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    Default School dress code.....with a twist.

    Because it applies to parents!

    School Gives Dress Code to Parents Who Wear PJs for Drop-Off


    Most school dress codes are the same -- nothing overtly revealing, no gang symbols, and some even have uniforms. All these dress codes have one goal in common: to avoid distraction or allow anything harmful to interfere with our kids' day.

    But what if your child's school decided their dress code applied to parents, too? That you couldn't set foot at their school -- even just to stand outside your car waiting to pick your child up -- if you were wearing a tank top or pajama pants? Worse, what if they claimed they'd make your child find an alternate way home if you chose to wear something that didn't fit 'the code'?

    This is the reality for one school.

    The mom says the topic came up when she and a friend were discussing moms wearing pajama pants, and her friend showed her the handbook that says:

    We respectfully request that parents who drop off their children and pick them up from school follow all of the dress code expectations that students are expected to follow including the rule stating that pajamas are not to be worn.

    Whether you get all sparkled up in the morning or not, that's not the issue. I put on jeans to run to the store, but they're not comfortable so my yoga pants are back on as soon as I'm home. I am not, however, going to get fully dressed to drive to my son's school, where I may not even get out of the car, except maybe to help him untwist the seatbelt before we drive away. Call me lazy. I work from home; I get the luxury of being comfortable and not make extra laundry for myself by getting dressed to be outside my car for three seconds. And in the morning? Forget it. It's enough work getting my son up and ready for school on time, while keeping my daughter out of trouble.

    But I digress ... the school's handbook apparently further states:

    If a parent does not follow the dress code guidelines, we will request that the child find another means of transportation to school.

    "Just pull on some jeans, you slob!" isn't the answer. This is a public school, by the way. It's one thing to require a dress code for kids, but for parents? Yeah, not so much. Kids follow the rules because they attend that school and go inside all day. My jammie pants won't interfere with learning, I promise. Maybe if I were in a lacy nightie, sure! I promise if I showed up in protest wearing my Homer Simpson zombie pants, fuzzy bunny slippers and a tank top, I'd likely have less negative effect than the parents who constantly talk on their phones, cuss, or smoke next to their car with their kids around. There's a hell of a lot things worse than parents in PJs at school pick-up lines. Rock on, jammied moms.

    Do you think parents should have to adhere to the dress code set for children?
    What do you think? Overstepping their bounds? THANK GOD, people who wear PJ's in public are weird? Who cares? Good idea or bad idea on part of this school?

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    I dont see that they have leg to stand on as far as enforcing this.

    I dont like the idea at all anyways. Dress codes at school help foster a learning environment that is conducive to learning. Some kids mom that is wearing her sponge bob lounge pants in probably not going to be helping in the classroom at that time anyways so she will not be a distraction. I think asking parents to abide by the dress code if they are helping in the classroom is a great idea, but not just for pickup or drop off.

    I teach at a private school where the parents have to come in and sign their child in and out, I think the closest I have ever seen to pajamas are workout gear on the moms that are heading out to the gym that is right across the street from the school.
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    Ditto Lisa.

    I'm most definitely going to be the mom who drops off and possibly picks up in my lounge pants. They're comfy. And my school is literally a block away. I can throw a rock at it. I'd be gunning against that rule for sure. It's none of the school's business what I wear.
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    My first question is: As a public school, are they allowed to make whatever dress code policy they want for that school? If so, then I suppose the parents have to abide by it. However, they can protest it to try and get the policy changed.

    Also, can it only be enforced if the parent actually gets out of the vehicle? Or do they have to walk inside the school? Or does it apply if they simply come onto the property, whether they're inside a vehicle or not?

    It seems silly to me to try and enforce it for the ones who are just dropping off at the door. I would think it would only apply if they were entering the school. Not that I personally would wear pj's while taking my kid to school, but that's just me. I wouldn't even wear pj's to take my niece down to the bus stop when I was taking care of my brother's kids for several days while they were out of town. And I had to get my then one-year-old niece bundled up to take her down there with me, too (it was during the winter). I felt I needed to look at least halfway presentable, since her (my older niece)'s friends would see me standing there with her when she got on the bus. I didn't want to embarrass her.

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    I don't think that parents should be dropping kids off except in very special circumstances (doctor's appointments) but if they do, it should not matter what they wear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blather View Post
    I don't think that parents should be dropping kids off except in very special circumstances (doctor's appointments) but if they do, it should not matter what they wear.
    This confuses me. Could you please elaborate? Do you not think they should not walk/drive their kids to school at all? In our district, for a long time they had open enrollment, so you could enroll your child in any school as long as you could get them there and pick them up. The district wont pay for busing. This ended 2 years ago, but you can still tell the good schools by the lineup of cars out front for drop off and pick up. They also never close the schools here, so they still have classes when it is -50. I would not let my children walk even a few blocks in that.

    Now, if you are saying that students should walk to their local school when the weather is appropriate, I would have to agree. However, I will still be walking with my kids until they are at least grade 2 or 3, so therefore dropping them off. I do think the epidemic of parents driving their kids a few blocks every morning is a little silly though.

    To the OP, it does not seem like this school IS enforcing the rule as the woman who wrote it was standing in front of the school talking about the parents who pick up in their PJs and then they had to look up the rule in the handbook. They never actually saw or heard of it being enforced.

    I would personally never wear it out, but I dont see a problem with pajama pants and a tank top, however, those are not the only pajamas out there. Who knows, maybe this school had a problem a few years ago with a mother picking up a kindy (at the door pickup) in very skimpy clothing and pajamas and decided to get a rule on the books to prevent it in the future. I dont have a problem with the rule as long as they arent being stupid about enforcement.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blather View Post
    I don't think that parents should be dropping kids off except in very special circumstances (doctor's appointments) but if they do, it should not matter what they wear.
    at all???
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    Quote Originally Posted by blather View Post
    I don't think that parents should be dropping kids off except in very special circumstances (doctor's appointments) but if they do, it should not matter what they wear.
    I'm not sure I understand this. Please clarify. Do you mean they shouldn't drop them off at the classroom? Or at the door? Why would you have a problem with them being dropped off?

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    hahahaha, and away we go. Blather you pot stirrer, lol.

    I think they are fine havign this in the dress code. It allows them to use such a policy if a parent is very inappropriate in their dress. All the article states is that it is in the code, not that the school actually enforces it. I'm sure when you parent dropping their kid off in a bikini top or short shorts with a bra top (and it has been done, ask my mother the school officer) you wuld be glad their was a policy in place for the school to handle such a situation. I have a hard time thinking that the school has made parents leave because they were in yoga pants. Again another instance of parents being PITAs at school.

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    If they don't want bikini tops or short shorts, they should list those instead of pants that cover the whole leg. It's fabric discrimination.
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