Potluck etiquette at a memorial service
An acquaintance of DH's passed away a couple of weeks ago and we just got the announcement about her memorial service. Along with the details about when & where, was this: "The celebration of [her] life will be followed by a potluck of finger foods. Please bring something to share."
DH is really squeamish about potlucks. I don't think I've ever seen him eat anything at one, even whatever I've brought if someone else got to it first. I know he probably won't eat anything at this one because he's also squeamish about finger foods. And we're vegetarian which always limits our options at potlucks, sometimes to only the food we bring.
I won't be going to the memorial due to prior plans with the kids. Would it be poor etiquette for him to hang out after the service to chat with others he hasn't seen in a long while, but not bring something to share since he won't eat anyway? What about bringing something to share but make sure he can serve himself first, like leave it in the car in a cooler until after the service?