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    So one person posted her Hermes scarf. Another a photo of her with her iPad mini with a caption of "He really loves me!"
    (this same person posted a pic of her Frye boots along with original Frye certificate a little bit back with another similar caption recently)........My thought is "really? like it took some boots for you to know he loved you?"

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    Debate topic: Posting what you received for mothers day on FB on a potentially loaded day (for the single Moms, non moms, loss moms, moms with crappy husbands, etc).......super tacky or just a happy way to share your joy?

    I admit and acknowledge that much of FB is perhaps showing off ~ like, "oh I'm on vacation" or whatever (which I have done and do), but is it different when its a look at me and my super special gift thats all about me?

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    I think there are some people that feel loved through the giving of gifts. I read a book in college called "The five love languages" that talks about how some people feel loved through gifts, some through touch, some through acts of service, some through quality time, and some through words of affirmation. I really believe this is true. While I might feel love from my husband by him giving me a hug, someone else might feel love from their husband or child by the time and thought that went into giving a gift.

    As for posting on FB, I think it is similar to an April Fools debate we had recently on posting joke pg announcements. I do not think it is a reasonable expectation that FB is going to never post anything about their mother's on mother's day to save the feelings of those who do not have a living mother. I do not think it is any more insensitive to post about the great mother's day gifts you received that it is to post about the great mother you have and how thankful you are to have her.

    I also do not think it is different to say "Look at me, I am at the beach in this super expensive resort", than it is to say "Look at me, My DH bought me this great gift for mother's day". Neither one is more tacky than the other in my opinion.

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    I posted the poem my son wrote for me. It was a school assignment but it was awesome.

    The Mother's Day stuff has been intense for me as my mom died a few months ago...but I don't think it's inappropriate for anyone to post anything about it. I ended up posting a picture of my mom, actually. . .my sister did it and I thought it was nice.

    In general I think posting expensive gifts on FB is a little tacky but it's really about who your friends are and who can see it. So broadly, I think it's tacky on Facebook or anywhere else to brag about expensive gifts, but among friends (on FB or anywhere) to genuinely gush about something that thrilled you is fine.

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    I try not to do it. I did take a pic of myself in my new outfit this year and text it to a select group of people. I find it really funny that I always get a pink shirt, and lately a cardigan too. They do a pretty good job picking though. I also love that DD has started listening to things I say and trying to pick presents that she knows I want, and not just things she likes. So I really wanted to show off. On the other hand, I have a close friend who is having some legal issues and cant be with her kids right now. I know it is killing her and so didnt want to brag about being with my kids today as I know it must be a really hard day for her.

    So I guess I dont think these things belong on facebook, but I also feel you should know your audience. I try to keep my facebook 'friends' list paired down to people I actually communicate with, so I would think that I should know if it would be hurtful or not, however lots of people have hundreds of 'friends', so how would you know what is actually going on with all those people?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    So one person posted her Hermes scarf. Another a photo of her with her iPad mini with a caption of "He really loves me!"
    (this same person posted a pic of her Frye boots along with original Frye certificate a little bit back with another similar caption recently)........My thought is "really? like it took some boots for you to know he loved you?"

    Anyway.

    Debate topic: Posting what you received for mothers day on FB on a potentially loaded day (for the single Moms, non moms, loss moms, moms with crappy husbands, etc).......super tacky or just a happy way to share your joy?

    I admit and acknowledge that much of FB is perhaps showing off ~ like, "oh I'm on vacation" or whatever (which I have done and do), but is it different when its a look at me and my super special gift thats all about me?

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    I did it. I got tickets to the Prairie Home Companion from Seamus and i posted a picture of Cecilia gift to me because I told a funny story about it the other night. I was excited about going to the show. I see people post pics of tickets to shows and concerts or theme parks a lot. To me it's the equivalent of saying "I'm excited about going!" same with vacations.

    Other than that I don't do it much because it feels a little weird. I try not to post too many pictures of gift opening on holidays or special occasions either.. Maybe one or two tops.

    Really I think about when other people do it and it honestly depends on the person doing it... And how often they do it and if I already know them to out a lot of emphasis on material things.

    I think the comment you referenced was tacky.

    Also, the loaded thing... I don't really pay much attention to that. I think people should be able to celebrate things, within reason, without worrying about the people who don't. Everything one talks about in their life could potentially sting.
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    I think there are some people that feel loved through the giving of gifts. I read a book in college called "The five love languages" that talks about how some people feel loved through gifts, some through touch, some through acts of service, some through quality time, and some through words of affirmation. I really believe this is true. While I might feel love from my husband by him giving me a hug, someone else might feel love from their husband or child by the time and thought that went into giving a gift.

    As for posting on FB, I think it is similar to an April Fools debate we had recently on posting joke pg announcements. I do not think it is a reasonable expectation that FB is going to never post anything about their mother's on mother's day to save the feelings of those who do not have a living mother. I do not think it is any more insensitive to post about the great mother's day gifts you received that it is to post about the great mother you have and how thankful you are to have her.

    I also do not think it is different to say "Look at me, I am at the beach in this super.[ expensive resort", than it is to say "Look at me, My DH bought me this great gift for mother's day". Neither one is more tacky than the other in my opinion/QUOTE]
    I disagree with this ~ and not due to the insensitivity notion. I posted today about how I am grateful for the wonderful mothers who I am sharing this ride with, my Mom and MIL who I am grateful for, and my husband, who made me a Mom. I got gifts, too......but to post about my gifts would feel like bragging.

    I don't post photos of the christmas presents I receive. (or the ones that my kids get even. In fact, the photos that people post of a million presents under their tree make me slightly nauseous)..........same type idea. Like a "look how much we have" sort of thing.

    I had a friend recently who "checked in" at a ritz carlton resort, and it felt the same way to me. Did you share photos of you at Disney World, Bonita? Because to many, that is a super exclusive thing that many families could never afford. Did you feel that it was tacky of you?

    And Kim, I totally agree with you on the loaded thing. I can't tiptoe around everyones sense of hurt or loss or I could never really post anything about anything. A great meal could be an affront to someone with an eating disorder or someone with no money, a race I ran could be an affront to someone with no legs, (or me on crutches last summer), a post about my kids could hurt people with no kids.........so yes, we have to celebrate our joys within reason and I'm so with you on that.
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    I think it definitely depends on the person. Small things like an iced coffee can make my day and I might post that gift. I usually don't post what I get for my birthday or Christmas or Mother's Day. I'm not big on sharing those things because I do feel like it is bragging.

    If we go away I may post a few pics but mostly of the kids and I like to check in places because I'm lame and not showing off lol.

    I have work friends that post about getting Coach bags and buying each of their kids 40 presents at Christmas and that's just bragging to me especially in how they do it.
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    I think it depends on the post, frequency and the intent. Some people post a lot and it can be a bit much. A friend posted about 16 different pictures of her mom over the course of today. That was a bit much for me as I went through it all at the end of the day. But lots of people posted one or two and it was nice. Or people who posted the cards their kids made. I didn't actually see anyone post about gifts they received though. I could see the potential for bragging with that one, but that is life. Especially life on facebook.
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    [QUOTE=Potter75;9076298]

    I had a friend recently who "checked in" at a ritz carlton resort, and it felt the same way to me. Did you share photos of you at Disney World, Bonita? Because to many, that is a super exclusive thing that many families could never afford. Did you feel that it was tacky of you?
    No, I do not think posting vacation pictures is tacky. Neither do I think it is tacky to post a picture of a gift you are really excited about. If your intent was to be "Look at how much money I have!", that would be tacky. If your intent was to share pictures with people that you are close with of a life event, that is not tacky at all. Posting pictures on FB is the main way that I share pictures with my family. Most of my family lives in NY and DC. We only see them a few times a year, so that is how we stay in touch. Posting pictures of our family vacations is just sharing our lives with our friends and family.

    Almost all of my friends on FB are people that either I or DH know in real life. I think I only have 4 or 5 people on our friends list that are from the internet. Most are either family, from church, from college, or co workers of DH.
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    My favorite is when people post a picture of their tax return.
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