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    Personally, I am really careful about the kids. I make sure the backyard gates are closed and locked. I inspect the yard before they play for spiders and other creatures. I just make sure nothing is there and nothing can get in or out. I also make sure it's as child proof as possible. I then check on them every 5-10 minutes and keep watching otherwise. But I can see the backyard from the kitchen, family room, and my bedroom.

    I don't think I'd ever let my kids walk to school. That one time if anything happened would be too much for me to cope with. I know they have to learn and all. My kids are little still so maybe that makes a big difference.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KimPossible View Post
    I let my kids play outside unsupervised. The area I live in has a lot to do with it. Thats not to say that I don't think there is any risk of anything bad happening, but if the risk was a lot greater, i probably would not be quite as laid back about it.

    As for the risk that does exist? I think i am just really resistant to the idea of these bad people controlling our lives so much. I'm not keen on sacrificing my children's sense of independence and simple joys in life for their sake. In return, I have a responsibility to prepare my kids for the off chance that something bad does occur.

    Now the walking to school thing freaks me out a little more. Emma is in middle school now and she told me that the middle school students are allowed to walk 'home' from school if they live close by. (Its a private school so not everyone does). I've toyed with the idea of letting her walk to a relative's house that is not too far away, because timing wise, it would make my schedule easier to pick her up from there 30 minutes after school gets out.

    Part of me tells me i can't let the fear of something bad happening be the *only* reason that I would not let her do this. But it feels awfully different than playing unsupervised in our own yard.
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    My boys always are outside together, we live quite rurally though at the end of a dead end and trust our neighbors even MORE than some family . They know NEVER to go anywhere with anyone unless they ask mom or dad period. At 9 and 10 now I don't worry that they will disobey the boundaries we have for them, and I do not worry that someone could abduct them while at home, in our neighborhood, it just would be virtually impossible with a husband with a rotating 4 on 4 off schedule one of us is always outside or with the hanger open etc. As far as walking to school (we homeschool) however, I would never ever let them walk to school alone period.. maybe in Highschool, but even then not if they were girls... And yes I would allow them to CC. if highschoolers. I would rather them drive. When I was 11 or so a friend of the family was abducted when walking to school, and killed on the beach in our little town. From then on my sister and I always asked before we left our property, and always went together if it was past our block. When walking to school or the store we always walked with friends or each other. I would do the same for my boys.

    Just a few months ago a boy and his father went into a Wendy's in the urban area in Oregon, and a convicted childmolestor pushed the 10yo into the bathroom, and locked it behind him, was stabbing him before the workers could get it open, and the dad could rescue his boy, they then shut the guy in the one toilet bathroom, and kept him there till cops came... But even one more reason I am super careful when there is just one of my boys. I know it is a bit off the topic, but I still take my boys into the women's bathroom with me if I only have one, or wait outside the mens if it is just one toilet.. if they are together they go in and come out together period, and yes I have told them the real horror stories so they know why. Plus they hear it on the Radio....

    Kyron Horman was abducted in my state a couple years ago or so now, he would be the age of one of my boys.. FROM SCHOOL! that is where they last saw him. SO that is why I tell my kids.. not just stranger danger.. that doesn't work! But Don't go anywhere with anyone!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rivergallery View Post
    My boys always are outside together, we live quite rurally though at the end of a dead end and trust our neighbors even MORE than some family . They know NEVER to go anywhere with anyone unless they ask mom or dad period. At 9 and 10 now I don't worry that they will disobey the boundaries we have for them, and I do not worry that someone could abduct them while at home, in our neighborhood, it just would be virtually impossible with a husband with a rotating 4 on 4 off schedule one of us is always outside or with the hanger open etc. As far as walking to school (we homeschool) however, I would never ever let them walk to school alone period.. maybe in Highschool, but even then not if they were girls... And yes I would allow them to CC. if highschoolers. I would rather them drive. When I was 11 or so a friend of the family was abducted when walking to school, and killed on the beach in our little town. From then on my sister and I always asked before we left our property, and always went together if it was past our block. When walking to school or the store we always walked with friends or each other. I would do the same for my boys.

    Just a few months ago a boy and his father went into a Wendy's in the urban area in Oregon, and a convicted childmolestor pushed the 10yo into the bathroom, and locked it behind him, was stabbing him before the workers could get it open, and the dad could rescue his boy, they then shut the guy in the one toilet bathroom, and kept him there till cops came... But even one more reason I am super careful when there is just one of my boys. I know it is a bit off the topic, but I still take my boys into the women's bathroom with me if I only have one, or wait outside the mens if it is just one toilet.. if they are together they go in and come out together period, and yes I have told them the real horror stories so they know why. Plus they hear it on the Radio....

    Kyron Horman was abducted in my state a couple years ago or so now, he would be the age of one of my boys.. FROM SCHOOL! that is where they last saw him. SO that is why I tell my kids.. not just stranger danger.. that doesn't work! But Don't go anywhere with anyone!
    i don't think that was a stranger abduction.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rivergallery View Post
    When I was 11 or so a friend of the family was abducted when walking to school, and killed on the beach in our little town.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ethanwinfield View Post
    i don't think that was a stranger abduction.
    exactly my point. My kids are told never to go anywhere with anyone PERIOD, not grandparents, not friends, not neighbors, NO one but me or my dh.. if it was the stepmom, not sure they could have avoided it at all.. It is just so sad, and I want to protect the kids as much as possible. I told my preschoolers the same thing when I was their teacher.. If I came up to them in the store, and they had "lost their parent" should they come with me to get icecream.. they said yes.. all of them! I told them ABSOLUTELY NEVER. Stay where you are and call for your mom, or ask me to phone them with my cell phone, NEVER go anywhere with anyone unless you ask a parent.. And these days with cellphones, everyone should be able to be accessed pretty much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rivergallery View Post
    exactly my point. My kids are told never to go anywhere with anyone PERIOD, not grandparents, not friends, not neighbors, NO one but me or my dh.. if it was the stepmom, not sure they could have avoided it at all.. It is just so sad, and I want to protect the kids as much as possible. I told my preschoolers the same thing when I was their teacher.. If I came up to them in the store, and they had "lost their parent" should they come with me to get icecream.. they said yes.. all of them! I told them ABSOLUTELY NEVER. Stay where you are and call for your mom, or ask me to phone them with my cell phone, NEVER go anywhere with anyone unless you ask a parent.. And these days with cellphones, everyone should be able to be accessed pretty much.
    I tell this to my class every year.
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    When I was a kid we had a secret password in my family. The 4 of us knew it and my parents said that at anytime if I was at school and someone was there to pick me up that was not mom or dad (and it wasn't arranged ahead of time) that they would have the password. After 1 use it would change. It never got used but I think it's a great idea and one that I will share with my kids.

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    Jess- I know lots of families that may do that, however, I know most 4 year olds would tell a "trusted" adult their password in a flat minute. Adults are very sneaky, and smarter than children. That is why we never picked a password, though the local police dept still use that in their safety training for schools etc.
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    I guess that's true. My parents seemed to really lay out for me the importance of it and I never told anyone. Maybe wouldn't work for all families but it worked for ours.

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