As you grow into your "golden years" do you anticipate doing so by doing whatever is possible to stay looking "young" or by allowing your body to age naturally.
This is *not* focused on doing what you can to stay *healthy* through healthy eating habits, exercise, and staying active/engaged in life. Instead, it is centered on whether you think you may seek cosmetic or possible surgical means to maintain your "youthful" appearance or not.
Are there some things that you may consider and others that (right now) you answer resounding "no way!"?
Examples to consider:
Do you think those that shun those type of products and services are looked down upon today for looking their age?
- Various cosmetics marketed towards those "aging" with promises to remove wrinkles, add "glow", etc.
- Hair dye
- Face lift(s) or other cosmetic type surgeries.
I don't plan to do any cosmetic surgery as it doesn't align with my feelings on growing old. I will do cosmetic things though. I already dye my hair to make it more vibrant and I use moisturizer with alpha hydroxy in it. I'll continue to by things to help me out but nothing that involves surgery.
Mom to E and C
I remember being like 28 and being at work and hearing that an older colleague had gotten a boob job. I was all "feminist outraged". My boss, who I was very close with, laughed at me in a conversation on the matter. He pointed out that I was 28, had firm skin, had not born and nursed children, had nary a wrinkle, and was going to part of a generation of financially successful working women who could afford to transform themselves in ways which suited them if they so pleased. He told me that in 20 years I would be laughing at my 28 year old self. I remember his words really stinging at the time, and I remember feeling a little bit self righteously smug about proving him wrong.
At 36, I'm already admitting that he is right. I live in a land of surgically altered women, of botox (and hair dying? I don't even think of that as age fighting, most people I know start doing that at like 20, not as an age thing, just as a preference thing. I don't dye mine anymore, but I did for years.) I don't do any wrinkle stuff (i'm too cheap and don't believe that the results are proven) but won't rule anything out. Vanity is nothing more than a spectrum. If a push up bra is fine to one person, a boob job is fine to another, wrinkle cream to one person, botox to another, spanx to one, lipo to another.......whatever. If you can afford it and be normal about it (i.e not give yourself lips that look like they might explode or breasts that will make you fall over......) please yourself.
I think that growing old is something that we all have a lot of theories on.......until we actually do it I'm keeping my options open.
That's true but I'm not anti plastic surgery for others (unless...like you said that your lips are exploding because that's just awful for others to look at) I just know I wouldn't get it done for myself. I don't live in an area where this is common so I won't stick out.
Although, lately the thought of lipo does sound tempting
I do think it is hard to have absolutes on everything. I think of the things I said when I was 28 and that was only 4 years ago and how idiotic they sound now but there are just some things I think you know. It's sort of like if you want kids or you don't. I just don't want to have plastic surgery for cosmetic purposes.
Mom to E and C
I used to have all sort of wonderful ideological ideas on aging... I would NEVER get plastic surgery, I would go grey naturally, embrace wrinkles, yadda, yadda...
But, I have to admit that now, at the ripe old age of 30 , my tune has changed.
Most of it has less to do with aging and more to do with the changes brought on by pregnancy and breast feeding. And the things that I would like to change aren't an attempt to look like super model or someone way younger than myself. I would like my boobs to be smaller... and less saggy. I would like my stomach to not be stretched so much that it is twice itself original surface area. Whether or not I ever go ahead with surgery, I don't know. But, I certainly wouldn't judge someone for it.
I will say that I've got a couple grey hairs and they really, really bother me... I don't want to be old...
Jess I agree that it is impossible to have absolutes on everything. I think that is it totally possible to have absolutes on some things, however.
FTR, if you are going to go anti absolute in one direction don't break a resolution in the lipo direction, that crap don't work, has unacceptab;e death rates, and it will just come back
True on that lady. I won't I promise
But heck to the grey hairs. I will never grow old that naturally. *That* is not me
Mom to E and C
UGHHH Grey hairs.
I have very dark hair and i have been turning grey very early which makes me unhappy. I have a lot of grey for my age (can't imagine why) and part of me is really skeptical that I will be able to just 'go grey' and be happy about it. I have gotten a color gel done once on my hair, which doesn't take away the grey completely, just makes them harder to notice and I kind of liked it.
I don't like the cost of dying my hair AT ALL. I don't like the thought of putting chemicals in my hair because I just never have (stronger chemicals than shampoo and conditioner that is)....and i hate the idea of committing to dying my hair because that means some day i will probably want to stop. And i think that transition can be really weird.
I don't know what i'm going to do....ugh First World Problems.
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(my DH is thrilled to be going grey... Every single male in his family is bald and his younger brother is thinning fast... He will happily take a head of grey over nothing at all).
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I'm growing old gracefully. I don't think tight, shiny skin & artificially-colored hair look good on anyone of any age, but they are particularly ridiculous on people whose necks & chests & arms & legs give them away as being older. I have some grey hairs scattered throughout my hair, and they don't usually bother me. There are a couple around my face that I pluck because they are wirey & curly and they literally poke out & drive me batty. Wrinkles don't bother me, but I've also taken good care of my skin (don't wear makeup, always wear SFP) so I'm not getting too many. I'm not really happy with my breasts but that has nothing to do with aging or breastfeeding; I inherited massive breasts and I'm not as fond of them as I used to be. Right now, I prefer to invest in high-quality undergarments over a breast reduction & lift, but I'm not ruling it out at some point.
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