If it helps, everybody did come to terms with it and accept it. People who grew up in a generation when such things were NEVER surfaced -- my grandparents, Dad's husband's grandparents, their circles -- everyone came to accept it and even love each other and recognize that we are all family. My dad's husband's dad was a total tough guy, born in Rumania, moved to Canada under difficult circumstances, total man's man tough guy, ended up telling my dad years later, "I love you like my own son, so lucky to have you in the family."
My grandmother ended up hosting their wedding at her apartment many years later, when it became legal in Canada.
And my mom, the one who was hurt by it at first, is friends with my Dad. In fact as she is very ill now and nearing the end, she asked him to come see her, and he unhesitatingly booked a flight.
Not to derail and I know the situation is hard, but maybe it will help to know that these things do eventually get resolved and the pain eases and acceptance comes.
It will take time but the kids will adjust. But I don't deny the pain of the break-up and the confusion all around. It is not an easy thing. I'm truly sorry it's so heartbreaking for them and for the family.
I'm glad it all worked out and I think it is nice that they are trying to do things like this so the kids don't get pulled in all different directions.
I would be okay at them coming as long as there was no arguing by anyone. The gay thing doesn't bother me. I think that if I bought a present for her before I would still buy something. My aunt's sister came to dinner yesterday and we don't normally exchange gifts with her but I got her a small gift as a token.
I always buy for people who come to our house for Christmas...but if I were the guest, I wouldn't expect it.
My family's attitude is the more, the merrier. We've had ex-in-laws, former stepkids, even my sister's uncle's girlfriend -- and her husband! (That was an interesting relationship, it was basically a 3-way marriage, they were all together for over 20 years until my sister's uncle passed away earlier this month.) We don't get gifts for anyone outside each of our immediate families so I wouldn't have a track record of getting a gift for my nieces' mom before & wouldn't feel obligated to get her or her partner anything this year.
Having parents break up is always heartbreaking, but ITA with Laurie that it's far better than living in the constant chaos of a broken relationship. Kids know when it's not working.
David Letterman is retiring. Such great memories of watching him over the past thirty-two years!
I understand about in being hard for them to still be living together, but she is the one that made the changes in the relationship. I can understand where he is coming from. I would not be willing to just leave my kids either.