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Robbie (8 )
Bailey (April 2, 2011)
"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss
Laurie, mom to:
Nathaniel ( 11 ) and Juliet ( 7 )
Baking Adventures In A Messy Kitchen (blog)
I have to say, at least before my mother had her mental breakdown, she did teach me to bake. We baked something almost daily starting from when I was really little.
I did learn my lesson though about ingredients when I was very young. My mother never labelled any jars/containers. Sugar, flour, salt, etc, were all in tupperware type containers. I remember I was making Kraft classic peanut butter cookies and I accidentally used 1 cup salt instead of 1 cup sugar! Now I taste my white crystal ingredients just in case!!
We grew up learning how to take care of ourselves. My mom raised us by herself and wanted us to be able to be independent. By 12 I could take care of the house and prepare all the meals. We didn't have to do it all ourselves, but she made sure we could. By the time I moved out I was able to deal with all of the financials and my schooling. I am very glad that she taught us all that she did.
Now I look at our kids. DSS (19) doesn't know how to do much. I think his mom tried to teach him but he resisted. He lives on noodles and take out and doesn't clean. It is a big part of why he no longer lives with us. He needs to learn that if you want to eat, you do have to cook! DSD (16) also resists having to cook or clean for herself. Her mom feels that it is an adults job to take care of the house and meals and children shouldn't have to. To this day she still makes DSD's lunches and cleans up after her. (Sigh) When I met DSD when she was 8 she wasn't allowed to use a knife or make herself any food at her moms. DH tried to teach her more but she always said she didn't have to cause her mom said so. I have disputed that for years and still have to fight the girl to help out a little. She can do it, but tries to choose not to. I keep insisting that she does have to help!
So with all of that we are choosing to teach Kaiya differently. I refuse to have a child who cannot or does not take care of herself! I insist that she helps to clean. I insist that she learns to dress herself. At 4 she can make herself a sandwich or get her own snack from the fridge (yay!). She wants to learn how to take care of herself so I am jumping on it now! I want to know that she will be able to rely on herself as she grows up. I don't want her living off noodles like her siblings. So as she grows her responsibilities will grow too.
Mom to Lee, Jake, Brandon, Rocco
Stepmom to Ryan, Regan, Braden, Baley
Granddaughters Kylie 10/18/2010 & Aleya 4/22/2013
I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson