Seek "fountain of youth" or "age naturally"

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MissyJ's picture
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Seek "fountain of youth" or "age naturally"

As you grow into your "golden years" do you anticipate doing so by doing whatever is possible to stay looking "young" or by allowing your body to age naturally.

This is *not* focused on doing what you can to stay *healthy* through healthy eating habits, exercise, and staying active/engaged in life. Instead, it is centered on whether you think you may seek cosmetic or possible surgical means to maintain your "youthful" appearance or not.

Are there some things that you may consider and others that (right now) you answer resounding "no way!"?

Examples to consider:

  • Various cosmetics marketed towards those "aging" with promises to remove wrinkles, add "glow", etc.
  • Hair dye
  • Face lift(s) or other cosmetic type surgeries.

Do you think those that shun those type of products and services are looked down upon today for looking their age?

Joined: 08/17/04
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I don't plan to do any cosmetic surgery as it doesn't align with my feelings on growing old. I will do cosmetic things though. I already dye my hair to make it more vibrant and I use moisturizer with alpha hydroxy in it. I'll continue to by things to help me out but nothing that involves surgery.

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I remember being like 28 and being at work and hearing that an older colleague had gotten a boob job. I was all "feminist outraged". My boss, who I was very close with, laughed at me in a conversation on the matter. He pointed out that I was 28, had firm skin, had not born and nursed children, had nary a wrinkle, and was going to part of a generation of financially successful working women who could afford to transform themselves in ways which suited them if they so pleased. He told me that in 20 years I would be laughing at my 28 year old self. I remember his words really stinging at the time, and I remember feeling a little bit self righteously smug about proving him wrong.

At 36, I'm already admitting that he is right. I live in a land of surgically altered women, of botox (and hair dying? I don't even think of that as age fighting, most people I know start doing that at like 20, not as an age thing, just as a preference thing. I don't dye mine anymore, but I did for years.) I don't do any wrinkle stuff (i'm too cheap and don't believe that the results are proven) but won't rule anything out. Vanity is nothing more than a spectrum. If a push up bra is fine to one person, a boob job is fine to another, wrinkle cream to one person, botox to another, spanx to one, lipo to another.......whatever. If you can afford it and be normal about it (i.e not give yourself lips that look like they might explode or breasts that will make you fall over......) please yourself.

I think that growing old is something that we all have a lot of theories on.......until we actually do it Smile I'm keeping my options open.

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That's true but I'm not anti plastic surgery for others (unless...like you said that your lips are exploding because that's just awful for others to look at) I just know I wouldn't get it done for myself. I don't live in an area where this is common so I won't stick out.

Although, lately the thought of lipo does sound tempting Wink

I do think it is hard to have absolutes on everything. I think of the things I said when I was 28 and that was only 4 years ago and how idiotic they sound now but there are just some things I think you know. It's sort of like if you want kids or you don't. I just don't want to have plastic surgery for cosmetic purposes.

Joined: 12/10/05
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I used to have all sort of wonderful ideological ideas on aging... I would NEVER get plastic surgery, I would go grey naturally, embrace wrinkles, yadda, yadda...

But, I have to admit that now, at the ripe old age of 30 Smile , my tune has changed.

Most of it has less to do with aging and more to do with the changes brought on by pregnancy and breast feeding. And the things that I would like to change aren't an attempt to look like super model or someone way younger than myself. I would like my boobs to be smaller... and less saggy. I would like my stomach to not be stretched so much that it is twice itself original surface area. Whether or not I ever go ahead with surgery, I don't know. But, I certainly wouldn't judge someone for it.

I will say that I've got a couple grey hairs and they really, really bother me... I don't want to be old...

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Jess I agree that it is impossible to have absolutes on everything. I think that is it totally possible to have absolutes on some things, however.

FTR, if you are going to go anti absolute in one direction don't break a resolution in the lipo direction, that crap don't work, has unacceptab;e death rates, and it will just come back Smile

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True on that lady. I won't I promise

But heck to the grey hairs. I will never grow old that naturally. *That* is not me Wink

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UGHHH Grey hairs.

I have very dark hair and i have been turning grey very early which makes me unhappy. I have a lot of grey for my age (can't imagine why) and part of me is really skeptical that I will be able to just 'go grey' and be happy about it. I have gotten a color gel done once on my hair, which doesn't take away the grey completely, just makes them harder to notice and I kind of liked it.

I don't like the cost of dying my hair AT ALL. I don't like the thought of putting chemicals in my hair because I just never have (stronger chemicals than shampoo and conditioner that is)....and i hate the idea of committing to dying my hair because that means some day i will probably want to stop. And i think that transition can be really weird.

I don't know what i'm going to do....ugh First World Problems.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

UGHHH Grey hairs.

I have very dark hair and i have been turning grey very early which makes me unhappy. I have a lot of grey for my age (can't imagine why) and part of me is really skeptical that I will be able to just 'go grey' and be happy about it. I have gotten a color gel done once on my hair, which doesn't take away the grey completely, just makes them harder to notice and I kind of liked it.

I don't like the cost of dying my hair AT ALL. I don't like the thought of putting chemicals in my hair because I just never have (stronger chemicals than shampoo and conditioner that is)....and i hate the idea of committing to dying my hair because that means some day i will probably want to stop. And i think that transition can be really weird.

I don't know what i'm going to do....ugh First World Problems.

Isn't that the truth. The rest of the world is just happy to live long enough to be old.

(my DH is thrilled to be going grey... Every single male in his family is bald and his younger brother is thinning fast... He will happily take a head of grey over nothing at all).

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I'm growing old gracefully. I don't think tight, shiny skin & artificially-colored hair look good on anyone of any age, but they are particularly ridiculous on people whose necks & chests & arms & legs give them away as being older. I have some grey hairs scattered throughout my hair, and they don't usually bother me. There are a couple around my face that I pluck because they are wirey & curly and they literally poke out & drive me batty. Wrinkles don't bother me, but I've also taken good care of my skin (don't wear makeup, always wear SFP) so I'm not getting too many. I'm not really happy with my breasts but that has nothing to do with aging or breastfeeding; I inherited massive breasts and I'm not as fond of them as I used to be. Right now, I prefer to invest in high-quality undergarments over a breast reduction & lift, but I'm not ruling it out at some point.

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I want to answer this that I will age gracefully-- that I will do the things that will allow me to age in a healthy way and not look older than my years. Though, I won't rule anything out. As a strawberry blonde, I'm lucky that my grays hide really well in my hair and are barely noticeable (though I do pluck out the obvious ones at this point....)

And I used to be so confident in my body, and still try to embody that for my girls. I truly struggle with hating my saggy, post-baby skin (well, it was saggy after 4 kids, so I'm guessing it will only be worse after this babe arrives....) and embracing it as the awesomeness of my body to grow and nurture babies. *sigh*

I can't imagine that I'll ever go to great lengths to preserve my youth-- but time will tell. Luckily I'm in a culture where au naturale is more the norm than altered physiques-- and people tend to value fitness and health more than beauty and youth-- let's hope that trend continues here in Colorado. Wink

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I think there is a stage for everyone that it bothers them. For me it was at about 40. Now 8 years later I have just accepted it and it isn't that big of an issue anymore.

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Kim, have you ever tried Henna? It's a plant product, completely natural, and it's an excellent conditioner, too!

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I used to be very anti-ageing techniques. I would get all feminist and righteous about it. "A woman is beautiful at any age!" And while I do still believe that I was also horrified to find grey hairs (and removed them promptly! lol) and ponder hair dye. I also have fond thoughts of medical techniques to remove my c-section tummy. I am not sure if I will ever do these things, but I am certainly more open and understanding about it.

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I'm starting to get a few grays - mostly at the corners of my forehead and temples (aren't men supposed to gray like that?) and because my hair's almost black they're quite noticeable. I'm thinking about colouring, not for the gray coverage but because my hair has less lustre than it used to. Just looks dry and blah these days.

Face lift? No way. But, I'm not against Juvederm. I've seen some fantastic results with that. Lipo - couldn'tdo it. I'd have to get pretty overweight before I'd ever go there.

I have quite a bit to improve upon under my own steam before I'd consider any type of surgical improvement.

I have had terrible spider veins and a few varicose veins for decades (hereditary), and I've had those injected. It's totally cosmetic, so yeah I guess I have done at least one thing in the name of vanity. I also had braces in my 30's so I could have perfectly straight teeth, which I do now.

When I turned 40 last year it seemed as though my warranty was up on lots of things - needed reading glasses, got my first cavity, way slower metabolism. Like, you think you can just take in as many calories with the same activity level, but nope!

I'm not against minimally invasive cosmetic procedures.