I don't know if this can turn into a debate, anyway...
You make plans for a play date with another mom, let's say at Chuck E Cheese or at the park. Do you bring your spouse?
Sometimes, sometimes not. It happens with other mom's around here, too, so I think it's not a big deal.
Oh lord, as long as it's not Chuck E. Cheese. I'd like to get through my entire life without ever going there.
If you're not going to someone's house, bring who you want! If you're going to someone's house you should let them know who is coming.
Laurie, mom to:
Nathaniel ( 10 ) and Juliet ( 6 )
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If my spouse is home, we spend family time together. I wouldn't make a playdate on a day we were all home together.
My spouse would never willingly enter a Chuck E Cheese. LOL
I guess I need to know more about the situation. Is the other mom a friend of mine? Is she bringing her spouse? The short answer is probably not.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Basically, I have had two play dates with separate moms who brought their husbands and I it's a bit awkward if you ask me. The husbands always look bored and I know if I had a boyfriend or a spouse, I wouldn't bring them along unless we were all acquainted and friends and the guys could have a good time too.
I'll clarify a bit...generally playdates at houses are only between my good girlfriends, and we are all aware that it's an open invitation for spouses. Most other play dates are somewhere like the Early Years Center or the park, and obviously my husband is more than welcome in public spaces. He's a shift worker so he gets lots of full days off during the week and we like to get out and socialize together.
I think it really depends. In the examples you are giving, I would think it would be awkward. My husband hates to be included in play dates. He gets bored with all the mom talk. Having said that, there are some dads that come to playgroup who I would be happy to have along. One is a whole lot friendlier than his wife to chat with, and the other that I am thinking of comes with his wife, she chats and visits while he plays with the kids.
If it was at my house I would be very uncomfortable though. Especially if I didnt really know them well.
Did they know you are single? Maybe they are looking for new couple friends and figured if you liked the husband you would invite yours along next time. I am always on the lookout for new friends for my husband as almost all his friends are through work and i dont think that is healthy. I try to invite people for dinner or something more formal though to get the husbands together.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)