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    Should parents be able to collect son's sperm if he dies?

    The root of the issue is simple. If 19-year-old Rufus McGill II dies, his parents want his memory to live. They want grandchildren.

    But that concern is secondary. McGill, after all, remains on life support at Carilion Roanoke Memorial Hospital, and his parents, Jerri and Rufus McGill, hold hope their son can pull through. But if he doesn't, and hope fails, they said they want to harvest their son's sperm to start the next generation on their own.

    "I just think there's a mission for his dad and I," Jerri McGill said on Tuesday. "This happened for a reason. There's no doubt in my mind that he would want this."

    The ramifications of making that kind of medical decision are murky, though. While Jerri and Rufus McGill can make the decision to end life support, they can't legally collect their son's sperm. He's an adult, and they are no longer considered his legal guardians. Rufus McGill II has one full brother, who lives with his father in North Carolina, and two half-siblings.

    It's an issue that places the McGills at a crossroads, where health and family law intersect with the ethical implications of starting new life without a person's expressed consent. And while post-mortem collection of semen isn't unheard of, the permutations of what happens to the child after gestation does raise red flags, ethicists say.

    McGill has been listed in critical condition since Oct. 14, when he crashed his mother's 2005 Cadillac near Boones Mill in Franklin County. The wreck involved six people and killed Hannah M. Long, a 15-year-old Liberty High School student. Rufus McGill II was airlifted to the hospital.

    "He took a turn for the worst last Sunday," Jerri McGill said. "They're running some tests right now, but the doctors believe he's brain dead."

    She paused.

    "There are some decisions that his father and I are going to have to make."

    It's been a two-week nightmare for the McGills, one that has kept them camped out in a hospital waiting area since the crash.

    Divorced, but still on amicable terms, the pair, both 40, agreed that keeping alive the possibility of grandchildren through their son was a positive thing. They even found a University of Virginia Medical Center urologist willing to perform the procedure, they said.

    "The problem is a court order," Jerri McGill said. "We have to have a court order because of his age. We have called attorneys in Roanoke and they won't touch it with a 10-foot pole."

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    Nope, don't think they should be allowed. They are young enough they could still have more kids of there own. And I wonder who the mother of these "grandkids" would be.
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    It is weird, wrong, and gross. I think they would benefit from counseling to help them get through this trauma and time of stress of possibly losing their son. It is hard for them- I'm sure.
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    My personal opinion is this - classic case of a family who is going through a tragic event and don't have the ability to face the possibility their son's life / "legacy" could possibly be over.

    I digress.

    Factually speaking - Sperm collection for use after death is very similar to me to that of organ donation. It's something of the deceased that will allow life after their death. Without the consent of the individual, whatever it is that is being sought after should not be allowed to be preserved for future use.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ILoveMyMiniMe View Post
    My personal opinion is this - classic case of a family who is going through a tragic event and don't have the ability to face the possibility their son's life / "legacy" could possibly be over.

    I digress.

    Factually speaking - Sperm collection for use after death is very similar to me to that of organ donation. It's something of the deceased that will allow life after their death. Without the consent of the individual, whatever it is that is being sought after should not be allowed to be preserved for future use.
    But factually speaking they are very different. Sperm is for making completely new people and organs are for trying to save the life of the already living. But i agree with the wo consent part.
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    I really don't know how I feel about the sperm, but in the case of the organs, I believe the family normally makes the decision for the family member. For example, if a 25 year old man was in a serious car accident and he had not previously said if he wanted his organs donated or not, his family would make that decision for him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I really don't know how I feel about the sperm, but in the case of the organs, I believe the family normally makes the decision for the family member. For example, if a 25 year old man was in a serious car accident and he had not previously said if he wanted his organs donated or not, his family would make that decision for him.
    Actually, for organ donation even if the deceased said they wanted their organs donated it is up to the family.
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    I do not agree with it. I also think it is a family in emotional turmoil and trying to hang onto one last piece of their child.

    I can see the organ donation side of it. I'm not sure I agree in the sense as this is going to make another human vs. helping an ill person live.

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    I don't see anything wrong with it. If they want to hang on to one last piece of their child - what is wrong with that? How is it any more wrong than creating a child with sperm from a sperm bank? There is no reason to think that he would not give his permission to his parents if he was able to. I think if they have authority over his body as far as donating his organs and burying his body, they should have just as much authority to collect his sperm if they want to. If they want to go through the trouble and expense of creating a child from that sperm how is that anybody elses business? If they are going to care for the child who does it hurt?
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    Quote Originally Posted by mom2robbie View Post
    Actually, for organ donation even if the deceased said they wanted their organs donated it is up to the family.
    I could be wrong, but I think if you have a Living Will, that makes you final decisions not your family.

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