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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    Christmas morning was just my parents, my sister and her husband and kids, and my brother and the two woman and two kids. In a larger group setting it would not be as noticeable, but Christmas morning it was much more noticeable.

    I understand about in being hard for them to still be living together, but she is the one that made the changes in the relationship. I can understand where he is coming from. I would not be willing to just leave my kids either.
    If she made the changes in the relationship, doesn't that make him a likelier candidate for custody?

    I know, none of my business...no need to answer. But I don't think the person who leaves gets first crack at keeping the kids, necessarily.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    If she made the changes in the relationship, doesn't that make him a likelier candidate for custody?

    I know, none of my business...no need to answer. But I don't think the person who leaves gets first crack at keeping the kids, necessarily.
    I do not really know how it works. I am close to no one who is divorced. (I am very blessed in that both my parents, In-laws, and all of my friends are still with their first spouse) The people (acquaintances) that I do know that are divorced, the Dad only gets the kids sometimes. Such a sticky situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I do not really know how it works. I am close to no one who is divorced. (I am very blessed in that both my parents, In-laws, and all of my friends are still with their first spouse) The people (acquaintances) that I do know that are divorced, the Dad only gets the kids sometimes. Such a sticky situation.
    I think things have changed quite a bit over the years, although it does vary by location. But they don't automatically give custody to moms anymore, and to be blunt, it is sad that being gay will actually make it harder for you to get custody. But it's true. He doesn't have to have her live there to keep the kids. If he wants joint custody, he can have it. We have friends who divorced and have shared custody, and when the mom tried to move to another city with their daughter, the courts upheld his right to keep her where she is...the mom couldn't just up and move and take her.
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    Thanks for the replies. Right now, I think they are just trying to work things out themselves. I do not know how it will go when they try to make changes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    Thanks for the replies. Right now, I think they are just trying to work things out themselves. I do not know how it will go when they try to make changes.

    Well I wish them AND your family the best of luck. The most important thing is that they're both trying to do right by the kids. Whether they make the best choices or not, if the right motivation is there, the kids will know and appreciate it.
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    Thanks.

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