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    Do you think doctors hold as much responsibility as parents/patients when it comes to non-emergency medical decisions?

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    I don't believe in just trusting doctors to give me the best medical advice. I always, always always research important things and find out as much as I can from webmd or something similar to find out as much as I can about something before trusting a doctor's decision. If the info I find conflicts with what I've been told by the doctor, I usually call or schedule an appt with another doctor before making a decision based on their advice.

    Is that normal or am I paranoid?

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    Me? I usually trust what the doctor says, prescribes, and tells me to do until I find that that advice is not working for me/my family. For example, if I go in for what feels like a sinus infection and the doc says, "Yep, that's what it looks like to me" and writes me an Rx for ABX, I'm not going to waste my time doing a bunch of WebMD browsing. BUT, if I take all the meds and the problem isn't solved, I'll start looking around the internet to check and see if the pills I was given are the abx of choice in fighting that kind of infection, what the dosage should be, how long one usually takes that Rx, and just to make sure, what the symptoms of a sinus infection are. If I find that my doc has been right on, which she usually is cuz she's awesome, I make another appt. to discuss the problem again. At that point she'll probably request some tests and/or send me to a specialist. I most certainly research the tests, mostly because I'm nosy though, not because I don't trust her.

    Now, if there is some unsolvable problem, like my mysterious gallbladder, that nobody can seem to figure out, you bet your a$$ I'm on the internet trying to figure it out for myself...which I did. I can read primary research publications with ease, so there's no problem with me feeling embarrassed to say, "Hey, I read such and such in the NEJM's latest issue. Here's a copy. Tell me what you think..."

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    I trust my doctor, but I also take charge of my treatment by asking questions as to why certain tests are being ordered, certain medications are being prescribed, etc. Working in the medical field, I notice most patients do not ask questions. They would come up to me and say, "Why is he/she ordering this blood test?" I'm not even close to being a doctor. I also feel like any god doctor will tell you to get a second opinion.

    If I am seeing the doc for something simple, I don't research. If It's something that I like to learn more about, I use Dr. Google. Dr. Google can be the devil sometimes, though.

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    Well I don't trust all doctors or any doctors, but I certainly do trust my doctors, having established relationships with them over time. My GP is the only weak link and with her I know that I just have to push for anything I think I need. She was fantastic about 8 or 9 years ago diagnosing my thyroid problem and it was dealt with quickly and painlessly, but when I was having gall bladder problems to the point that I had to be rushed to the ER twice, she was useless and I had to be extremely aggressive about getting an ultrasound. Once I did that (by refusing to leave the office until they did it) I got the proper diagnosis and was in surgery within a few days.

    So other than her. . .I don't really do research before taking their recommendations. I will ask them questions but I really do trust their judgment or they wouldn't be my doctors. This goes for my ob-gyn, my children's pediatrician, and my dentist (who I particularly love & trust and have been going to for many, many years).

    If I felt unsure of the information I was getting, I wouldn't use the internet as a back-up...I'd go see another doctor.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I was having gall bladder problems to the point that I had to be rushed to the ER twice, she was useless and I had to be extremely aggressive about getting an ultrasound. Once I did that (by refusing to leave the office until they did it) I got the proper diagnosis and was in surgery within a few days.
    I think "stomach" pain scares doctors. They don't want to spend the time to figure it out, so they call it GERD or IBS and try to send you on your way.

    If I felt unsure of the information I was getting, I wouldn't use the internet as a back-up...I'd go see another doctor.
    Oh, I can't tell you how many doctors I've seen about my stupid gall bladder, including numerous gastroenterologists. *I* finally figured out the problem one night when I was watching Mystery Diagnosis and there was a gal on there that had the exact symptoms that I had. I jumped on the internet to find out more and confirmed that I'd solved the mystery. Thank the stars that I had an appt. with a new Gastro that agreed with me and knew how to treat it. I want to send out a big "IN YOUR FACE!" to the arrogant ER doctor who laughed at my suggestion and said, "What? Did you find that on the internet?" Hahaha! I was right! Neener neener neener!

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    I will say that for breastfeeding info the internet ROCKS. Back in my nursing days I suddenly experienced this terrible pain and within a few minutes of web searching I had a diagnosis and a treatment. It was a blocked duct and I had it unblocked within an hour or so.

    But I have also typed symptoms into google or whatnot and gotten crazy diagnoses. It's a mixed bag, I guess.

    The gall bladder thing....the pain was so bad I couldn't breathe and had to be given oxygen the second time, and STILL they weren't pushing the ultrasound. So glad I insisted.

    But in general I listen to my doctors, I chose them for good reasons....except the bad GP, who I chose because of her office location! lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    But I have also typed symptoms into google or whatnot and gotten crazy diagnoses. It's a mixed bag, I guess.
    Well yeah, I suppose you have to be a bit discerning when you type in "Bad headaches" and some website tells you that you've got a brain tumor.

    The gall bladder thing....the pain was so bad I couldn't breathe and had to be given oxygen the second time, and STILL they weren't pushing the ultrasound. So glad I insisted.
    Ya know, that's really interesting because I kept getting ultrasounds ordered and I'd tell them every time that I didn't have gall stones the last 20 times they scanned my GB, so I probably wouldn't have them this week, but I guess they didn't trust the results or something. I dunno.

    But in general I listen to my doctors, I chose them for good reasons....except the bad GP, who I chose because of her office location! lol
    Oh man Laurie, just switch. I went to a wonderful OB one time who I loved, but he had this horrible nasty nurse. I was outta there. Nobody should have to deal with bad medical service.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great Vagina View Post
    Oh man Laurie, just switch. I went to a wonderful OB one time who I loved, but he had this horrible nasty nurse. I was outta there. Nobody should have to deal with bad medical service.
    I know, I know. But her office is a 5 minute walk from mine, and from Grand Central, so even when my job has been in a different location she's still insanely convenient. And around here they now CHARGE you to have your files copied and transferred to a new doctor, and it's a huge pain in the butt, and I already have such limited time. I have to go to my GP every three months to get my thyroid checked (just to keep me on the right dosage of medication) so I need it to be quick and not eat up much of my work day.

    She missed the gall bladder but she got everything else. (The ultrasound got mine on the first try, sorry that wasn't the case with you. The whole thing was a terrible, painful, and scary ordeal until that ultrasound came along and I got into surgery.)
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    I trust my Dr's/midwife/NP ~ Chose them for a reason. Of course if they tell me to do some weird voodoo stuff or whatnot I would research more. Generally they don't.

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