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    I guess I don't really understand the point. It's not like the grandchild will be a replacement for the dead son, and that's putting a really weird emotional burden on a child that hasn't even been conceived yet. If they want more kids, why don't they conceive more if they are able, or adopt? Why does this kid have to be genetically related to a dead man who will never be his/her father?
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    I missed it, how old of a boy are we talking?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I missed it, how old of a boy are we talking?
    19 years old
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    Quote Originally Posted by GloriaInTX View Post
    19 years old
    19 years old I can understand. He might have been in a deeply committed relationship with someone that wanted a child to remember him by.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    I guess I don't really understand the point. It's not like the grandchild will be a replacement for the dead son, and that's putting a really weird emotional burden on a child that hasn't even been conceived yet. If they want more kids, why don't they conceive more if they are able, or adopt? Why does this kid have to be genetically related to a dead man who will never be his/her father?
    This is not a strange or unique viewpoint to feel like you live on through your children or grandchildren. They don't want another child they want their grandchild. Maybe you have to get to an age where you have a son old enough to have a child or have grandchildren to understand, I don't know. Even though the child may never know the father in person I'm sure they have plenty of memories they could share, though the grandparents would really be the parents it is a way for them to keep a part of their son alive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GloriaInTX View Post
    This is not a strange or unique viewpoint to feel like you live on through your children or grandchildren. They don't want another child they want their grandchild. Maybe you have to get to an age where you have a son old enough to have a child or have grandchildren to understand, I don't know. Even though the child may never know the father in person I'm sure they have plenty of memories they could share, though the grandparents would really be the parents it is a way for them to keep a part of their son alive.
    Honestly it seems like kind of a selfish thing to intentionally do to a kid, just because *they* want a grandchild. It's one thing if the child was already conceived and they were asking the partner not to give it up for adoption or abort it, but to go out of your way to create a kid that will always miss out on having a dad, AND to put that emotional burden on them, just so they can be grandparents? It just seems weird and selfish to me. Again, if they want kids, they should conceive them (or adopt them) themselves.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    Honestly it seems like kind of a selfish thing to intentionally do to a kid, just because *they* want a grandchild. It's one thing if the child was already conceived and they were asking the partner not to give it up for adoption or abort it, but to go out of your way to create a kid that will always miss out on having a dad, AND to put that emotional burden on them, just so they can be grandparents? It just seems weird and selfish to me. Again, if they want kids, they should conceive them (or adopt them) themselves.
    How is that any different to adopt or have a child of their own? The grandfather would be the father to child either way. If the son was 19 years old they could very well be past the age of conceiving a child of their own. And so what if it is selfish? A lot of people have children for selfish reasons.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    Honestly it seems like kind of a selfish thing to intentionally do to a kid, just because *they* want a grandchild. It's one thing if the child was already conceived and they were asking the partner not to give it up for adoption or abort it, but to go out of your way to create a kid that will always miss out on having a dad, AND to put that emotional burden on them, just so they can be grandparents? It just seems weird and selfish to me. Again, if they want kids, they should conceive them (or adopt them) themselves.
    This is your personal opinion. I do not see why that would have a bearing on if it would be legal or not to do. I might not personally do this, but I see no reason why it should be illegal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GloriaInTX View Post
    How is that any different to adopt or have a child of their own? The grandfather would be the father to child either way. If the son was 19 years old they could very well be past the age of conceiving a child of their own. And so what if it is selfish? A lot of people have children for selfish reasons.
    The article says the parents are 40 so they are not past the point of conceiving another child. My one sister died when her children were 7yo, 4yo and 9 months. It was very had for the 9 month old growing up. First he thought he killed his mom and then he felt rejected by his dad. All 3 kids had issues remembering their mom and having to hear about how wonderful she was, they still miss her 21 years later.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    19 years old I can understand. He might have been in a deeply committed relationship with someone that wanted a child to remember him by.
    It is the parents wanting a grandchild. There is no one else mentioned in the article.
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