This is totally a personal debate... I won't take offense!
I've got an almost 4 year old who won't eat vegetables or much fruit. The ONLY veggie he will eat is a raw carrot. As for fruit, he is a bit better and will eat oranges and sometimes a banana. He eats berries if they are in a smoothie. Oh and he doesn't eat potatoes, rice, couscous, or eggs either.... I'm sure there is more, but you get the idea.
Now, I know pickiness is common in kids. We went through it with my older two kids. The rule around here is to eat what you are served... I serve them very small portions and they are welcome to have seconds. Basically, they have to have a "no thank-you" helping. My oldest two kids are 5 and 6 and they eat without a problem now.
This kid though! He won't eat. And not only that, he doesn't just leave what he doesn't like, he screams and yells if there is so much as a single solitary pea on his plate and won't eat anything, even the stuff he does like. Frustrating.
So, my question. What is the best way to deal with this sort of problem? We've tried everything I can think of and it is beginning to be a real problem around here as we try to figure out how to deal with this.
Do you continue to fight and how? Or let them dictate what they eat? Cross your fingers and hope he outgrows this? Cater to his likes and have raw carrots every day? Do you considering eating what is served a necessary skill or is it fine to be picky?