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OT - Getting to Know You QOTW 6/3

Are you planning on having any more kids? Why or why not?

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Nope. We're done. We have two boys and feel like we have a nice dynamic going on. We think our emotional, financial, and physical resources are pretty well consumed with the two we have. If I could be guaranteed that I'd get one that would actually sleep, we might consider it, but that doesn't seem likely...

Joined: 01/01/06
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Not sure...

Well, obviously will have a new one here in about a month...that will make 5!

We've always just let nature take it's course (especially after dealing with infertility treatments so many times)...DH and I are starting to feel more done, but DS really really wants a brother:)

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Maybe. The jury is still out.

I could easily go for one more. Dh is not so convinced.

My kids frequently request another sibling and it is pretty adorable. I love the way the kids interact with one another. I always wanted a big family.....and I can't imagine not having another just one more.

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I'm pregnant with #4, and we are SO DONE after this!

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I would like another 3, hubby and I have always wanted more than 2 but I can't handle odd numbers so we settled on 4

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My tubes are tied after 3 precious little girls. I had several pg complications or we would have had one more. We might adopt later on though.

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I'm done. We have three healthy kids, two great boys and a sweet girl in the middle. I know I could talk DH into one more, but I don't want to. I had three wonderful pregnancies which I enjoyed every moment of, and I am so looking forward to the next phase, both personally and as a family.

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We're pretty sure we're done. Another one with pregnancy complications, so it's hard for me to justify more when I have two gorgeous girls. I think I will always wonder who I might be missing out on though and that makes me sad. I grew up having thoughts of a big family like what I grew up in. But that's not meant to be.

I am pumped to get out of the baby stage though and enjoy life as a family of 4.

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We're trying for No. 3 and also waiting for an adoption placement. Neither looks to be happening anytime soon.

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We are done. I feel so happy with what we have, a boy and a girl, they're beyond lovely. And even though I loved being pregnant, I am 45 now and just don't have it in me to start again with a newborn. If I were ten years younger I'd think about it. I love that our kids aren't babies anymore. What a journey.

But yeah...no more. I'm tired!

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"freddieflounder101" wrote:

We are done. I feel so happy with what we have, a boy and a girl, they're beyond lovely. And even though I loved being pregnant, I am 45 now and just don't have it in me to start again with a newborn. If I were ten years younger I'd think about it. I love that our kids aren't babies anymore. What a journey.

But yeah...no more. I'm tired!

This is me 100%(except I'm not THAT old, lol. j/k )

We have a girl and a boy and both are in the independant stage of life. I can't imagine starting over with the BF'ing and the carting around every necessity in a bag wherever I go. It exhausts me to think about it. Like Laurie, I love that our kids are not babies and it is so much fun watching the once dependant beings be their own little person.

My father is going to have a baby and it cracks me up. I can't imagine me at 34 starting over, so I sure as heck can't imagine my 56 yo dad starting over.

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Well, we definitely want this one on the way, so that will bump us up to two. But after that, I think we will probably be done. DH is a big believer in the replacement theory of family planning (meaning, you only have 2 children to replace you both when you die in terms of the earth's population. Which makes no sense to me because with any luck, during the course of our lifetime there will be the four of us, plus hopefully a slew of grandbabies. But I digress.)

I think I will be ready to quit after this one - I think I will be ready to move into the independent school aged kids soon enough.

Melissa - what you said about enjoying every minute about your pregnancies inspired me. I haven't been enjoying this one nearly as much as I should because I've been stressing myself out worrying about another loss. That's the wrong approach, I think. I am going to try to channel you and just enjoy this pregnancy and not stress. Thanks for the light bulb moment.

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We are done. DH has 2 teenagers and we have a toddler together. I would have been happy to have one more, but DH is done. He has some health problems so taking care of one small child is about all his body can handle. A second would be too much. If things change in the future we might look at adoption or fostering.

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Two and done for us. Hubby and I both wanted a boy, but now that we have two sweet little girls we're very content. I admit, I do miss having a tiny little baby to cuddle and take care of. But I think I'm at the stage where I just want to babysit, get my baby fix, and then get back to life as normal with my 4 and 6 year olds.

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I'm hoping for one more. We'll see what happens.

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We're "two and through." We're believers in the replacement theory. If we decide in the future that our family is incomplete, we'll adopt someone who is already here. I did really love being pregnant (I would happily be a surrogate if I was younger) and am sad that I will never experience that again. But OTOH I'm very happy to never have another c-section. Blum 3

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A solid maybe here Wink

We've always said 4 kids close in age (and had 4 kids in 5 years), but now that we are there... I don't know... We'll have to make a decision in the near-ish future though, I don't want a big gap.

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I get harassed about replacement theory now and again (I work with bunch of super earth loving hippies--love them....)

I always just tell them that I'm doing my part to make sure that there are enough young people working to support social security-- and that I'm having my friends' babies. I have so many friends and colleagues who have chosen to remain childless.....just doin' my part. Smile

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LOL - I never thought of it that way. One of my BFFs is childless by choice - maybe I could have her 2 for her? LOL

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Done.....I think.....maybe.....probably. As of right now with three, we're done. I love being pregnant so much and I love every stage past the newborn infant stage, 6 months or so and on, but I feel like we should be done now. We are getting older and DH is 7 years older than I am, so he feels like we need to wrap this up so we've got them all in or through college by retirement Smile I had such a great birth this last time and that makes it even harder to be done knowing how great birth "can" be, but on the same note, I feel like I'd be pushing my luck. We're probably done, but no final decisions are going to be made until next spring.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

LOL - I never thought of it that way. One of my BFFs is childless by choice - maybe I could have her 2 for her? LOL

You'd only get to have her one. You'd need two childless-by-choice friends to get two more. And make sure they've done something permanent because if they do procreate later, you've screwed up the system, LOL! Wink

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I do want one more, but not anytime soon. Jace will probably be around 10 years old when it happens.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

LOL - I never thought of it that way. One of my BFFs is childless by choice - maybe I could have her 2 for her? LOL

Huh. I have one too. I wonder if she'd let me have "hers"....