knife
bandaids
floss
toothbrush (still in the bag)
toothpaste (I really don't know why except I haven't taken it out since my last dentist appt)
tampons (some still sealed, some my dog played with so they are pretty much shredded)
extra keys to lots of things that do not exist anymore
receipts (TONS)
hair ties
some jewelry
lotion
chapstick (probably 5 things of it)
random makeup (even though I don't wear makeup except on very rare occasions)
pepper spray
an extra pair of underwear (I think I put them in one day when we went swimming over the winter, but I can't be sure)
lighter and some matches for some reason
a cloth diaper
dog treats
a leash
sunglasses
I'm sure there are other things I'm not seeing as I dig through it, it's pretty much a disaster!

The one thing I could not do without is my phone.

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wallet
car keys
phone
mints
lip gloss
hand sanitizer
address book
tylenol and ibuprofen
sunglasses
dental floss

The one thing I couldn't live without is my debit card as I rarely carry cash.

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When I'm going to work I use a messenger bag, and then I carry:

water in a non-disposable bottle
kleenex
book to read
iPhone (provided by work)
iPhone charger
fruit salad in a tupperware container
pen
wallet
keys
iPod
train pass, subway card, etc.

On weekends I have a smaller version of the same bag:
keys
wallet
kleenex

I need my debit card too....although the iPhone is a close second because it covers work, leisure, boredom, communication etc.

I keep my regular (personal) cell phone in my pocket so that's never in a bag.

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

When I'm going to work I use a messenger bag, and then I carry:

water in a non-disposable bottle
kleenex
book to read
iPhone (provided by work)
iPhone charger
fruit salad in a tupperware container
pen
wallet
keys
iPod
train pass, subway card, etc.

On weekends I have a smaller version of the same bag:
keys
wallet
kleenex

I need my debit card too....although the iPhone is a close second because it covers work, leisure, boredom, communication etc.

I keep my regular (personal) cell phone in my pocket so that's never in a bag.

That's exactly how I pictured your purse Laurie. Right down to the fruit salad. So NYC! Smile Though part of me thought of you as a Vera Bradley kind of gal.

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My must-haves:

wallet
small pouch with tampons
keys
hand sanitizer from B&BW
hand creme from B&BW
gum
TicTacs
coupons in a Ziploc bag
chapstick from Avon (my fav!)
Alana's inhaler
my phone
pen
small photo wallet with pics of my girls

I'm using a black Juicy purse right now and have a pink Juicy purse for date nights with hubby. Works for me.

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I'm pretty much a failure of a woman. I usually have my credit card and license in my pocket when running errands.

Last night I had a purse with me. The purse was a big splurge ~ before going on a childless vacation recently it hit me as I looked around for a purse that it had been over 4 years since I had bought one. It had my wallet and cell phone in it, I didn't know what else to put in it Smile I'm not a big make up person.

My must have is my phone. When I am away from my kids in particular. I played at a course the other day that has a strict no phone policy so I left it in my car. It was a 5 hour round. Even though my kids were home with a sitter AND my DH was home working in his office if she needed anything, I was twitchy by the last hour wanting to get to my phone to check in on the kids.

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"culturedmom" wrote:

That's exactly how I pictured your purse Laurie. Right down to the fruit salad. So NYC! Smile Though part of me thought of you as a Vera Bradley kind of gal.

The daily fruit salad is since I started trying to lose weight. (24 pounds already!)

What is Vera Bradley? Is it a purse thing? I just use a messenger bag with a funky NY-specific design on it, I am NOT a purse-carrying person. It's this one:

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I'm still in the Target purse phase of my life. I've been carrying the one that I have now for about two years now. It's just this big canvas tote - dark grey with lighter grey stars. The guy at my local coffee shop just loves it, he raves about it every time I go in. So of course I can't get rid of it and let that dude down. Wink

I carry:
Big honking wallet that has credit cards, various insurance cards, check book, pictures of T, and very occasionally cash.
A book to read
Sunglasses
Chap sticks and various lip glosses
Tape measure
Motion sickness wrist bands
A journal and pen to write down what I eat (it helps me keep track of my carbs if I write it down - my doc wants me to follow a gestational diabetes diet since I had it last time)
Usually a couple of snacks (luna bar, nuts and raisins, maybe a baggie of veggies)
Personal cell phone and work blackberry
If T is with me, an extra pull up and wipes
Right now, my inhaler (I have bronchitis)

The one thing I can't live without - a book to read. I read whenever I have a down minute. I literally feel antsy if I have to sit around waiting for something or eat lunch, and realize that I forgot my book at home.

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Alissa, how did I miss that? CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!

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After reading other lists I realized I forgot a few. Pads, Asthma inhaler.

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I'm a minimalist so when i am by myself....i try to go with just my wallet, my phone and my keys. Thats it.

I carry other stuff when i have to. A diaper and some wipes. Pads/Tampons. Sometimes a chapstick in the winter. Checkbook (I should carry that all the time...typically we leave the books in the car though).

Anything else i take with me is usually activity specific.

I really don't like to carry a lot of crap with me...but it seems these days i can't avoid it.

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Laurie, thank you!!!!

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Mine changes a lot.

For work I just use my pockets as the restrictions are not worth the money to buy a bag.

For going out without the kid, I have a teeny tiny beautiful Dooney and Bourke bag dh bought me in Bahrain. It always has lipstick, lipgloss, powder, eyeliner, perfume, cash (maximum $10), a loop for my hair, gum and old receipts I always forget to throw away.

If I'm going shopping I use my black Coach (gift from friend):
Coupons
Burt's bees lip balm
Sample Size deoderant
Organic raisins
Crystal light metabolism green tea single packet
lipton tea energize single packet
Pen
Matchbox cars
Coach wallet/keychain attached
cell phone
Gum

For anything where a purse will be inconvenient, I put a debit card and license in my back pocket and wear capris with my camera in one side pocket and my phone in the other.

For events with family or friends or trips I have a brown coach bag that I'm in love with that dh gave me a gift card for. I empty the black one into the brown and stick the coupons under the seat of my car since I feel lost without them.

When we do anything in the water I use an old Air Force backpack dh's recruiter gave him and we put our towels, go-home clothes, and flip flops inside and the outside has bug spray, sunblock, keys/wallet, phone and camera.

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Seems I am like Melis and Kim.....not much here. I only carry a purse when i have to for work....otherwise i just stuff my wallet or debit + license in my pocket or Ergo. I keepnfloss and a toothbrush in my car. And my Camelbak in the car or w me.

I am known for having nothing. Right now I am feeling particularly free bc we have no kids in diapers so we can leave the house w nothing.....yahoo!

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How many of you also have cars where you can keep things? I'm a public transportation taker, so I have to have it all with me all the time. Just curious.

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I keep a change or two of clothing for Jace in my car, as well as some more tampons and pads for myself, lol.

If he and I are going somewhere where we will be out for a long time, I will carry the change of clothes in my purse.

ETA: Oh yeah, and sunblock!

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My purse: wallet, ID, chapstick, lipgloss, tiny first aid kit, tampax

My Backpack: purse, diapers, change of clothes for kids, wipes, sunscreen, cloth diapers (for wounds, spills, ect), kleenex, snack, rain ponchos x4.

I also bring my stroller anywhere my backpack goes...and there are always water bottles, kleenex and rain cover in the stroller. Usually a spare sun hat or two.

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This reminds me I should throw some tampons into my purse because I haven't in almost 3 years. AF could hit any day now.

I have a medium sized coach purse that I use right now. I have three coach purses that I rotate through depending on time of year and size requirement.

-I have a decent sized wallet with credit/debit cards, insurance cards, random store cards and gift cards. I usually have a couple of dollar bills and quarters in there too for small purchases and parking meters.
-My smart phone which has a decent quality camera on it so I stopped bringing my bulky camera with me most of the time.
-There is often a pacifier in my purse.
-I clean receipts out once per week so there are usually a few in there.
-lip gloss and chap stick
-Either glasses or sunglasses most of the time though they stay in my car or on my face half the time.

When with the kids:
-A single size 4 diaper (i keep more spares in my car)
-a sandwich bag sized ziploc with a few wipes in it.
-Emergency meds for my son, the case for it is the size of a sunglass case, kind of bulky but necessary.
-For longer trips I bring a diaper bag with a change of clothes for each kid, sunblock, all natural bug spray, a snack like whole wheat crackers, hats etc.

-I just looked and I also had two AA batteries in my purse just now. . . Not sure why so they are coming out.

I carry a lot with me sometimes but when alone I have no issue going down to my phone, debit card and license in my pockets if necessary.

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Here's mine. I got it at Payless for $12. My old purse was about 5 years old & I'd been nursing it along but it finally fell irreparably apart. Tiven fell in love with this one & it's bigger than I like & I wasn't sure about the color but it's fun.

And when I'm out & about with Weston, I transfer my cash, cards, keys & Burts Bees to his diaper bag. My old purse was small enough to fit inside the diaper bag, but this one won't.

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Well, up till 2 weeks ago I had way more stuff in my bag, but then my container of cottage cheese opened, leaked through the bag it was in and then got all over the inside of my yellow goat's suede bag.:( Until I get it dry cleaned I'm using a way smaller Gap purse that has great little compartments. In it is my wallet, access card for work, phone, pen, sudoku book, Kleenex, a bunch of receipts, the gas bill, sunglasses, some J.R. Watkins lipbalm, cheque book, keys, a 2-pack of combs I bought, Oh! - a train ticket from October 3/08, and some lipstick and power I took to DD's dance dress rehearal/picture day, JIC she rubbed it off.

It's a tie between my keys and phone in terms of importance.

For those of you with Coach bags, do you like? I kind of need a new leather bag - professional enough for work but big enough to hold dipes/wipes/sippy cups on weekends or outings. The are prohibitively expensive to buy new here.

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This is my bag.

I have a few Coach bags as well, but I prefer this one because my Coach ones have no outside pockets. I do change to a Coach bag for certain meetings because I think it makes the women notice me more (like I am not noticed anyway!!!).

In my bag I have:
Wallet (check book size, although we don't have checks here) with money, credit cards, dl, foreigner registration card and bank books
Kindle
Notepad
1 biro and 1 pencil
iPhone
Cloth pad for emergencies
Sweat rag (sounds terrible, but they're cute! Today's has an embroidered panda on it)
Stick-its
Hair clips
Kids' snacks
Paperback (right now it's Murder on Marble Row)
A pair of training pants
Nail clippers

I also carry a lunch bag which has a thermos for carrying barley tea

I'm a public transpo mama too. The kids carry their own bags.

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"Claire'sMommy" wrote:

For those of you with Coach bags, do you like? I kind of need a new leather bag - professional enough for work but big enough to hold dipes/wipes/sippy cups on weekends or outings. The are prohibitively expensive to buy new here.

Yep. Used to make fun of people who spent too much money on bags. Now I've got two that are completely fad-proof, child proof, and fun too. They have baby bags that I think are really cute.

This is my new favorite:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/images/B004E5GGDC/ref=dp_image_0?ie=UTF8&n=3760911&s=beauty

My black one does have outside pockets, but I can't find pictures of it online.

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"Claire'sMommy" wrote:

For those of you with Coach bags, do you like? I kind of need a new leather bag - professional enough for work but big enough to hold dipes/wipes/sippy cups on weekends or outings. The are prohibitively expensive to buy new here.

I used to make fun of expensive purses too until I got my first coach for christmas years ago. That one has lasted 5+ years of heavy use and still looks amazing. I recently purchased one myself and got another as a gift. They are great. Mine all have a few pockets each but not big ones like a diaper bag.

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I buy cheap purses and they last me forever. I had expensive purses here and there and I odn't even have them anymore. I got a new wallet a few months ago for $13 (marked down from $45) and I love it. The best wallet I've ever had.

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

How many of you also have cars where you can keep things? I'm a public transportation taker, so I have to have it all with me all the time. Just curious.

Nope, aside from my checkbook, i keep nothing of importance in my car either. I am generally unprepared for most things Smile Yet i find it seems to work just fine. Only thing i don't have in my purse a lot of the time that I find myself wishing i did is a Pen. Sometimes its in there, but a lot of the time its not! But thats it.

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Laurie, when I am out with DH or friends I don't have anything in my car either. I was just answering the question thinking of what I personally carry, like, for a night out. I'm absolutely in the minimalist club with Kim and Audra.

With the kids I have things like towels and sunblock and rash guards and sippy cups and a swim diaper for the baby and whatnot with me. These days (summer) I usually carry a back pack to the pool, carry the cooler with lunch in my hand, have the baby in the stroller, and both kids walking. The kids carry their pool things in backpacks.

Personally I'm meh on Coach purses. I think that the quality is okay, not great. I don't like anything with huge logos on it, whether it is Old Navy or Louis Vuitton, and SO many of their pieces are logo covered. I have three left from my working days, that I would still use, (one brown suede and logoless, one black leather and logoless, one bright green). There are so many coach outlets out there (at least, around me, there are 3 within an hour) that I don't really think of them as a designer bag.

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Oh....and related to this discussion. Can i just say that i really wish women's pockets on pants were a lot more useful than they are!

There has to be a way to make them bigger and more useful, but still cute no?

My new phone is so big now that I simply can't put it in my pocket, so i have to carry a purse of some sort. Well, if its a quick trip i actually sometimes just carry it in my hand and shove my small wallet and keys into those stupid small jean pockets!

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Roots also has some glorious bags/purses versatile enough for work/kiddies. I love Roots.:D
http://canada.roots.com/leather/designer-shoulder-handbags-for-women/leatherShoulderBags,default,sc.html

"KimPossible" wrote:

Oh....and related to this discussion. Can i just say that i really wish women's pockets on pants were a lot more useful than they are!

There has to be a way to make them bigger and more useful, but still cute no?

My new phone is so big now that I simply can't put it in my pocket, so i have to carry a purse of some sort. Well, if its a quick trip i actually sometimes just carry it in my hand and shove my small wallet and keys into those stupid small jean pockets!

I like capris/cargo pants with pockets on the side of the leg - great for keys, debit card, phone, etc. I find them easy to get stuff out of when I've got one kid in tow and the other in my arms. No fishing around in the purse for the elusive set of keys.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

My new phone is so big now that I simply can't put it in my pocket, so i have to carry a purse of some sort.

I mostly wear skirts that have no pockets, and my favorite pair of capris don't either. But I don't carry a phone so I don't have your problem. A friend of mine carries her phone all the time, I think she's paranoid that something will happen to her son & she'll be unreachable in a meeting. :rolleyes: Anyway, she crocheted a tiny phone-sized bag on a long strap that she wears over one shoulder hanging on the other hip all the time. She made two, different colors, to match what she wears. They probably sell something like that now, too, if you're not handy with a hook. Blum 3

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"Spacers" wrote:

I mostly wear skirts that have no pockets, and my favorite pair of capris don't either. But I don't carry a phone so I don't have your problem. A friend of mine carries her phone all the time, I think she's paranoid that something will happen to her son & she'll be unreachable in a meeting. :rolleyes: Anyway, she crocheted a tiny phone-sized bag on a long strap that she wears over one shoulder hanging on the other hip all the time. She made two, different colors, to match what she wears. They probably sell something like that now, too, if you're not handy with a hook. Blum 3

I'm not handy with a hook, but I'm super handy with two pointy sticks. Smile

I think its pretty normal for people to carry their phone with them wherever they go these days. The number of people i know who do, far outnumber the people i know who don't!

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Kim, count me among the "generally unprepared" population too. If it is something that I use often, it will be in my purse. Other than that, I typically don't have it. Recently I was reading one of those online or email "tribute to Mommy" type blurbs that was talking about how Moms can always be counted on to have kleenex and crayons and baby Tylenol and godknowswhat in their purse, and I remember feeling slightly guilty because I don't have any of that in my purse. If we're out and T needs a kleenex, I guess he can blow his nose on my sleeve or something, because I just don't ever think to carry around a bunch of stuff "just in case." So far it's been okay.

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If we're out and T needs a kleenex, I guess he can blow his nose on my sleeve or something

Did that Sunday at the park. I didn't bring ANYTHING so I wiped DS's boogers on his hoodie.

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My purse contains my phone, wallet, box for cards not used as often those that are in my wallet, sunglasses, keys, work card, eyeglasses and contact case (due to allergies), sanitary items, drugs & lip balm. In our car we usually have wipes, spare diapers, bottled water, and our double stroller.

I avoid using a purse as much as possible as well because I hate carrying it around and I sometimes forget I brought it with. If I don't have a decent pocket for my phone, in my bra it goes. So my essentials are keys, ID & debit card, & phone.

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"Claire'sMommy" wrote:

Did that Sunday at the park. I didn't bring ANYTHING so I wiped DS's boogers on his hoodie.

Gotta teach him the old cover opposite nostril, aim, and blow method! Wink

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"Spacers" wrote:

A friend of mine carries her phone all the time, I think she's paranoid that something will happen to her son & she'll be unreachable in a meeting. :rolleyes:

I carry my phone all the time, even at home it is always on the same floor of the house as I am (we don't have a land line other than the one in my DH's office, which I don't use but could in the event of an emergency).

I think that it is pretty normal for most Mothers (especially of young children) to want to be reachable, I was surprised to see that make you roll your eyes. I was at the eye dr's today and my kids were home with a new sitter. I put my phone on silent even though the office had a no cell phone policy and I had instructed the sitter to text me if she needed anything. With three young children (one nursing) I feel much better knowing that I can be reached whenever I need to be.

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"Beertje" wrote:

Gotta teach him the old cover opposite nostril, aim, and blow method! Wink

Ahh the farmers hankey. Always handy on the playing field Smile

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"Potter75" wrote:

I think that it is pretty normal for most Mothers (especially of young children) to want to be reachable, I was surprised to see that make you roll your eyes.

I think most mothers who work outside the home leave their children with someone they trust to take care of things in their absence, and don't feel the need to be on call when they have a job to be doing. This particular friend once panicked when she got an incoming call from her sitter, scrambled out of an important meeting in tears, which was very disruptive, and the call was because the sitter couldn't find the peanut butter. :eek: No one needs to be available every single minute, not even a mom. Especially at work.

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"Spacers" wrote:

I think most mothers who work outside the home leave their children with someone they trust to take care of things in their absence, and don't feel the need to be on call when they have a job to be doing. This particular friend once panicked when she got an incoming call from her sitter, scrambled out of an important meeting in tears, which was very disruptive, and the call was because the sitter couldn't find the peanut butter. :eek: No one needs to be available every single minute, not even a mom. Especially at work.

I disagree with the bolded. I agree that you shouldn't be disruptive (leaving a meeting in tears?? What??) but my experience with working mothers (myself and all of my coworkers and mother and friends included) is that we do try to be available via cell as much as possible. Which is not to say that I actually talk to my son's daycare lady very often - I can't even remember the last time I spoke to her while I was at work. But the point is that I always have my cell phone on and on me, just in case. Maybe it depends on the working environment that you are in? My department is fairly family friendly, so I don't feel any pressure to not have my cell phone on me. I'm sure if actually I talked on it all day it would become a problem, but no one has ever complained to me (or anyone else) that they don't think I should have it on vibrate and sitting on my desk during the work day. I actually find it odd that someone thinks that this is a strange attitude.

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"Spacers" wrote:

I think most mothers who work outside the home leave their children with someone they trust to take care of things in their absence, and don't feel the need to be on call when they have a job to be doing. This particular friend once panicked when she got an incoming call from her sitter, scrambled out of an important meeting in tears, which was very disruptive, and the call was because the sitter couldn't find the peanut butter. :eek: No one needs to be available every single minute, not even a mom. Especially at work.

That Mom sounds panicky and her sitter not all that trustworthy if they deemed something like missing peanut butter to be an "emergency". Luckily, even as a SAHM, I have the luxury of trusting my sitters to be able to discern the difference between something critical and non critical. I guess since I never have a job to be doing (other than minding my kids and running my household) when I am away from them I don't do anything important enough to not want to be notified immediately in case of an emergency or something critical. Even in my career, people received personal calls. I think that most professionals carry their cell phones with them or else work somewhere (like a hospital or an office building) where they have things like office lines and paging systems and they know that they can be reached immediately. I don't know anyone who does not carry a cell phone pretty much all the time. The fact that a safety feature available to Mothers (working outside the home and those who simply leave their home and children at times) would make you roll your eyes is bizarre to me. Truly.

ETA: I strongly disagree with your statement that no one (not even a Mom) needs to be on call every minute. If my child is injured ....and my husband is out of town....I absolutely WANT to be on call every minute. I can't believe that any mother could disagree with that, it boggles my mind. If you don't want to know that your child is hurt, fine, but don't think that those of us who do are eye roll worthy, please.

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"Spacers" wrote:

I think most mothers who work outside the home leave their children with someone they trust to take care of things in their absence, and don't feel the need to be on call when they have a job to be doing. This particular friend once panicked when she got an incoming call from her sitter, scrambled out of an important meeting in tears, which was very disruptive, and the call was because the sitter couldn't find the peanut butter. :eek: No one needs to be available every single minute, not even a mom. Especially at work.

Who do you think school or daycare calls to pick up a sick kid when both of the parents work? If my kid develops a fever in the middle of the day or breaks a bone, someone needs to pick her up. How do you imagine this works in families with two working parents?

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After mat leave I actually left my old job downtown for a position at a company way closer to the kids, knowing that there would definitely be days I'd get the call from the dayhome informing me that one/both were sick and to come get them! I feel comforted only being a few minutes away, should I need to get a kiddo asap.

Gotta teach him the old cover opposite nostril, aim, and blow method! Wink

Actually, he JUST learned how to blow his nose a couple days ago. Gosh, why isn't "ability to blow own nose" ever listed in those silly milestone charts? IMO, it's just as important a milestone as "can eat with utensil".:D

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"CalBearInBoston" wrote:

Who do you think school or daycare calls to pick up a sick kid when both of the parents work? If my kid develops a fever in the middle of the day or breaks a bone, someone needs to pick her up. How do you imagine this works in families with two working parents?

Bingo. Stacey, you may have a different experience because, correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't your DH stay home with your children? So presumably if there were an emergency with your child, he would be there to deal with it. Or when they are older, if they get sick at school, he could come and get them. So you may not feel as much of a need to have your phone on you at all times. But in the case of two working parents, it is kind of important to be available as much as possible, just in case. I have had more than one time where my DS got sick during the day and needed to be picked up - it's not like I can just ignore my daycare lady if she is saying "Your son has a fever and needs to go home."

I also agree with Melissa that all of the non-parent coworkers I have also carry their phones with them during the work day and occasionally take or make personal phone calls. I don't see why working moms should be held to a different standard than anyone else.

Honestly, it sounds like your friend (is she your friend? You don't seem to like her very much.) is a rather bad, extreme example. I think most of us can handle having a cell phone on our person during the day without crying.

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Wow. Being a mother is a full time job weather you work outside the home or not. I am a SAHM, but if I ever decided to go back to work I would want to be able to be reached all the time. I babysit other children in my home and I have always been able to call the parents if I needed too. For example they threw up or fell and hurt them self. As a parent I would want to know those things right away. DD1's school also called if there was a problem. When we go out to dinner for the evening and leave the girls with a baby sitter I always make sure I have a phone with me and also leave the sitter with other emergency numbers.

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Yes, Alissa, you're right. My DH is home with the kids but he doesn't have a phone on him 24/7 either. If he's out back & can't hear it ring, or out of the house, he'll get a message when he gets back. I have a work line that only I answer, and voicemail if I'm away from my desk. If whomever has our children can't handle something for a few minutes before one of us can respond, they don't deserve to be in the position of caring for our kids.

And when we go out & leave the kids with a sitter, we do leave emergency numbers but not ours, LOL. Once we got home after leaving Weston with MIL & she was so ticked at us because she'd called us and discovered that we'd left our cell phone on the counter. She couldn't even remember what she'd called us about. No thank you, when I take a break from my kids, I want a real break!

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"Spacers" wrote:

Yes, Alissa, you're right. My DH is home with the kids but he doesn't have a phone on him 24/7 either. If he's out back & can't hear it ring, or out of the house, he'll get a message when he gets back. I have a work line that only I answer, and voicemail if I'm away from my desk. If whomever has our children can't handle something for a few minutes before one of us can respond, they don't deserve to be in the position of caring for our kids.

And when we go out & leave the kids with a sitter, we do leave emergency numbers but not ours, LOL. Once we got home after leaving Weston with MIL & she was so ticked at us because she'd called us and discovered that we'd left our cell phone on the counter. She couldn't even remember what she'd called us about. No thank you, when I take a break from my kids, I want a real break!

If you or your husband are never away from your landlines for more than a few minutes, that's no different than having a cell phone on your person.

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"Spacers" wrote:

Yes, Alissa, you're right. My DH is home with the kids but he doesn't have a phone on him 24/7 either. If he's out back & can't hear it ring, or out of the house, he'll get a message when he gets back. I have a work line that only I answer, and voicemail if I'm away from my desk. If whomever has our children can't handle something for a few minutes before one of us can respond, they don't deserve to be in the position of caring for our kids.

So is your caregiver needs something from you or has a question, even if it's non-emergency (mine asked where our toaster was located today via text), you feel they don't deserve to watch your children because you can't be bothered with a quick call or text? I think that's rather extreme. We have a tier that we follow. If our sitter has questions or concerns about anything, they contact our cell first and if it's very important and she can't get through to us through the cell (being in a meeting) then she is to call us at work and interrupt us. Same rule goes for my older kids. I think that's rather normal. I'm keeping my phone near and dear because of my kids and I value my sitter to trust her judgement in knowing when to contact me and what is deemed as an emergency. Her wanting information from me shows her interest and passion in wanting to provide awesome care for our kids, which I highly value.

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