Schools dispensing birth control and Plan B

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Schools dispensing birth control and Plan B

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Would you allow the school to give your kid's a medication like that? Do you think this is a good idea?

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I think it's a good thing. As long as they are verifying with the parents in more ways than 1, I like the easy access to birth control. While I'm pro-life, I don't think Plan B actually kills a baby, so I'm also glad they have easy access to it. I do wonder if they follow up wiht the girl after giving her the Plan B to make sure she's OK though.

eta-I would opt out because I'd want a doctor to prescribe birth control my child was on, but for those who are too poor to take off work or to pay for the medication, I think this is a good practice.

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Over all, I am not in support of someone else making decisions about my child. Whether it be spanking or passing out Birth Control without my knowledge. Oral BC requires a rx and should not be given out without parental consent. If the parents signed a consent form, then I would guess they could pass it out, but I would never sign that consent.

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I think it's great because the better access to birth control, the fewer unwanted pregnancies there will be to deal with, and that IMHO is never a bad thing. And, in many states, parents don't need to give permission or even be notified of a teenager's sexual health decisions so I have no problem with it being done at school; it's not just handed out like candy in the cafeteria, it's prescribed by a nurse, which is who would probably be prescribing it at the teen clinic or Planned Parenthood anyway. And it saves the kids a trip to the doctor that they would have to find transportation & money to do.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

Over all, I am not in support of someone else making decisions about my child.

This is not someone else making decisions about your child. It's your child making her own decision about her own reproductive rights & responsibilities.

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I would at least want to know it is a possibility only so I know what to look out for but rx birth control and plan b don't really bother me. I would at least know my daughter(s) were getting appropriate options to them.

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This is not someone else making decisions about your child. It's your child making her own decision about her own reproductive rights & responsibilities.

Then that would be the only thing about her health someone else was allowed to be a part of without your consent. You can't clip a kids toenails or cut their hair or pierce their ears without their parent's permission. It's silly to think reproductive "rights & repsonsibilities" should be less protected than any ohter medical decision.

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crap. I read it wrong. I thought this was opt-in and it's opt-out. I think it should be opt-in.

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"wlillie" wrote:

Then that would be the only thing about her health someone else was allowed to be a part of without your consent. You can't clip a kids toenails or cut their hair or pierce their ears without their parent's permission. It's silly to think reproductive "rights & repsonsibilities" should be less protected than any ohter medical decision.

I personally don't want to go back to the days when a parent could force a daughter to have an abortion she didn't want, or when parents could sterilize a disabled child without that child's permission or when a parent could prevent a daughter from taking birth control pills if it violated their beliefs. Parents have a long time to instill their beliefs in their children. When or if a "child" (and we aren't talking about little kids, we're talking about teenagers) becomes sexually active, or wants to be, then he or she *IS* taking over the rights & responsibilities of his or her own body and his or her own beliefs about reproduction need to supercede those of the parents.

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I personally don't want to go back to the days when a parent could force a daughter to have an abortion she didn't want, or when parents could sterilize a disabled child without that child's permission or when a parent could prevent a daughter from taking birth control pills if it violated their beliefs. Parents have a long time to instill their beliefs in their children. When or if a "child" (and we aren't talking about little kids, we're talking about teenagers) becomes sexually active, or wants to be, then he or she *IS* taking over the rights & responsibilities of his or her own body and his or her own beliefs about reproduction need to supercede those of the parents.

Teenagers are still a "child" until they turn 18 (19 in Nebraska) or do the paperwork to be emancipated. I'm the parent and I'm the one who has to deal with an accidental pregnancy because my teenager didn't thoroughly understand the directions given by the nurse about antibiotics/bcps. I'm the parent and I'm the one who has to deal with the aftermath emotionally from an abortion. I'm the parent and I'm the one who has to deal wiht a *CHILD* who has questions. I'd much rather know my kid is sexually active and be given the choice to prevent a pregnancy or worse than find out that my *CHILD* was given bcp by a nurse at their school and thought my child understood safe sex.

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I would not opt in on this one. I fully plan on getting my children bc when they think they are ready for sex, but I do not want my child to think the pill or plan b is sufficient bc. If they are going to be sexually active then I want them to know all the ways they could get STDs and not have the false sense of security that the pill can give them.

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I would not opt in on this one. I fully plan on getting my children bc when they think they are ready for sex, but I do not want my child to think the pill or plan b is sufficient bc. If they are going to be sexually active then I want them to know all the ways they could get STDs and not have the false sense of security that the pill can give them.

Any decent nurse would do this as well. Personally though I do agree with being able as the mom to arm them with this information. However, I would have done this well before they are 14.

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"Spacers" wrote:

This is not someone else making decisions about your child. It's your child making her own decision about her own reproductive rights & responsibilities.

I am legally responsible for my children until they are 18. If a child can not sign a paper until they are 18, you had better not give my child a prescription medication before they are 18 whether or not they want it.

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"Jessica80" wrote:

Any decent nurse would do this as well. Personally though I do agree with being able as the mom to arm them with this information. However, I would have done this well before they are 14.

Mine is 12, we are already talking about it. I think schools need to stop doing the jobs that parents are supposed to do

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Mine is 12, we are already talking about it. I think schools need to stop doing the jobs that parents are supposed to do

In an ideal world all parents would talk to their children. It's not an ideal world and many girls (and boys) do not get the conversation and education they need from their parents. Parents who think it is evil, unnecessary, don't have the time, don't make the time etc. There are also many parents who think they have the right info and they do not. Many kids do not have "safe" places to go and "safe" parents to ask them for help in protecting them. This benefits them. It benefits us as a society as well to allow young women to obtain birth control and not have an unintended pregnancy because they don't want to have that conversation with their parent(s) or caregivers.

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It is not yours or anyone else decision how someone raises their child. If a child is not being abused, you can not make a person parent their child in a certain way. You can't have it both ways. You can not have separation of church and state and say that no one can teach religion in school, and then at the same time take something that is against many people's religion and force you to let them give it to your child without their consent.

I hear on debates all the time that are for Freedom of Religion, that school is for education not for forcing your views onto others. Why does that only apply to conservative views?

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This is not religiously based and it helps prevent things like teenage pregnancy and in turn helps abortion rates go down (do you not think this is okay?)

They are not forcing these girls to go on BC they are offering it. If your daughter is old enough to have sex without consulting you she is old enough to decide if she wants BC. I think advising you that this could happen and allowing you to opt out is your option keeps your religious choice intact.

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As I already said, If the parents are given the choice to opt out of it, then I guess that it is ok. My response was in regards to the response to someone saying that the schools should get out of what is the parents job.

I do not think someone under the age of 18 is old enough to be having sex. I understand it could happen anyway and I will talk to my children about that when I think the time is right, but I want to be the ones who talk to them.

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It's a hard one. Yes it's promoting safe sex but is it also promoting sex in general? Then again, safe sex is better.

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