So this isn't so much a debate but I would like to know your opinion on the situation.
To cut a long story short, when I was 21 me and a friend of mine had a falling out. We were part of a group of 5 girls and we were all extremely close. She fell out with me for missing another of my friend's 21st birthday parties.... but it was due to unforseen circumstances and tbh, I needed her.
For a good few years we never talked or even seen each other and I'd say it's only been the last 3 years that we started talking via facebook. She was living in London but moved back here in Sept or Oct as she was due her baby. We had talked about meeting up before the baby arrived and she was up for it, but then baby came and I never had her telephone number so it never happened.
I decided yesterday, that I would send her a bouquet of flowers and had it sent to her parents house where she is currently living. I wrote on the note, my number and asked her to call..... but I have heard nothing :(
I am so upset. I know she would have received them, but I don't want to contact her and be like "Hey! Did you get my flowers?" 1 incase she never and 2, sounding like I expect a thank you.
So, what would you do? How would you feel?
I know how you are feeling but I would give it more time. If it was just yesterday she may not have had the chance to call you. If after a few days you don't hear from her I would maybe send her a FB message saying you want to make sure she got the flowers that you sent etc.
I agree with this. If it just happened yesterday and she has a new baby, she may not get a chance to respond for a couple of days. If she hasn't responded in a few days, FB her as Jess said, and just say something along the lines of "wanted to make sure you received the flowers..." I hope she beats you to it and calls or writes in the next day or so, because that sounds like a very lovely gesture on your part.
Originally Posted by Jessica80
ITA with the others. Give it a couple of days especially since she's a new mom. You might have just caught her on a bad day or maybe a good baby-napping day & she's catching up on sleep! Maybe her cell phone is dead (with a new baby she might be using it a lot more & also more apt to forget to plug it in) & she doesn't want to make a long-distance call on her parents' phone. I'd say three days & then send her a message. I'd say something like, I wanted to make sure you got some flowers I sent the other day or I need to call the flower store & ensure they get delivered this time. Tweak your wording to make sure it's about her getting the gift and not about you wanting a call back or a lunch date, kwim?
I agree with the others. I was a wreck when Nathaniel was born and couldn't keep on top of anything. We were getting gifts from people I didn't even know, friends of my husband's parents, as well as people I did know, and I wasn't quick in responding as I was exhausted and overwhelmed, and unused to that sort of thing anyway. Give her some time.