Pajamas in Public *gasp*

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bunnyfufu's picture
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Pajamas in Public *gasp*

I read an article today and I am not sure what I think about it. The tone is set to provoke and that is what it did. The comments get pretty rough with one another.

Moms Who Wear Pajamas in Public Have Officially Let Themselves Go | The Stir

Basically, the debate is whether or not wearing pjs while out and about means that you've 'given up."

What I find interesting is the seemingly Herculean task it seems that putting a pair of pants on is for the people who left comments.

PJs in public? Lazy or just another clothing choice? And this seems pretty straightforward but, given that you own pants or rather, non-sleeping-attire and don't have a medical condition which makes wearing non-sleeping attire a challenge . . . isn't it better to wear regular clothes in public.

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p.s. I rarely pop in here, but used to post a fair amount. Hello to some familiar names!

wlillie's picture
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How in the hell is someone going to judge other people about pajama pants when she openly admits to wearing yoga pants in public? People are fing insane.

Spacers's picture
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:wavehello: Good to see you! I remember you. Smile

ITA with the article. Wearing PJ's when one is leaving the house, short of a fire or medical emergency, is nothing but lazy. Same with sweats; if you're not heading to the gym or working on the car or yard, put on a pair of real pants.

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I would not leave the house in my PJ's unless it was an emergency such as a fire or someone broke a bone. Even if I am not planning to go anywhere for the day I still get dressed. I rarely wear make up or anything fancy though if I am staying home or just going to the store.

bunnyfufu's picture
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People are nutso!

I just was so surprised by the vitriol of the "I wear pjs and you can suck-it" crowd. So funny.

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yes I agree with Melissa. I HATE seeing pj pants in public outside of an ER setting or a baby. It's lazy for all people not just moms ;).

Yoga pants/sweat pants are no different. At least a pair of jeans.

bunnyfufu's picture
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Sounds like y'all are pretty much on the same page that I am. Wlillie, you went right to the judgement thing and that is interesting to me too.

They were all upset about how judge-y the writer was. I am always baffled by this. We all 'judge' all the time.

The pajama enthusiasts judge pjs as appropriate "out-shopping" attire. In my judgement, I think it's best to wear, you know, clothes. I feel like I am a little socially tone deaf when it comes to what is considered "judgemental."

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"Jessica80" wrote:

At least a pair of jeans.

OT - I have never found jeans to be very comfortable. I normally either wear Khaki pants, dress pants, or a skirt or dress. Christmas Day is the only day of the year that I wear PJ's all day long.

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I wear jeans almost every day.

I agree -- pajama pants are for inside. Workout or yoga gear is for when you're on your way there & back, and that's it, although I will stop for errands on the way home from yoga sometimes. I'm a little self-conscious about it but if I'm doing that, I have my yoga bag slung over my shoulder too, so hopefully the people I accidentally whap with it will know that's why I'm wearing yoga pants in public.

But yeah, keep your pjs for home. Get dressed before you go out. It's not really that hard.

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At least jeans for me. I VERY rarely might wear sweats to the convenience store just to run in for something quick late at night or something. Never PJs even for that.

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Yeah, i HATE that look! I do not understand all the college age people (our town is packed with them) that run out in the nasty jammies. And the not fixed hair. At least brush it. It IS lazy. I really don't think it's worth sitting and being nasty over though... People need to relax. lol

I have run very late at night into a convenience store for milk or gas or something in nice sweats. That's the closest.

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oh I understand. My dad hates jeans too. Whatever you are comfy in.

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"bunnyfufu" wrote:

Sounds like y'all are pretty much on the same page that I am. Wlillie, you went right to the judgement thing and that is interesting to me too.

They were all upset about how judge-y the writer was. I am always baffled by this. We all 'judge' all the time.

The pajama enthusiasts judge pjs as appropriate "out-shopping" attire. In my judgement, I think it's best to wear, you know, clothes. I feel like I am a little socially tone deaf when it comes to what is considered "judgemental."

Amen sister! And I've missed you Bunnyfufu! I absolutely think that PJ's in public on adults are bizarro. And yes, in my mind I think "WTF" and probably lump them into several other areas of clothing or personal "ick" judgement. I don't mind admitting it. Don't waste a lot of thought on it, or bother to give dirty looks or anything, just think that it looks sloppy and like someone doesn't care how they present to the world. I do believe that how we present ourselves to the world does matter some. It isn't everything, but it isn't nothing, either.

Then again, it doesn't bother me that I've read articles judging me as the "lululemon Mom" or the "SUV Mom". I do go out in workout gear all the time ~ because I've worked out that morning and haven't had time to shower yet and am taking my kids to school or running an errand before I shower in the afternoon and go out that night or something. I just can't compare nice, quality performance wear and someones flannel pooh pajamas ~ one is intended to crossover from the gym to the store, one is intended to sleep in, IMO. In fact, I just got back from picking my daughter up at school and am still wearing my gym clothes. Will shower and change into "real" clothing before I go out with girlfriends tonight.

Judging is fine. And PJ's in public look lazy.

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Running out in your lululemons to run errands is pretty big here, or at least it seems. I see girls standing at the bus stop in their pj-ish pants - sloppy and lazy and gross. On the flip side, I've seen some pretty exhausted moms sitting patiently in urgent care with their wee one, dressed in sweats, and I don't blame them for a sec. I would never hunker down for a 4 or 5 hour waiting room stay in jeans. nope. Give me comfy pants. Generally though, short of an emergency-type situation, get dressed in real pants.

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What gets me are the people who wear slippers as shoes? WTH? Slippers and flannel pants are not meant for shopping trips or classrooms. Ick.

I do think it looks like you've given up and it makes me sad for these moms/college students/teens. I get asked all.of.the.time. how I remain "put together" or "polished" as the mom of 5-- and it drives me nuts that society expects us to fall apart after having a kid or two. To me, it matters how one presents themselves and is worth the investment of time and energy. There are lots of comfortable options that are easy to slip on that aren't pajamas-- find a comfy basic black skirt, some non-wrinkle khakis, well-fitting jeans, a cute jacket and some boots and you are set.

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I dont see people in pajamas very often around here, unless I go into the town a few over that has a college. When I do see it, I dont give it to much thought.

I dont mind people in workout gear, but maybe that is because I do wear mine sometimes if changing before or after my workout is not fitting into my schedule.

This has made me wonder if other moms judge me? I go work out most days before picking up DD2 from school so I am in workout gear but have the 2 littles? Oh well, if they are judging for that then maybe they will miss all the other stuff they could judge for

ClairesMommy's picture
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This is kind of how I judge (and ya, I do it): If you look like you're either on your way to or from the gym then workout gear is fine. I admit I don't change out of my stuff at the gym because i'm going straight home to take the stuff off and jump into the shower. I would LOVE to use the gym at work but I don't have time during my lunch hour to work out, shower, hair, makeup, dressed etc. If you're wearing workout pants, uggs, parka (and I am not against any of those articles of clothing separately) and smell like cigarette smoke....wanker. Pajama bottoms, t-shirt and braless in the grocery store or 7/11...ewww.

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I don't go out in pajamas or else I'd be without pants Wink

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I wear sweats all the time on the weekends or holidays. I also don't blow dry my hair or wear makeup. If people think I've "given up" I'm okay with that. I prefer to wear comfortable clothes when possible.

We see many, many people around here wearing pajama pants. Sometimes it's not even the fact that they are wearing the pajama pants that we notice but rather the shirt/pajama combination.

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Hi Bunnyfufu! Long time no see!

Anyway, I don't even know how it's debatable that wearing your PJ's in public is lazy. "I didn't feel like bothering to put on clothes today" just is lazy. Having said that, I really don't care if someone wants to be lazy. Personally, I don't really feel good until I've showered and put on clean clothes in the morning so going out in my PJs isn't something I'm into, but if someone else doesn't feel like getting dressed, oh well. I won't give you a dirty look or even spend many thoughts on it, I just don't think you can argue that you look "put together" in your jammies. LOL

Like Melissa and Laurie though, if I am on my way home from working out and need to run an errand, I will do so in my workout clothes. Do I look "put together" at that moment? Nah, probably not. But I also don't care if someone thinks I look less than my best. When I'm trying to rock an outfit, you'll know it. Blum 3

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

When I'm trying to rock an outfit, you'll know it. Blum 3

This totally made me smile Smile

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I wear yoga pants on my days off cause they are comfy and they don't aggravate my sciatica (thanks pregnancy!). I do try and wear a decent top and make it look nice though. And on days that I work I wear real pants. But my days off are for me to relax and by comfy, not to dress up.

I do think that at some point one has to stop wearing real pajama pants outside. It just looks sloppy.

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Just want to pop in and say, "Yay! the women I like most online wear pants!!!"

Seriously, today turned into a lot of fun because of y'all. I'd started the day thinking that I had ushered the flu out of my house for a while at least. Kissed dh bye-bye, took jr to school and got back home with the princess and when she threw up within an hour of getting here . . . I just cashed in the day because I knew it was going to be me on call every 5 minutes or so. When I thought about what it was that I was going to do with myself for the day, I thought about popping in here.

Thank you for the welcoming-ness. Ha!