The article is long, so I'm not going to cut and paste it, but please read it, its interesting.
Do you agree or disagree with this statement from the article:
But is America really in the midst of a "bullying crisis," as so many now claim? I don't see it. I also suspect that our fears about the ubiquity of bullying are just the latest in a long line of well-intentioned yet hyperbolic alarms about how awful it is to be a kid today.
It's interesting...I admittedly don't read parenting stuff. But in the literature/videos/reporting I see about bullying, none of it claims that bullying is on the RISE. It just claims that we have to be vigilant about it, which I agree with. The beauty of the internet is that these "outcast" kids who used to get bullied and have miserable lives now can connect with other kids who are similar, this was something that never happened before. Gay kids, geek kids, kids who don't blend in with their peers, now they have a way to connect with others that didn't used to exist.
So I don't see people saying there's more bullying now, I just see people actually caring about it and not relying on "kids will be kids" so they don't have to take any action.
Obviously internet bullying is new, though. Just remembered that one.
Anyway, my point is that raising awareness is great. Taking crazy precautions to prevent hurt feelings? Silly. Reacting strongly to make sure bullies stop and bullied kids don't spend their whole lives cowering & giving up? Essential.
I don't think bullying is on the rise--it has always existed. I think the internet has made bullying different than it has been before and makes it much harder for kids. Before, if a child was bullied at school he/she came home and escaped it. Now facebook, twitter--just the internet in general leads to a much higher level of bullying because the bully is now longer face to face with the victim and can torment him/her night and day if they wanted and that's the scary part.
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I just read a fantastic book (called Stray Love) that compares childhood experiences between mixed-race children in London between the 1960s and 2000s. The kid in the 60s has to deal with rock-throwing and name-calling by adults.
I think that bullying has decreased, like crime, but is still out there. But it's clear that it is something that can be reduced, and that we need to work towards that.
I dont think bullying is increasing in numbers, but it possibly is in how it is done. With cyber bullying we now have the bully cominng right into our homes, a place that was once free of that from outside the family.
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I do think there was an attitude back in the day that bullying was a part of childhood, and it was just something kids had to live with. That's the big change....parents & teachers no longer sweep it under the rug. I hope. So that's what the increased attention is about, recognizing that it needs to be addressed.
I hope so, anyway. We do live in times of great overreaction, when things are banned outright because of controversy or accidents. There are schools with no dodgeball, no tag, no anything. The easiest answer for many administrators is to just say no to anything that could cause a problem. That makes it easy to overreact to what could be gentle taunting (that kids need to learn to deal with) and call it bullying, it's harder to find those lines in an overreacting culture.
I totally agree with you, it seems that it is more prevalent just because it is not ignored.
That said, I think bullying is easier today because technology allows people anonymity. I think people who would otherwise not be bullies or atleast participate in bullying behavior fi they were face to face with someone, are braver behind a keyboard. Add tot hat the ability for a sentence to travel through an entire school in less then a second, and it can become unbearbale for a kid.
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We can't give up and let the bullying continue. At the same time there are things that kids learn from interacting with each other. Some strife and hurt feelings are normal and can lead to good lessons. To bubble wrap kids so they never feel a bad feeling isn't going to teach them anything.
I don't think anyone is overreacting at all. I think it's great that schools now have zero tolerance for it, as I know many children are scared to even tell their own parents about what's going on sometimes. I'm glad that it's discussed more now than ever before, so that hopefully some lives can be saved as a result.
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