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    Should schools be able to spank/paddle kids with their parents' approval? Is there an age that kids are too old to be spanked or paddled? Should only same sex teachers be able to spank/paddle the kids?

    Here is the article that sparked my thought process:
    Taylor Santos, Texas High School Student, Left 'Burned And Blistered' After Male Vice Principal Spanked Her (VIDEO)


    If this was your kid and you okay'ed the spanking, would you be upset afterwards if they were spanked by the opposite sex teacher and spanked harder than you wanted?
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    If I ok'd it I dont think I would be upset, or at least have grounds to be upset. I would not have ok'd though.

    We do spank, on occasion. We have some basic guidelines in our house on why and when spankings are acceptable and then they are only given by us.
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    If you have given the OK then you can't be upset by it.

    The problem with this IMO is that some teachers would abuse being able to spank. Some may be harsher than others too, so it would end up being a disaster if it was brought in here.

    I do think something needs to be done in schools to deter the awful behaviour shown by some students. What? I haven't a clue.

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    I almost posted that article too but forgot about it.

    I don't think she has much to say. She gave the thumbs up.

    We don't spank but even if I did I would never give anyone else the permission to touch my child.

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    We do believe in spanking, but only if nothing else is working. I would not want anyone other than DH or myself to spank our children. I do think that if someone went clearly over and beyond that the parent has a right to go to the school. Just like if a parent's spankings went over and beyond, CPS will look into that. IMO, there is a difference between a normal spanking and beating the pulp out of someone. Consenting to spanking (which I would not do), is different that consenting to beating someone excessively. IMO, if it is hard enough to leave a bruise, it is too hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    Consenting to spanking (which I would not do), is different that consenting to beating someone excessively. IMO, if it is hard enough to leave a bruise, it is too hard.
    Bonita, I do agree with this. I'm sure when the mom okay'ed it, she wasn't picturing her daughter getting hit so hard it left bruises. I think she used the word "swat" which was probably what she was picturing. Having said that, I think as a parent you also have to understand that if you okay someone to spank or paddle your kid, they may do it harder or lighter than you personally would. I don't know. I'm probably not the best source on it since we don't spank anyway, and I wouldn't let someone else spank my kid either.

    Honest question, because I don't spank. For those of you who do, at what age did you or do you plan to stop spanking? Like when are kids too old to spank? The girl in the article was 15, which seems to me like way too old, but I don't know what "the norm" is.
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    I can't imagine thinking it's okay for a teacher (vice principal, whatever) to spank a 15-year-old girl. It seems incredibly inappropriate to me no matter what your feelings are on spanking in general. Yeesh.

    Honestly, I also can't imagine giving permission to another adult to spank my child. We don't spank, but I think even if you do, it seems very weird to me to allow someone else to do it. I can't really fathom it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post

    Honest question, because I don't spank. For those of you who do, at what age did you or do you plan to stop spanking? Like when are kids too old to spank? The girl in the article was 15, which seems to me like way too old, but I don't know what "the norm" is.
    I am not sure. I think at age 15 there are other more effective ways to discipline. I would guess as a result of this that school will change policies. I do not think that a parents right to spank should be taken away. Sometimes it is the best way to salve the situation. However, in a school setting, I do not think it is a good idea. There is too much that could go wrong. In the school that my daughter used to go to, what they did is if there was a discipline issue they called the parents to the school in the middle of the day (major pain for the parents) and had the parents take the child home and discipline them. I would rather this then have the school spank my child.

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    I don't know. Jason's preschool teacher uses timeouts but I think I'd trust her to know when it
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    as acceptable and when it wasn't. She would be one of the few people besides their grandparents I'd allow to spank them. I think 10 would be my cutoff for spankings. I didn't get any after age 5 but I was pretty well behaved. There is no way in hell I'd allow anyone to spank them at 15 including my husband.

    eta-I'd be majorly pissed if a man spanked my teenage daughter. There is absolutely nothing OK about that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wlillie View Post
    eta-I'd be majorly pissed if a man spanked my teenage daughter. There is absolutely nothing OK about that.
    Yeah - I'm not saying that it was definitely sexual for him, but the idea of a grown man paddling a 15 year old girl seriously grosses me out.
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