OT -- update on me

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OT -- update on me

Since we did talk about it on this board and I "know" you guys.....just want to let you know that my mom died yesterday with her four kids (all in our 40s) around her.

She fought against the cancer so hard but couldn't beat it...but she dictated every other thing and was her strong, persistent self until the end.

We're laughing and crying together, helping her husband deal with the details, and then go back to our towns and our families.

Thanks for the kind words you guys have given me when this topic came up. It is truly appreciated.

- Laurie

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Oh Laurie I am so very sorry to read this ~ I am sure that you and your siblings were an incredible comfort and joy to your Mom yesterday.

I will be thinking of you and your kids too tonight and in the weeks ahead ~ xoxo friend.

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Laurie~I have had you and your family in my thoughts for quite some time now. You'll still continue to be in my thoughts while you all deal with your loss. She sounded like a beautiful, wonderful woman and I know she'll be dearly missed. I'm glad that you got to be with her yesterday and wishing you all peace while you remember your remarkable mom.

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Laurie, I am so sorry to read this. What a blessing to be able to be with her and your siblings when she passed, and that you got to see her personality until the very end. I hope you all can find peace during this hard time. I will keep you in my thoughts in the coming weeks

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I'm so sorry. It was amazing that you were all there, I've seen too many people pass without family there and it just breaks my heart.

Thoughts and Prayers for all of you.

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I'm so sorry, Laurie. ((hugs))

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Laurie, my heart hurts so much for you....huge (((hugs))) to you and your family. I'm glad you have each other to lean on during this time. Let me know if there is anything I can do, even from afar.

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So sorry for your loss I'm so glad you were able to be with her. My Dad passed away 7 years ago from complications of stomach cancer. He went suddenly so only my Mom and brother were able to be with him, but it gave us all great comfort to know that all eleven of us were able to go and spend time with him in the last months before he died.

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I am so very sorry for your loss.

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Big Hugs, Laurie. Its so good that you could all be there for her, and for each other. Sounds like she built a strong family. I'll continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers these days to come.

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Laurie - I'm so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs)) I was so glad to read that you were all able to be with your mom in the end. I'm sure it was an incredible comfort to her to have all of her children there with her. She sounds like a wonderful woman who built a close knit and loving family. You and your family will be in my thoughts. (((Hugs)))

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I'm so sorry, Laurie. Sad

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((((HUGS)))) Laurie, I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. As others have expressed, what an awesome gift for you to be there with your siblings to witness her being "mom" 'til the end. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. If there is some other way that we can support you, please do let us know.


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(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry, Laurie. I'm glad you were able to be there at the end for her. I'll be keeping you & your family in my thoughts.

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Thanks guys.

My mom really was so proud of her kids, she practically strutted when she talked about us. It meant the world to her to have us together with her and it meant the world to us too, it's a rare occasion indeed as we live in different cities and are usually surrounded by our own kids & spouses when we see each other.

We'll see each other again in Toronto in a few weeks to meet with friends & family and celebrate my Mom's amazing life.

Thanks for all the support.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you were all able to be there for her at the end. How are your lo's holding up?

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So sorry for your loss Laurie. Doesn't matter your age when it's your Mum *hugs*


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I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner Laurie.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something that would make things better.

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"wlillie" wrote:

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you were all able to be there for her at the end. How are your lo's holding up?

The kids are okay. Nathaniel is sad, but he knew it was coming. Juliet got very sad after I told her over the phone, but then once I was back home I realized that she doesn't actually know what "died" means. The phone rang on Sunday and she thought it was Gummie (my mom's grandmother name). So I asked her if she knew what it meant, and she didn't. I tried to put it in terms she could understand, so I told her that we can't see Gummie or talk to her anymore, and that's why I'm sad, but that she's still there in our hearts and minds. Juliet was so cute, she asked if it was something that automatically happens when someone dies, that they just zap into your heart & mind, and I said yes. So I think she gets it now.

They are sad because they loved her, and they're sad because I am so sad.

I think it'll help us all when we gather in Toronto with the rest of the family.

I really appreciate all the notes here guys....it is not real to me that my mom is actually gone. It is beyond my ability to accept at this point, even though I was there. I suppose it will all come in time.

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