soooo this is a personal debate but im torn on the subject
scenario: I have a 7yo son & 5yo son, neighbor kids are 7, 5 and 3. I take their 7yo to and from school everyday to make their lives easier since im going there anyway. my 7yo was invited to the 7yo birthday sleep over party but my 5yo was NOT invited and it was made perfectly clear to me that she didnt want him there, when I asked her why not she said "he just isnt invited" the problem I have is the kids talk, I dont think its fair that the three boys play together all the time, its good enough for them to play together but he isnt invited to their birthday party? Literally a flight of stairs away? The kid likes Ethan just as well as he likes Elliott. She said "oh well, we could sing the birthday song together the next day if you really want to"...
It came up again today that DS1 was RSVP'd for coming and I replied that I needed to talk to DH that while its unfair that DS1 has to miss out on a party I also think its unfair that DS2 has to knowingly miss out on the party and then hear about it Monday morning on the carride to school..
question is: do you let DS1 go to the party and DS2 miss out or make neither of them go? the mom is adamant that she doesnt want DS2 there. All their children were invited to my DS1/2 birthday parties if it matters and my kids have been invited to their 5yo and 3yo birthday parties in the past too. DH thinks maybe we can take and do something special with DS2... maybe its just one of those "life isnt fair" gigs but i wouldnt ask her kids not to come and spend the night if rolls were reversed, especially considering were in the same building and they play together, they are always included, exc. and it isnt like DS2 is a handful, hes the most laid back of the three.