Thread: Parents want to collect injured son's sperm

Originally Posted by mom2robbie

The article says the parents are 40 so they are not past the point of conceiving another child. My one sister died when her children were 7yo, 4yo and 9 months. It was very had for the 9 month old growing up. First he thought he killed his mom and then he felt rejected by his dad. All 3 kids had issues remembering their mom and having to hear about how wonderful she was, they still miss her 21 years later.

I am not yet 40. I am 31, and I can not have more children.

Originally Posted by mom2robbie

The article says the parents are 40 so they are not past the point of conceiving another child. My one sister died when her children were 7yo, 4yo and 9 months. It was very had for the 9 month old growing up. First he thought he killed his mom and then he felt rejected by his dad. All 3 kids had issues remembering their mom and having to hear about how wonderful she was, they still miss her 21 years later.

I had a child at 41, but there are MANY women who are not able to have children at that age. I think that sounds like some family problems with grieving that have nothing to do with these people. Not sure how that affects this situation. Maybe it had more to do with how the father dealt with his grief.

Originally Posted by GloriaInTX

How is that any different to adopt or have a child of their own? The grandfather would be the father to child either way. If the son was 19 years old they could very well be past the age of conceiving a child of their own. And so what if it is selfish? A lot of people have children for selfish reasons.

That's also why I don't understand why they don't just have their own kid or adopt. They aren't really going to be the grandparents anyway, right? They are actually going to be the parents...so why are they trying to complicate the issue by "creating" a grandchild to parent that is going to have all of this emotional baggage to live up to? Why not just have their own kid?

Bonita - I know it's just my opinion. I didn't say I think it should be illegal, I said I think it's selfish and weird. I'll have to think more about whether or not I think it should be legal, but THAT question would have more to do with whether I think it should be legal for someone to use your genetic material to reproduce without your permission. Leaning towards no on that too, but that has less to do with the "selfish and weird" component and more to do with bodily integrity.

he;s not even an only child!!! they can have grandbabies the old fashioned way if they just wait. NOT fair to the child.

Oh, he's not even an only child?!?

Look, I don't mean to speak ill of these people. I can't imagine the pain they are in right now. I just don't think this is the right way to deal with their grief.

Rufus McGill II has one full brother, who lives with his father in North Carolina, and two half-siblings.

Originally Posted by wlillie

he;s not even an only child!!! they can have grandbabies the old fashioned way if they just wait. NOT fair to the child.

If you were to wonder over to the TTC boards you would find several people who desperately want another child who already have one.

But you don't use your dying son's sperm to give you another child. That's just...not right to me.

I know for a fact I would not want my eggs harvested if I passed to be used by my family or anyone else.

Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers

If you were to wonder over to the TTC boards you would find several people who desperately want another child who already have one.

One of them has three other children to give them the grandbabies they say they want! If they want another child, they need to get some sperm from someone who can consent. It's not OK to take it from someone who hasn't made it clear how he feels. How would you feel if your parents chose to use your eggs after you died to have another child? Not your spouse, not your boyfriend, but your parents? I'm so icked out right now I can't imagine he'd be OK with it.

Originally Posted by wlillie

One of them has three other children! If they want another child, they need to get some sperm from someone who can consent. It's not OK to take it from someone who hasn't made it clear how he feels. How would you feel if your parents chose to use your eggs after you died to have another child? Not your spouse, not your boyfriend, but your parents? I'm so icked out right now I can't imagine he'd be OK with it.

First, although I have three children I would love to have another. Second, it is not something I personally would do, but I can understand. On my moral radar there are so many things out there that are worse than someone wanting to have a grandchild by their dead son.