Okay, here's a weird one. We have a sitter just for the summer, our regular sitter is back in the fall. (We're sharing with a neighbor across the street, which is working out well.) Our sitter has kids and grandkids, so she knows what she's doing and we're very happy with her. She's tougher than our regular 23-year-old, which makes sense, but I think it's good for the kids to have some variety and to have to kick their behavior up a notch. But I found out that she's having them say grace before meals. I assume it's them, it was Juliet who brought it up. So obviously it's not a terrible thing. She is doing what she thinks is right. Dave is a Christian (although he doesn't say grace before meals), and I am an atheist Jew, so of course I wasn't thrilled that she just took it up on herself to decide this was okay, but I also know that it's not harmful, and if the kids don't mind, I guess it's not a big deal. Or is it? If they DO mind, then there's no way they should be doing it, but I don't want to create trouble if there isn't any. If she was our permanent sitter I'd have a talk with her about it for sure, but now I am torn. It's very presumptuous, and that makes me unhappy. Dave is with me...not really sure what the right thing to do is. It makes me unhappy that she is doing this and yet she only has the best of intentions, and while I don't believe in (her) God, I don't think being grateful for your food is such a terrible thing. So I am at a loss. I guess I should try to talk to the kids about it. What would you do?
Okay, I finally spoke to Nathaniel about it. He said that yes, she has them say grace, but she asks them if they are going to, and they always say yes, and they do it silently!
I have zero issues with that.
I'm so glad I asked him before saying anything.
I asked him what he says silently and he said he'd like to keep that private, and I said fine.